Understanding.

@Erynn14 (357)
Malaysia
October 10, 2012 2:13am CST
Well, actually, I'm kinda have a feeling that parents didn't really go and understand their children when they go through different life which the children now have lots of things that they do not own like their old time. Some parents have a traditional mindset with their generation and they use those mindset to teach the new generation on things that probably not what parents which have newer generation did. Well, I got that, my parents always prove me wrong in anything. No matter what I did, and what I say, they only prove me wrong and think that my opinion are childish that they do not want to listen to it. Probably for example like, I told them about the jokes I make fun on my friends which we both thinks that it was really a joke and laugh our head off. But when I told my parents, they will kinda scold me and ask me not to do that again which for them it is very rude. Come on, it was just a joke! I feel like all the things I told them will always be a wrong thing for them. That is why I chose not to tell them, but probably somehow show them what I feel. Every single time I got angry and they do not know the reason, they never go and try to find out the reason why I was angry but only know to scold me for not knowing the reason why I'm angry. Even sometimes, they say they care for me. They wanted to know what I'm thinking but I never wanted to told them! I was like, what am I suppose to do? They didn't try hard to do something to understand me instead, I need to tell them what I felt. That is kinda hilarious! Probably I'm rude but seriously, parents should actually do something if they want to know what their children thinking right? I feel like no one can talk to. No one can keep secrets with me. Even having a sister, I can't share my secrets with her because she will surely told my mum about it. No one in this family I can count on them. Is it because my sister was so good in studies that she gets very good result then I'm been dump like this? Just because I have less than 1 or 2 A compare to her result then I'm not good enough? She is good at anything and they didn't bother to see how good I am? I do not get it. I really don't get why they must treat me like I'm the lousiest in everything, anything. Probably it was my own opinion but they didn't think so. I just want to say that, even how good the things they buy for me, whatever things I want they give me, probably without trying hard to understand me, I will still feel left out in this family. Parents, can please explain to me if you have a child like me? Am I really rude and not good enough? Seriously, what should I do?
1 response
• Malaysia
10 Oct 12
I may not be a parent but i just want to share my views. Your situation is similar to the one i used to face. They grew up in a different lifestyle than us and some parents find it hard to adjust. Most parents don't try to understand thier children. For example, i always get scolded for pointing out my views. This situation is hard to change and for many years i had to live with it.My parents like to compare my results with my sister too and am often trated like an idoit. I think this situation is something that only parents can solve. They must try to understand their children now think differently than they do and instead of pushing people down, try encouraging. This situation will lessen as you grow older, or at least it did for me. Good luck and i hope your parents will understand soon.