Am I a bully?
By bulastika
@bulastika (5966)
Philippines
October 11, 2012 1:14am CST
I'm happy that when I was in school I never been bullied but although I been in fights for many times and even have a bloody nose once but for me its normal. I don't feel that I got bullied or I don't feel I bullied other kids. I have lots of friends and we walk in groups so I guess some students are intimated by us but we I never feel that we bullied anyone.
I remember when we hang up on the stairs in our school and don't let anyone pass unless they buy the candies and junk food that we are selling but I never feel that we do bully someone.
I remember theirs a soft drink promos that the crown cap can give you free soft drink or monetary prices so what we do is we standby in the cafeteria and since the bottle opener for softdrinks in only one and common to all canteen stores what our group did is we are assisting those who buy softdrinks by forcing them to let us open their softdrink for them and we keep the softdrink crown cap and check if we won and have free softdrink but Its never occur to my mind that we bully.
So are we bully?
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12 responses
@avinash2506 (22)
• India
12 Oct 12
Its my observation that your tendency to bully others increases when you are in group of friends. Probably we feel more confident and think that it is fine to bully the other person as we take it only in fun.
But we need to remeber some people are sensitive and bullying might affect them adversely.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
30 Jan 13
You did not let them pass by you until they bought a drink and you stole their caps for free drinks...that is bullying and YOU are the one that had the problem. If you have no remorse for this then I say you still might have a problem...looks like you just make excuses for your bad behavior from back in highschool rather than to show that you learned something along the way.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I guess you are right. But if that person is that so sensitive then I guess its time for him to go and see psychologist. Because for me its normal to experience that sometimes and its how you react and how you see it or view it that make a difference. I been also bullied or get into a fight but I never feel inferior to anyone.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Actually what you did was a form of bullying. Imposing those kind of activities for fun, but definitely you are taking advantage of others, and probably the intimidation could really cause trauma to others.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
That's life don't you think? If you get intimidated then its not anybody fault but your own. For me its depends on what you want to do. You still have a choice. You can simply say no and see what will going to happen. Beside we don't threat anyone any harm just to buy from us. We just group in the stairs and since theirs just too many of us you can't pass unless you buy. But you can also say excuse me if you want. lols.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Well, if that's the way you look at life, then admittedly you are a BULLY. Intimidating others or rather putting pressure on others seems your cup of tea, though you do not mean any harm, it's more of psychological trauma, don't you think? And the fact about of having a choice is simply caused by the mere fact that you are imposing, lol! So that part would be commendable for having a psychotic feature disregarding respect for others, don't you think? Happy new year.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
30 Jan 13
If I were on the recieving end of your crap, I would call you a bully. You were without question a bully and the kind of kid that anyone that you intimidated for whatever reason will look back on as a bad experience. If you have to ask..odds are that you were.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
Then I guess I will also going to call you union skin. lols. But sometimes different people has different tolerance. Some see it as something fun. Others see it as something like bullying. I guess if that's going to happen to me or if I'm in the opposite position I will going to say that I will just going to ride along.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
11 Oct 12
Well, it sounds like you were definitely a bully when you were in school. Whether or not you are a bully now is difficult to say. The fact that you say that it never occurred to you that what you did in school was wrong or bullying, though, suggests that you probably are still a bully today.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
28 Jan 13
Just because you never physically assaulted somebody ... or should I say initiated a physical assault against somebody, because you do admit to fighting but say that you were just defending yourself ... does not mean that you were not a bully. You say that you and your friends would not let people pass unless they bought things from you or let you have their winning soft drink caps - that is bullying, even if you did not have to physically put your hands on them to get them to comply with your wishes. In fact, there are a great many bullies that are very effective without having to resort to physical violence.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I'm no bully!!. lols. I never hit any body or hurt anybody. I guess we looks intimating but we really harmless. I never consider myself a bully. I know I don't run away when theirs trouble but I make sure that I don't start any trouble.
@Eppie2010 (509)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Yes you're a bully but since you're asking this question makes me think that you're not the "full-pledged" bully type, bullying for you is more of an activity to pass the time enjoying with your friends. But still it's bad to get enjoyment out of the misery of others. Just think if you were on the shoes of the person you're bullying, not good right? Others may think that what you did is just for fun but there are people that are too emotionally sensitive and may have a long-term effect on them without you even knowing it. Well with that being said, have a nice "bully-free" day! :)
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I guess its fun. I don't think its consider bullying. Because its only going to be bully if you are hurting somebody but if you are just trying to intimidate other then I don't think that's bullying but just playing around. lols.
@ofzhernandez (278)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
I think for me what you are doing back school years is bullying. Why not letting others pass the stairs without buying your goods? You can ask to buy those without scaring them, right? you can ask in a nice way to buy things or goods that you and your friends are selling. Even those crowns you can ask them if you can have those crowns in a nice way. Not everybody are interested on those promos in the crowns so if someone gave those without scaring them off then thank them. Am I right? ^_^
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I am asking them the nice way. We always smile when we sell our goods and just a long smile and they all buy without any resistance. So I don't think its bullying. If they say no then its okay. But Its not my problem if I smile they can't say no right? lols.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
3 Feb 13
It sounds like you were one to a degree or another. Forcing people to buy the candy your were selling is wrong. Especially since you did not own the building let alone a stair well. The bottle caps you could of found in the trash and tried to redeem them as I know a few people always looking to find a loose Coke Rewards cap to redeem into their account.
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
Well I guess we cant tell if we are bullies unless we felt what the others felt from what we did to them. There are times we make a joke or do something for a good laugh by other peoples expense, for us its just a joke but we never realized if we offended them already.
I guess we all are sometimes a bully we just never knew.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
11 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for sharing the discussion. Well bullying is such a bad thing that it needs to be avoided at all the stages especially at the school level as if we are bullied then we might get into sudden depression or if we bully someone at school then this bad habit might continue at the college level also. So glad to hear that u never bullied anyone at school.
What say?
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I guess those who bullied other are actually those who have some insecurities in life but same time theirs just many big children that feel they are strong and mighty simply because they are big. Same thing with beautiful children. They feel superior to others simply because they feel beautiful and they use that their beauty to their own advantage.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
11 Oct 12
Hi friend, i don't think you are bully, such kind of activities are quite common in school days, but too much of dominating activities is not good, we must consider our classmates as our good friends and avoid dominating and teasing them
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I guess its part of school activity. lols. I have a good elementary and high school days. So sad I can't say the same thing in college days. As far as I know since I went to college every thing just turn to something crazy. I guess if you are in college responsibilities changes. lols.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
11 Oct 12
I can't say much but forcing some poor kids who does not have money might have bee a bully. Only the kid must have known if he was bullied or no. I think it was sort of bully. One is always good in their eyes but when you put yourself in their place then you will realize. Maybe the kid had only that much money and he wanted to do something important with it and then you forced him or her to buy what you were selling. He would have hurt but could not do much since you would not allow them to go pass. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead. 
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I guess you are right. But theirs another stairs and if he really don't have money or don't want to buy he can simply us the other stairs. lols. But I guess they also like what we do. Sometimes they even try to buy from me even if its not break time. But same time I guess I'm just insensitive to others. Also we also end up being picked by High School students. I guess they also telling us that they are the boss. lols.
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
11 Oct 12
I see you have harassed some poor kids a couple of times, but for me, a person becomes a bully when he habitually do things that are cruel especially to weaker people. If you're not that, then you're just trying to harass some people or having fun at the expense of others. Typical of kids, we all went through that.
I also went through bullying back in highschoool, I was a victim and I was bullied because I am on a private school on scholarship. And there, they don't take too kindly to scholars. But I guess Im really such a nerd that I don't really care about going out and partying and buying stuff. Now that I am older and have a career and very capable of buying stuff for myself, the situation is reversed compared to how my bullies are faring now.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I guess its better not to tell anyone that you are a scholar. In this way you don't need to be bullied. I guess I just have having fun back then. So far I'm happy that on my childhood. How I wish I can be forever be a kid. I enjoy having lots of friends and going out with friends but I really don't understand after I graduate in college I end up being a bum. lols.
