How would you know if a girl likes you?
By thatsjvl
@jvincent_129 (4994)
Philippines
October 11, 2012 10:12am CST
It's hard when you can't read women's minds. Are they just being friendly to you or are they trying to say something to you? It would be hard sometimes when you have a close female friend and you can't tell if she is just is being nice to you, or in a way she is trying to make gestures and sending signals to you that she likes you.
How can you tell if she really likes you?
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22 responses
@timetravel (1425)
• United States
11 Oct 12
Simple - ask. The worst she could say is "no - I just want to be friends" - and yet, perhaps, she'll say, "yes, I'd like to take the relationship a bit further."
sometimes girls are afraid - they value you as a friend, and are afraid if a romantic relationship develops, and it fails, that means the end of the friendship, too. Obviously the perfect balance is a girl and guy who are best friends as well as lovers, if that makes sense.
But asking is really the only way to tell. You could approach it like, "I feel really close to you, and value our friendship. At the same time, I'm wondering if you've ever thought we could be more than 'just friends'?". If she says, "No - I'm comfortable as good friends only" - you are still keeping a valuable friendship. And you can always then say, "If you ever change your mind, please let me know.".
Hope this helps!
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@timetravel (1425)
• United States
12 Oct 12
He ha!! Well, that's why he needs to ask it "open ended" like - in other words, let her know if all she wants if friendship he is fine with that - hence the "I value our friendship and don't want to lose it, yet I'm wondering if I'm reading your signals correctly? Do you think we might have something more? If not, that's cool - if yes, I promise if it doesn't work, we'll still be friendds"...something to that effect. In other words, reassure her the friendship will remain no matter what.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Yeah. It would be easy but it would be awkward for the girl for asking it out of nowhere. hehehe But I guess you can find out the perfect timing in asking her. What if after you've asked, she will be conscious to you?
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
12 Oct 12
Ha ha! I like it, timetravel, how would you know if you are not going to ask? I was supposed to say this to jvincent as a joke. But of course maybe he also feel awkward of asking it directly.
@adforme (2114)
•
11 Oct 12
I guess it would help if she tells you she likes you. You can like a girl. Culturally, the ball is in your court if you like a girl. It is more traditional for a guy to be the one to ask a girl out or choose to get to know her better. If a young lady is not showing interest, I would move on or wait until she does. People sometimes need to know that they can get to know you. But, you don't want to be anything but sure. How can you be sure? Communication is a good way. If you can at least say hello and become acquainted, that is a good start.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
No girl will say that she likes you. It is done through actions.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
That's why I say that relationships start with being friends. By the time that the girl gets more comfortable with you, you can tell her what you feel. But I am just asking how can you tell if she is interested in you? It doesn't mean that you also like her.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
I guess we can feel it when someone likes us. We can find that out when we always get special attention. They always try to communicate with us. The way they look at us with love in each stare. LOL. Oh my. I guess it's kinda difficult. I am a woman but I can't also tell you exactly how. Goodluck. If you are interested to your friend, then make a move. Who knows she also likes you... Happy mylotting.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Men always make the first move so it's easier for women to tell. A lot of women play hard to get so you can't really tell if they like you or not. One technique I learn is that you have to talk about other girls then you'll if she has jealousy or uneasy feelings towards you.
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Oh, that's right. When she gets jealous, that's it! Try it soon. LOL
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
it is really hard to read women.. even i find it hard too.. and i am a woman. it depends n the person though.. since some people are easy t read, their feelings are written all over their faces.. or some are just friendly, some are secretive.. maybe you should just observe how she treats other men.. and see if there is any difference.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
That's a good technique. I'll adjust to her behavior and see whether her attitude is someone approachable. I know this one girl, she has a barrier to herself, how do you approach her or talk to her?
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
That's what I did so far. We haven't had a long conversation yet, just saying a few words and being friendly to her.
@paulli3 (312)
• China
11 Oct 12
yes, we can't read women's mind. but if some girls really like you, you will know it through her performance, well, for example, you can feel it by her eyes. when you notice her eyes, you will find what she is thinking in her mind if she really loves you. ah, good luck!
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
11 Oct 12
Yeah. So how can I test her to see if she really likes me? I'll just look into her eyes?
@aman1981 (793)
• India
12 Oct 12
Ya right if any girl like u he always look in your face first and look like u a lovely eye from his heart and if they just ignore after seeing you means they didn't have any interest with you, So i just say forget him and make a chance with another one..cheeers
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Yeah. But how about girls that do not stare at you because they are shy? How would you know if she likes you?
@khhhaaaat (112)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
I am answering this based on my experience okay.
Back then there's a guy I liked, and we are not friends nor acquaintance. I am pretty much a conservative type and shy, so all I could do was stare at him or simply steal quick glances at him whenever I see him. But when we are about to pass by each other, I pretend that I didn't care or I pretend to not see him.
Also whenever he passes by and he caught me by surprise, I would immediately look the other way and I cannot hold glances with him fora long time. It's like I can't breathe with him staring back at me.
For shy girls, I guess you could tell if a girl likes you, if:
+ She can't look at you straight in the eyes.
+ she gets so flustered and nervous whenever you talk to her or when you're around
+ she gets overly conscious of her appearance.
+ she would always look the other way when you see her staring at you
+ whenever she's with friends, she'll smile a sweet coy smile
+ she's always around, or she tries to always be around you, but will never take chances and get the courage to speak or confess to you
I've read somewhere that to know whenever a girl likes you, get to know her friends. but since she's your friend, why don't you try getting know her GIRL FRIENDS. They can help you and you can get hints whether she's talking to them about you.
Hope I helped. Thanks
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
Yeah. Thanks for the advice. Shy girls tend to have these signs if they like the guy. But this is not true all the time. One way also is to get to know her friends more because they can help you gain information about her and what she feels for you.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
They can actually help you develop feelings because they tease you for one another. I don't know if it really helps because it might make the girl awkward to the guy. SOme girls don't want to be teased. But some girls develop their feelings through teasing. What do you think?
@khhhaaaat (112)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
That's true.
You can quickly get information on her friends. They give her out too. They would probably give you hints and ideas.
Good Luck! (u
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
Well isn't it the same thing with guys? It does depend on one's personality too. For me one can tell a girl likes you by her actions and how quick she responds to your text messages. Well that's just me.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
Yeah. hehehe. Well, what if women are just replying too long and playing hard to get? How will you know if they like you?
@lampar (7584)
• United States
13 Oct 12
I think you will know it naturally if come to that point, it is just difficult to spell it all out for you. Since different girl has her own unique way of making sure that special boy take notice of her liking on him, it is just impossible to list them all in mylot. If you can not tell from a small hint, the best way for you to find out is to open your mouth and ask, i am sure she is more than happy to guide you to her heart if you are the one boy she likes a lot among many. Just put away your shyness for a while, it is no harm for you to ask her politely, nothing will go wrong on that, you can thank me later after you find it out.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
Yeah. To avoid complications, it is much easier to ask them directly. The right timing would be perfect. Don't be too straight forward.
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 12
When I like someone
i would find a way to have chit chat with him
and I would be shy if he stares at me and I can't stare him back
and I would talk about him all the day long about him with my friends
maybe you have to check if this kind of signal arise in her attitudes
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
Thanks for sharing. Then I should be very observant of her actions and see signs of affections.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
In all honesty, it is hard to really tell if a person really likes you more than just a friend. I think, a good intuition is the only key to that. But usually, body language can tell a lot.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Yeah. I've observed girls in the past that some have crush on me. Maybe I am assuming too much but maybe not. I don't know.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
14 Oct 12
You can be pretty sure after you date for at least six months, marry her & have a couple kids.
That is; it doesn't matter if she likes you as long as she goes with you where you invite her.
@Manasha (2754)
• Pondicherry, India
12 Oct 12
It is so tough to judge a girl's mind. It is very easy to evaluate her mind which I have seen in my real life. If a girl likes you she would not hesitate to expose her signs of love. She laughs at you even you tease her severely. She likes to spend time with you even if not noticed.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Yeah. Thanks for sharing. I hope my instincts are accurate.
@rs1982 (99)
• United States
12 Oct 12
Well, its friday night..go out with her and a small bunch of friends..go for a dance or something..if she has feelings, she will want to be near/around you. Also, when you guys are together, does she try to sit near..hold hands, keep talking softly etc? Probably she likes you..but is not sure if you feel the same. Sometimes, reference to another girl or talking to another lady may make her jealous/she may sulk for a while..probably then you know..also, if she is talking to you on phone late nights..and doesn't respond much when you talk of another girl..you can probably go ahead and express your feelings..
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Well, it depends. I have girl friends that are very nice to me and call me on the phone late at night. I don't want to misinterpret their actions and say they like have developed feelings for me. Sometimes my intuition is wrong. Even though she has sent signs that it's possible that she likes me, I still don't completely assume things.
@habibti320 (925)
• United States
18 Nov 12
Not all girls are playing hard to get. There can be other factors involved. Even if there is physical attraction or personality chemistry, a girl might want to play it safe. A guy can have a lot of good qualities, but before thinking of changing the relationship, she needs to be sure about her intentions and her knowledge of the guy so far.
For girls who have had to end relationships before, we might not want to do it again. Even if I like a guy, I don't want to risk being in an incompatible relationship or getting into it before I'm ready. It might not work out, but I want to make sure it has a good shot before trying it!
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Thanks for commenting. I guess guys have to wait for the girl. Thank you for letting me understand. So that's why. Either the girl is afraid to go into a relationship or she just want to be sure with the guy.
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Oct 12
Is it consistent? If so they like you. If it isn't they are just being friendly or fickles. And if she is consistent does she say 'yes' when you ask her out. Some women just like to send signals and enjoys flirting so I would watch and see first before bending your wallet to severely for her.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Yeah. Some of them want to take advantage of you. You can tell some women are like that. But if that's the case, they should give something to us men then. You can't really tell though.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
11 Oct 12
Well she may like you as a friend and not really a boyfriend type . I think the best way to know if your female friend is attractive to you without direct asking her is to, talk about another girl with her , pay attention to her reaction and tone .
Any slight change in the tone of her voice can really mean she likes you . If that done work go on to the direct approach , tell her you like her . Its best to get it over with early because you might get stuck in the frind zone forever
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Yeah. hehe Nice technique. I'll do everything not to be friend zoned. hehehe Thanks for the advice.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
12 Oct 12
Why jvincent! I thought you have a girlfriend already? Correct me if I'm wrong. If you noticed that a girl is somehow sending some signals that she likes you, maybe you have to assess your own feeling too. Do you also like it if you would know that she likes you?
Have a nice day!
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Yeah. I am just curious with it. And I don't have a girlfriend. I am just confuse because there are two types of girls: a very friendly girl and someone who is playing hard to get.
How can I figure it out?
@babyeve (1048)
• Seychelles
12 Oct 12
You should never try to read a woman's mind, because you will end up getting confused in the process of doing so. Ask her what she wants and what makes her feel happy instead. She might not answer you instantly, but with time she will give all the answers to your questions. However, I can give you a few tips of how to know if a woman likes you. Firstly, if a woman likes you she will at first avoid looking at you in the eyes. Secondly, she will text you or call when you least expect her to and last but not least, she will shiver whenever you touch her or get close to her. :)
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Thanks for these tips. I have to observe her if she does these things.
But these things you said are not a guarantee because every woman is different.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Okay. Thanks. What happens if she is like that kind of a friendly person?