2012 - a year I'll never forget.
By silentwill
@silentwill (1685)
Philippines
October 12, 2012 1:07pm CST
What's your most unforgettable year? Some say 2012 will be the end of the world but I'm not here to discuss whether I believe that or not. However, this year will go down as the most unforgettable year of my life. This had been a year marked of love, success, pain and trials, new life and death.
It was June this year when I got married. In a simple and private ceremony shared with a few of my and my wife's relatives and only the closest of our friends.
It was in July this year when I got promoted. Whether that proves more to be a blessing than a curse is yet to be seen.
Then in just a few weeks later I met with an accident, in which I broke two bones, had an operation and is now a true-to-life "Wolverine." For 3 months I can't work and can barely leave the house to take care of my arm and avoid further injury.
It was late September this year when my first child was born and only a few days after my birthday. For a while there we thought he'd come out during my birthday but it was just a false alarm and our boy decided to let me have my own birthday and came out 5 days after. He's our precious, our little angel, our mini me.
Now just several hours ago, and only 3 weeks after his first grandchild to bear and continue our surname was born, my dad passed away. It was only a day before my plan to visit him upon learning he's not so well. But it was not to be. He was tired and so much in pain that he had to go before I could see him one last time. And I am filled with much regret for a lot of things I wasn't able to do for him, to say to him, I know that wherever he is now, he knows what's in my heart. I love my father and I'll miss him forever. May you rest in peace my old man.
Please pray for his soul.
[i]Father don't fade away from me
For you will always be
My sweetest memory
A friend so dear to me...[/i]
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11 responses
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
13 Oct 12
I am so sorry silentwill.. I believe your dad is watching over you and your family with a smile.. I know it is going to be extremely hard to keep moving forward without him, but I believe he would want you to do that.. I am not going to lie to you its not going to be easy.. Give yourself some room to grieve its ok to be upset... and other emotions.. I am not going to guess.. I know what you are going through.. I lost my other half six months ago.. My sons lost their father.. One thing that seems to help is to talk about him.. remembering all of the good times that we all shared.. With the hoilday season appoarching fast its going to be hard.. Just remember your dad will always be with you.. And give yourself time to heal.. My prayers for you and your family.. God bless you and Take care
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@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Yes he is there watching us. I know he's happy now being free from the pain he suffered for a long time. And I know he's proud of his grandson, despite not being given the chance to see him.
Our whole family is in grief and yes difficult times are ahead, but my dad knew that he'd been able to raise us all well and we will all be brave and be able to keep it together before he left us. I'm sorry about your loss as well. Our father's birthday next month and the upcoming holidays will never be the same now that he's no longer with us. Thank you for your prayers.
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@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
I keep remembering him walking in on me while I was singing along to a song from a cassette tape and he said that it was a good song for me to have sung, alluding to the audition I did for a singing competition in our high school. I didn't know if he saw that but more likely someone just mentioned it to him as it was an impromptu tryout and even if it wasn't I would've been too shy to tell any relative. But at that time I knew he was proud of me even if I did not make the cut. And what's more, the song I sang on the audition is the same song I quoted in my post above. It's a beautiful song by Acosta/Russell called Don't Fade Away and it's lyrics reflects exactly the situation and what I'm feeling right now. I've been listening to this song non-stop since last night and frequently it has moved me to tears as each word reminds me of him and that one day when I saw how proud he was of me.
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@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
I too have a lot of regrets and I guess like you it will take time before I can forgive myself of them. One of which is not being able to see him before he left us. I keep thinking of ways I could have gone to seen him earlier than I had planned. The last time I ever saw him was almost 5 months ago and even then I wish I could've done something significant even if at the time he was still much stronger.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
12 Oct 12
silentwill
Every thing was positive till the last paragraph. yes you got married, you got son also early. Your father passed away during 2012. yes it is very sad to lose one's close relatives. you have been able to console yourself.
yes. you had an accident also this year. I hope you had an insurance policy to cover expenses. hope your wife is a source of strength for you.
In India normally people get married and then they sleep together so a child is born minimum after 9/10 months. I think in your country such living is permitted. Of course it requires a lot of courage for both man and woman to be together before marriage. good wishes.
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@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Yes both our dads are happy now in God's hands. Even if they are not with us anymore they are watching over us. Never forgetting us the way we will never forget them and never stop loving them.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Your dad is happy now and at peace with the creator just like my dad , who passed like 5 years from now , that long right? but no I don't feel that long , i feel that it's like dad just pass previous days. Dad's are great and irreplaceable that is why if only God allows me one wish , that would be my wish , to have dad back.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
Based on the movie, it happened december 20,2012, so there is still a chance that it can happen that day!!lol
Seriously speaking, this year is a mix of struggles, pain,challenges and a little bit of happiness and success. At the start of the year, I had a broke up with my relationship. It took me months before I was able to recover and honestly I am on the process of accepting that she's already gone. I felt this year as a very hard year for me, i have lots of financial responsibilities. I joined different sites and offline sidelines to help resolve this issues. My augist was not fine, though its my birthday because I was sick for weeks and in medical city for several check-ups and consulations. On the other hand, I'm so glad that for the month of september, I was able to bond with my family for several days. There are four members in the family celebrating their birthday, so we get to have like a small family reunion. It happens very seldom in our family. There is also a feeling of excitement because tomorrow will be a big day for mylot filipino members, how I wish you could be there. and lastly, there is a feeling of disappoinment, because our incentive was hold because it is not yet approve vu the management. it will still be posted by next cut off.
though these things happened in my life, life goes on. just enjoy every moment while we are still here. thanks for sharing. happy mylotting!
Seriously speaking, this year is a mix of struggles, pain,challenges and a little bit of happiness and success. At the start of the year, I had a broke up with my relationship. It took me months before I was able to recover and honestly I am on the process of accepting that she's already gone. I felt this year as a very hard year for me, i have lots of financial responsibilities. I joined different sites and offline sidelines to help resolve this issues. My augist was not fine, though its my birthday because I was sick for weeks and in medical city for several check-ups and consulations. On the other hand, I'm so glad that for the month of september, I was able to bond with my family for several days. There are four members in the family celebrating their birthday, so we get to have like a small family reunion. It happens very seldom in our family. There is also a feeling of excitement because tomorrow will be a big day for mylot filipino members, how I wish you could be there. and lastly, there is a feeling of disappoinment, because our incentive was hold because it is not yet approve vu the management. it will still be posted by next cut off.though these things happened in my life, life goes on. just enjoy every moment while we are still here. thanks for sharing. happy mylotting!@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
The year is not yet through and for you things still have a chance to turn around. But for me I believe there will never be a single year like this one that I will experience such significant events, and with as much opposite polarity of happiness and sadness. Thinking about my new family makes me ecstatic but losing my dad, him not being with us on his upcoming birthday and the holidays is the saddest I have ever felt.
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@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
Wishing the good vibes to come your way these last two months of the year. I love my father very much but I wasn't very showy of it and have regrets over that, which makes me sadder on the way he left us. Without getting that one last chance to show it to him. Thank you for your prayers.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
Guys are often not showy than girls.they don't really show that they care but they do. i don't know if i can already forgive my father. i can't say that i am ready but as saying goes "if god can forgive,why can't I?" i am just his creation.if i would have the chance to him, i don't know what to say. i don't if i am ready to talk to him.
@Astroboy13 (57)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
Wow truly an unforgettable year for you. Lots of happy moments and sad ones too. Congratulations and I'm sorry bro.
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@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
23 Oct 12
What do you know yet another major thing happened. I saw my brothers and sister I never knew about for the first time (at least that I can remember).
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
13 Oct 12
its so sad to hear,dont worry may his soul rest in peace and i pray the best for him
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@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Yes I'm sad right now but at the same time relieved that my father is no longer suffering. Thank you.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
13 Oct 12
Hi silentwill! I was touched by your story. It's just that it ended with the losing of a love one. Well, I hope that since you have shared it with us already, you will see to it to look on the positive side of life after this. Let us not focus on the negative side. The year is not yet over and there can be a lot of things that can still happen.
Just keep focus. You have a family and that alone can be a source of strength.
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@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
17 Dec 12
Truly indeed this year in your life is full of events. Some are good and some are bad. But what is important is that you are there and you have accepted each things that have happened. I am sure that you can always make the right decision and make the adjustments. Life is always changing, and people come and go. We must treasure each and every waking moment of our life and make each day worth. I wish you the best and may you find success as you go through life.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
12 Oct 12
All the years I had were kind of heavy/hard. A lot happened to me so I can't say there is one special year still in my mind that I will never forget.
I am still kind of surving and hope to find, after all these years, more peace, more time for me, me first. But untill now it's more like a dream as a goal I will ever reach.
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
12 Oct 12
A year is a long time so definitely every year a lot of things happen in our lives. But this one is the only year where major things happen in all aspects of my life.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Silentwill , sometimes life plays with us. One test over the other , and the test is getting harder and harder. That is not okay , i wish to say that is okay but i know , such situation could never be okay . Just hold on , God is just giving test to your endurance and stamina . But he is there at your back always in case you need a back up. Rain will pass , better days are waiting for you, Meanwhile , keep on smiling , continue the fight , for sure still more to come but that does that afraid you am sure because you got a Big God. God bless you and your family.
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
Yes a lot more will happen good and bad. Maybe not this year but the next or the next after that etc. Thank you.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
14 Oct 12
We have just met the other day on rberon's discussion about your unfortunate accident; and now I feel that I've learned so much about you already...
What can I say about 2012? Well, to me the year feels to pass by so quickly. My first born started college last year, his next younger brother is off to college this year, and I will have two more sons graduating high school next two years.
Yet, I can still remember the days they were born like it was just yesterday...
My sincere condolences in the passing of your father. You already know I pray for his soul; and may his loved ones stay strong always...
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
I guess when I'm reallyin the mood to write, I write with so much emotions and honesty thatsomeone reading it would feelthe way you do. It's been a long drought that I have not posted anything that now the words flow like a river.
Time is really an enigma. Whether a year feels long or short it's relative. To me it feels such a long time this year with so much happening one after the other. For you though, it seems to be passing by quickly as you see your kids grow so fast.
Thank you again for the prayers.
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@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
12 Oct 12
Thanks for sharing this discussion. Well glad to know that the year 2012 will be one of your most unforgettable years of your life. i think i too would like to say the same as i had experienced a hell lot of feelings, emotions and experiences in this year that gave me a handful of lessons to learn. It was this year that i had been to my first ever abroad trip which was very much memorable for me.
What say?
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
It truly has been an unforgettable year so far but with the passing of our father sadly most unforgettable does not equate to the happiest. Our family is mourning and we terribly miss him.
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
13 Oct 12
This is truly memorable. The joy and the tears. I don't think there'll ever be a year again that so much significant events will happen in my life.
