your friend says he loves you. do you back off?

This happened to me 2 times. And sad to say, both I've pursued but ended as a mess. I was really on good friendship with both before the "relationship" but sad it's now the way it used to be when it ended. So i think yeah I should have back off and maybe it won't be like it is now. But it's too late .

Lovers cannot be friends once you have stepped forward, it is difficulut to go back.It is said that the true happinese is what you get is better than what you want.when someone says he loves you,he means he want the relationship to go further,and not satisfied with the current situation.

Well, I did. When my friend of several years told me that he loved me, I had to tell him that I didn't see him that way. It wasn't easy for me to tell him the truth, but I couldn't lie to him and lead him on like that. It wouldn't have been fair to him. I wasn't in love with him, thus, I couldn't be with him.

This is a hard one; I can see why you are in a dilmea.. If you really do not want to push to the next level.. He may not want to be a friend anymore because he shared his true feelings with you; which can be hard for a guy to do.. So he may push away because of anger, shame and possibily doubting himself for even staying something.. One the other hand you stand your ground and he respects the fact that you made a decision and you are sticking to it.. Either way your relationship with him will be awkard for a little while... I would tell him the truth, then there would be not games or what if or how can i make it work.. Kind of questions like that which can go running through a persons' head is gone, because they are answered.. One point you could make is that you guys have been friends for so long you do not want to make it something else and lose what you guys have as friends right now.. Hopefully this guy will respect your honest and in time things go back to the way they where.. Good luck:-)

Well, they would feel awkward about that because they were really good friends and then suddenly he loves her. But in a while, everything will be back to normal they would still be friends.

I already experienced that situation. My friend courted me and I felt awkward about it. I confronted him that I just want him to be my friend.He was hurt that moment I told him. He became very distant with me.I respect why he was like that. And then one morning he approached and talked with me.And, finally he already accepted that we are just friend and beyond that is a no no!.hehe

Hi, Why should I? Here comes a real opportunity for a deeper relationship and it may a beginning of something special and exciting. I don't really mind if my best friend says that to me, at least I know what's hidden is now revealed, and I am always ready for it, morning, noon or nighttime.

hi sweet, Well I am not really comfortable with this specially if the feelings are not mutual but I will not end the friendship because of this. happy mylotting

Thanks for sharing this discussion. Well it would be an awkward situation for me of course after all he is my best friend and i will have to gauge his saying for a lot many times before taking any firm decision that would not hamper our relationship in any way. It will definitely be a tough call whoever decides and i think it totally depends on the mindset of the people. What say?

Oh it is tricky, I would not feel comfortable with the guy if i have some other boyfriend or anything . or even if I have no interest in him. Every time I talk to him bring bring the subject in my mind and i will know that he is thinking about me that way. So I would not feel comfortable as before. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

Yes, it is a tricky situation. One of my friends had an online buddy. She thought it was just 'friends' as they never met. However, that online buddy was in love with her after a few days of chat/mail exchanges. Later, they became the best buddies(and met in person too). He never expressed his feelings until he was sure she wouldn't feel bad and still be the best pal, even if it won't work out. Luckily for him, she felt the same too.. Well, if you are really good friends, then you may not feel awkward about it. Maybe a few moments of freaking out but later, it will be fine. Of course, either shouldn't make a big deal of it. Then, probably, you can be good friends. Then again, I don't know whether it would work for everyone..