Is it important to seek for your parents blessings before marriage?

Yup! But children must always the first to decide before their parents. It is useless to live in a person that we don't love but our parents love that man or woman.

It would be perfect if both parties like each other so that there will be no pressure for both sides. Thanks again!

Thanks aerous, what you said is true. There really are cases where parents intentionally disapprove the marriage of their children because of personal motives. But this isn't the case with my friend.

I hope that you would take your parents into confidence when you are going to take such a big decision of your life and keep them apprised of all the developments.

Thanks dpk, with the case of my friend, her parents did not give their blessings. In fact, the parents did not attend the wedding. I don't know how to feel if this thing happened to me as I really hope my parents would be there to celebrate one of the biggest days of my life. I wanted them to take part of it.

That could also be possible. The way I see it, she didn't want other people to know that her parents does not approve her marriage, and that they did not give their blessings to her. I sometimes wonder why some people care about what other people would say but don't really care much about how their parents would feel. Ironic.

But many people just print it, on cards. Just for the name sake, as per the custom.

Thanks arna, majority of us will still ask for our parents blessings before marriage. This only shows that more children still value their parents. You are right that having their blessings and sharing with them this very special day of yours will truly bring joy and happiness.

Thanks for your response. Yes it is true, when things get bad, our parents are the first person we run to so it is better if they give us their blessings.

Thanks balipromo, I admire you for giving your parents the proper credit they deserve. I am happy that you still respect and value your parents as there are so many who no longer don't do that. I also do agree with you that if after you've done your best to convince them but still they don't agree with the marriage, you can still go on with the marriage. I hope that my friend did the same but she did not. Whenever I think how her parents raised and took care of her, I pity them for the treatment they got from her and his guy.

Thanks for your response elmiko.. Have a nice day ahead.

Thanks Gemma, what you said is true. Most of the times, people who are inlove can't really have a balance view about it. They are thinking that there really are no reason for them not to like this person. That is why many think that love is blind. But for our family who wants the best for us, they do tell us if they see red flags and warn us about it. Their reason for doing so is very simple - they care about us and they do not really want us to face difficulties in the future with this man.

Thanks mar, I definitely would do the same. Good day!

Thanks for your response jaiho. That is true, most people just look for an idea like design and wordings online or from other invitations. I have the same stand, she should have not included that they have her parents' blessings as this isn't true.

Thanks kimi, what you said are all true.

Like I've said with my previous response, I do think that the kind of relationship you have with your parents will dictate if one would want to ask for her parents' blessings or not. Like in your case, and for most girls, parents are the most important persons in the world. You value them so much and so you care about how they would feel. Their blessing is very important for us.

Hi lee, thanks for your response. Yes, those you've mentioned can be really taken into considerations. But I also think that it also depends on the kind of relationship the family have. I got married at the age of 30 as well, wasn't really expecting to have this we so-called 'pamanhikan' as we're on a tight budget but my husband and his family did insisted that they will pay a visit to my family not really to ask permission for the wedding but to inform them how the wedding will took place and if they have any say about it. We did consider some of their advice but the final decision is still us, the bride and the groom. I hope your dad is doing fine, I think he's cool. Hope your mom is happy wherever she is. Stay happy!

Yes, it is indeed has been part of our culture and was considered to be morally correct. But like the other mylotter said, there are also cases that the parents' blessings is no longer being asked. But I guess that even if it is a part of our culture or not, if we love and respect our parents, we definitely will value their blessings and presence in our marriage.

Thank you for sharing your views about it laydee. I do have the same stand about it. Our parents deserve our utmost respect for they are the ones who brought us in this world. They raised and took care of us and given us the best they could. It is only right that we should ask for their blessings to show how we value them in our lives. As for the invitation, I do agree with you that she should have omitted those lines as her parents did not approved her marriage witht this guy. I know that there are cases that children weren't raised by their own parents and so they don't feel attached to them. I understand if they won't ask for their permission as in their case, I don't even think it is necessary. But for my friend, who was taken care and love by her parents, I am just so sad that she did not even pay respect to them. I do hope she made the right decision. Her parents have no single idea about this guy she married. And the guy did not even tried to talk to her parents to ask for their permission or even just to introduce himself so I understand how her parents feel. I myself would be so worried if my daughter would decide to marry someone which is a total stranger to us.

Thanks aira, I do agree with you. There are some instances that the parents' blessings is no longer ask.

Thanks Raine, what you said is true. I don't know if I'll be at peace knowing that my parents are against my marriage. I don't even know if I would enjoy that very special moment if my parents are not there. It is good to know that your parents eventually gave their blessings. By the way, are you an only child?

You're definitely right meowchie. With all those love and kindness they've given us, they deserve nothing less but be respected and loved the same way. Yes, it would be nice if the guy would make an effort to get along with the parents. That way, the parents would also know him and would be at peace knowing that their daughter will be marrying a good guy. Thanks for sharing. Stay happy.

Hi there, thanks for sharing information about Indian culture as this is the first time I heard about it. You're right that at first, our parents may not accept or may get angry on us but sooner or later, they will also learn to accept that especially if they have already seen their grandchildren.