Shopping for a housemate again...o, boy

We don't share food, but you know he did take some cereal without asking me, and I do not like that. Most people do not wash their hands like I do, and it drives me bonkers to know he touched my cereal box and I wonder if he touched the cereal too? ewe. I definitely need to get another refrigerator and a microwave downstairs so he does not have to come up for any reason. How to present it to him without sounding like i want him to go? In a way, I kinda do want him to leave but I need the money and God knows what I would have to deal with if he goes.

One way you could appoarch the topic without being blunt would be.. You are preparing for the hoilday season.. There is usually extra food that is needed for the big meals; I am not sure if you do that or if you are going to do that.. But you could say that you really need the whole kitchen to store the stuff that you need.. Granted its not telling him out right.. Since you really need to keep this room mate but he really does creep you out this is a nice way to put it.. But there is a problem with my suggestion.. If you do have everything set up for him downstairs and he still comes up to your area of the house.. I tried to think of an easy way to tell him that you dont want him in the rest of the house because he bothers you; just making it simple... I guess if this would happen you would have to explain it to him, and be honest about it.. So I am going to throw some ideas your way... You could explain to him that his outburst make you feel uncomtable.. You know that he isnt violate, but there is that "what if" feeling and that can be stressful.. Not that he is trying to do that or anything.. Its just there... Telling him that you appericate the help; you want him to stay... I got it.. That is if you tell him how you feel.. You want him to stay because he is a nice person, you just have your conserns... And instead of leaving you figured out a soluation that allows both of you to live under the same roof but separate living spaces.. I imagine he is getting help too; he doesnt have to pay all of the monthy bills himself.. Using postive examples that helps him he will be more likely to be less on the defensive... Also I use the would you meaning I... for you to say.. I statements are easier to hear; versus a personal attack with the word you being stated all of the time... Yes its getting into those winter months and it would be hard for the both of you if he had to move.. Moving in snow is a pain, and finding a room mate in the middle of winter is even harder....So many be if he feels uncomfortable because you do; you guys could try this living arrangment for the winter.. and the reevalute the situation in the spring.. granted you will be back at square one looking for a room mate.. but you could be looking all winter.. screening your next roommate.. taking extra time to get to know the person before your living under the same roof.. but not having to carry the full load yourself.. Hope some or even one of my ideas helps you;-)

awe, thank you. That is very kind of you to say. I do try very hard to be a person I would want to live with. Sometimes though, i do get taken advantage of and that hurts. But what can you do, except give it to the Lord and have Him work it out.