Being a Mistress

I have a lot of things against "the other woman" if you would ask me. There are many things to consider for what i will say but then this is just me and i do not intend to specifically pinpoint to everyone that what i know about these women should define all of them who have been in the situation. There are sure a lot of things we ought to consider and know about. Women who knows they are having a relationship with married men - or men who are attached (with gf) are especially not to be pitied, after all they know what they are getting themselves into. They know they are only asking a fraction of the time of the man they claim to love. in the first place, you would not love the person on the first time you met them and since it was a choice to be with them even if you know you are not to be their priority... well that is really just utterly insane. For those women who are victims of the men too who does not say they are married or with a gf, well that is a different story. I think though that for most who have values intact, they would know how they should go about their decisions when they come to know the truth. Yes sometimes the situation, our love for the person gets the best of us and we settle trying to think that we will be chosen by the person instead of the gf or the family. But still.. as i always tell my friends when it comes to this - it is a decision. you know what is right, let us not think only of what would benefit us. Maybe my opinion of this is so strong, that is because i have had a very bad experience about this. My father - left his family(us for another woman) This woman was a secretary in the office where my dad gets contracts for. My mom's friends in this company told my mom that this woman did say that it does not matter to her if she is to be called a mistress, a kulasisi, the other woman, kabit, etc so long as she will have money from my dad.. that she is resting on a "wall". And then there was this ex boyfriend of mine - where this other woman who has gotten close to him apparently became his other gf?! and that they had a relationship and she knows everything about me, everytime my bf and i would meet, family affairs, what's going on with me and my family.. she knows it. =( And when everything was blown out of proportion, when i discovered their affair, she told me she was just waiting for my ex bf then to tell me because he has confirmed with her she is to be chosen... but my ex was apparently still trying to woo me. And so there was this game he was playing and she knew there was no chance for the both of them but she still kept on believing and that i was her fault!

Maybe if you're being a mistress to somebody who is already separated, maybe it will not be a big issue. But still since it is not really accepted in our society, some people will still look down to that person. BUt maybe in a lesser percentage. As I said, it is not really a big deal because the couples are already separated. BUT if you are a mistress of somebody still living together, then that's the problem! Because such mistress is a home wrecker. I personally hate those people too... I know of somebody who worked as a casual employee in our company. She got close to our officemate who is married. AND SHE DOES KNOW that he is married. At first she denies having a relationship with our officemate. But the HR still advised her to resign and not to finish her term, for morality sake. The wife of my officemate always investigates because she also is already suspicious of her husband's actions. That happened more than a year ago... To end the story, oh not really to end the whole but only a chapter.... It is the first birthday of the mistress' baby today. Oh well just in time that I read your post. My officemate got separated with his wife because his wife could not accept that he is having a baby with another woman. I personally, could not accept if my husband would do that also... But our officemate (who is now an ex-officemate because he was also told to resign) just got the wrong choice. He chose his mistress over his real family... TOo sad. But the wife said, it's a much peaceful home without his husband now...

I wonder where r u from? I'm from China and divorce exists everywhere, especially among our young people who was born in 1980s. and I wonder in ur country, does it mean the woman who falls in love with a man with a legal wife? or does it mean the female host in a family? If it's the latter, I don't think "mistress" in my country refers to shame or something like that, but if it's the former, it does the same in ur country but not that seriously.

I believe the good side of this law will be that couples will consider seriously before entering a marriage. At the same time, observes high level of commitment in a marriage and believe that women are being slightly more protected here. I have to admire the stance of your country's government to preserve this law till this very day, it must have been extremely hard.

That is refreshing, a married couple doesn't love each other is not allowed to divorce under the law of your land, but only can live separately as far as it go, i assume your law makers continue to hold on to the belief that the marital affair between married couple is their vital business to interfer with, may be they just want to maintain a facade of morality superficially for other to see, even though in truth it is a hypocrisy. It is funny though such an antiquated law still exist within your country after many decade of independence.

mistress is something that people hate but the fact, there are many mistress.. i think we should be fair.. why the mistress appear? it must be discussed with a care and seriously attention,.. will it appeared because of economic factor or what??

We really cant avoid it as most of them are even called a home wrecker though i dont know of whose fault it is like probably the wife or the husband and we cant avoid it as what if the husband or the wife is no longer happy. Though i dont want to judge people nor question them as they have their own mind and heart to follow and i also have my own to attend so i really dont care too unless im in the position but i wish it wkll not happen to me.

I think havign a mistress is one reaason why others filed divorce in contries that allow divorce. I just want to share that annulment is really expensive only if the grounds really needs some experts to show and proof that they are not capable of having married life like the mentally incapacitated really needs a psychiatrists or psychologist.

yes that is true that our country never allowed divorce but annulment is yes but very expensive and have a long process and this is because the catholic church never allowed it to happen,its really questionable why there are woman who want to be mistress.

its a tough job,we need to maintain the morality and trust factor all time,profession needs to take a back seat this time

Hi friend, in my country, divorce is possible and we have the ability to divorce our partner with a good reason if we have problems and issues with them as well as not interested in continuing our life with them. Here also the term Mistress don't have a good image. Most of the people don't consider this kind of mistress as a human being

I am here because the mistress is a third party,so called mini three;wife discovers her husband Xiao San bully this small three or defamatory,but this is not desirable as a wife would be held liable in this divorce andnot expensive,but divorce is necessary division of the property,many married former women asked to have her name on the house,this is divorce for the future and intend to do.

Well, everyone deserves to happy. You should not burden your self with that. No matter what people may say the final decision is yours:If your happy then who cares...its your happiness is at stake not theirs.