I hate being a woman
By rosegardens
@rosegardens (3034)
United States
October 15, 2012 10:43pm CST
I hate being a woman. It is very difficult to be a woman in this society. Many of the male gender make me feel like I am only a fragment of something living, to many males I am just 'that down there' as one man put it.
I am tired of men regaling me with their drive, or lack of, as though I have any interest in it whatsoever.
I do enjoy the company of some males, as they know things in their trade I do not and it is a learning experience for me. I can have intelligent conversation with some of them, but when they revert to adolescent speech, it makes me angry. How many times do you have to tell someone to quit?
In the past month, i have heard a word I have not heard since I was in my teens referring to that down there; I have had at least 3 other men disrespect me the last one was today. I'm sure he is not last, but that was the last instance at the time of this writing. It has lowered my self-esteem, I feel like dirt. I have been abused, even though no one has laid a hand on me. I am beginning to get depressed over this, because I haven't been spoken to like this from this many people in a very long time.
There is such a disrespect for the female gender in our society. How can a male speak loudly and proudly in a restaurant about this subject, as though it is normal to do so? I guess it is normal, the abnormal has become normal. How did we let this happen?
What do you think? Do you have any stories about being disrespected as a woman, or do you think I'm wrong and should just get over it?
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6 responses
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
16 Oct 12
I think you are right on.. Dont question yourself.. There are a lot of jerks out there that just like to degrade women and think it is funny, when it is not.. The moment we (woman) just let it slip the more it will happen... Another word that I hate to hear or to be referred to as a chick.. I am not a chicken, I am a human, I am a woman.. Not an animal!!! That comment just makes me boil...
If and when you go out with this person ask that person to stop.. If they do not listen leave... make sure you bring your own car.. literally leave go home or if you didnt eat yet go some where else.. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SIT THERE AND LISTEN TO THAT GARBAGE!! I know I would not..
My ex-husband use to degrade me, and degrade women as a whole.. A woman could tell him the sky was blue.. He would argue.. A man could come up 5 mintues later and say the same thing and he would agree.. hints the words ex
The moment women start accepting that garage; that moment is when the men will over power us again... The women that were extremely strong back in the 40s and 50s or maybe even the 60s.. would be rolling in the graves.. Lets not repeat history..
It is sad that there are a lot of young girls that accept that garbage and that is our future.. As their elders we need to show them that we do not have to just put up with it.. But we do not have to sit there and name call right back.. two wrongs do not make a right.. Leaving a guy sit at the table at the resturant as you leave.. Now thats a statement loud and clear.. Some men do not hear well; but they can see just fine..
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@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
16 Oct 12
this particular male was sitting at another table when he said this to me. I wasn't even sitting with him. To make matters that much more uncomfortable, he lives down my street and is always walking past my house, and just became a new Avon customer a few weeks ago. Yippee.
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
16 Oct 12
WOW (not good way either) So you have to be nice sort of.. If you were to tell this person off you could lose a customer, which is hard enough to find these days.. Honestly I dont know exactly what I would do in that situation, but I know what I would want to do... but that would be loss of income which proably aint good either.. I guess I would try to be nice.. But if it contine I do not think I would be able to keep my mouth shut... Good Luck with that garbage.. I dont know if any amount of money is worth that type of abuse, but I really can not speak for you though..
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@natliegleb (5175)
• India
16 Oct 12
well all the women in the world feel tired after some stage but i believe you should never ever give up and carry on with zeal
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@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
17 Jan 13
I can relate. Men say deplorable things to me, too. I think they do it more so to me because I'm in a wheelchair and they think I can't think. I made myself call these people out in public spaces, in my blog (which is highly read locally), and to my friends. It might not make them behave appropriately all the time but it makes a difference to at least one person who can avoid interacting with them.
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@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
21 Jan 13
Wow. I am so sorry to hear you are treated badly, especially since you are in such a vulnerable condition. That would scare the pants off me! I pray for your safety, and hope for good people to surround you and look out for you.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Never.. ever let any man treat you / make you feel like that rosegardens. Never again!! Always remember that you are a unique and a beautiful individual. We all are! Men, no matter who they are and what their position in life is, they owe their lives to us. They would never be born with women, so they don't have the rights to feel that they are superior to us in anyway.
The sad thing is that, men are commonly dominant. It's their nature as the one who should protect.
Don't let them get you down, They are not worth the stress and the wrinkles! ^__^ The only thing that you can do is to prove them that they are wrong and in this era women can stand equal men... and they should be awaken by this fact.
I was also been looked down before, I am an computer engineering graduate and commonly our school project are "For men" or as they say "Boys should do it" they often never listen to me when I suggest things. What they didn't know is that my dad is n electrical engineer and was thought about digital electronic since I was in high school. What I did is I showed them that I can do what they can do, and make them regret that they thought I was the weakest by showing them that I can do better! ^__^
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@fatlex06 (895)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
Cheer up girl. Don't waste your time listening to those sh***. If there are thousand reasons for you to hate being a girl you should be thankful because there are millions of reasons for you to be happy that you are a woman. Atleast, you don't have those rude attitudes that some man has. Just don't mind them. Let them sin if that's what they wanted to do in their life. And don't ever let yourself down. Just imagine how down you are if another person make you down and you will make yourself down as well. Just cheer up and get the respect each woman deserves.
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@leeandrew (1225)
• Philippines
17 Jan 13
I don't think I hate being a woman co's I'm just loving it. I know it's not that easy too, but, it's feel good being one I think.
Prove yourself to those men there that look at you as a minor co's definitely you can compete with them. Just let them do their thing... thing and task that are meant for men. It a nonsense doing those when they're around.
Just keep up the things that keeps you up. :)