Right now, I am with a friend who is mentally unstable at the moment.

hello thesids good to see you too, how are you doing? :) Yes, his family has been made aware of this and his father is on his way to receive him. It's a good thing he has a lot of friends at the moment to take care, but what will happen after we leave college ? That bothers us, nursing doesn't look feasible for him because he lives in hostel away from home, had he lived in home i am sure his mother would have taken good care of him. Yes, we are taking turns to watch him, my friend who didn't sleep last night is now sleeping and I am taking care of him. I just hope he keeps sleeping a while longer because it gets hard to control him from wandering anywhere and I am scared when he just leaves somewhere and doesn't reply to phone calls. Plus reasoning with him doesn't come easy at all sometimes and I hope I don't have to do the talking stuff coz sometimes I am not good at dealing, I maybe good at comforting but not good at negotiating. He is quite co-operative by the way and that makes things a lot more easier. His father is going to take him home and hopefully he will again be counselled by a psychological counsellor. Thank you friend, please keep him in your prayers, I will too, it is much needed for him.

When he is taking his medication does he understand clearly what you guys are saying to him?? Not sure if this would work or not.. There was one time that I was totally out of it about to loose everything.. My aunt laid down the law and gave me a huge eye opener.. basically if I didnt get away from the alchol I was going to lose her for good.. It was hurting her too much to watch me go down the path that I was on... All I know is that it worked.. Right now just is unavablie or else I would ask her for help for you.. I am guessing he doesnt want to be hospitalized.. That would be really hard on him.. But you can explain to him that he needs to take his medication every day or else he could end up there.. Even though he is surrounded by people that love him and want only the best for him you all can only do so much.. So if he continues to choose not to take his meds he will end up there.. If this shakes him up a bit he will be ok.. little dozes of reality isnt going to hurt him.. well at least I dont think so.. Lets say he says yes he will.. Then you all need to set up a support system for him while you all are all away.. Make sure that he has numbers he can call or text when he feels like he is in trouble.. Hey that reminds me.. Is there any crisis helplines that could be contacted and or be used?? In a positive way you guys can show him that he can be independent but have the support right there.. But if he is not willing to help himself, then he really does need to be in a hospital.. Not sure if your religous or not.. God says that He can only help those that help themselves.. Meaning you can only help your friend so far.. I can see that you are really worried about him and that you really care.. but if he can not keep on top of a couple basic tasks then he really does need professional help... ;-) Hope all is well

How long will it be before his dad comes to get him?? Do you think your friend will wake up before his dad gets there?? If so is there anything speificly that can keep his attention long enough?? Video games tv card games I am just shooting in the dark... Keeping his hand busy will keep him more likely to stay in our world if that makes sense.. TV would be last resort.. Just keeping him busy might just do the trick.. Does he draw or write.. That takes a lot of focus and also he can get out his feelings without vocally expressing them.. Or if he has lots of enegry going for a walk or a car ride or something like that.. But it kind of scares me to suggest taking him out in public because of his state of mind.. I will be praying too; have been but I will continue;-)

Thank you friend, you have been quite informative. Well the last big case when he was lost, we later (much later) found out that he had paid someone $1000, loaned it to someone and that person as we saw tried to take advantage of my friend's innocent nature and didn't want to return the amount back. And that sense of responsibility for that heavy an amount came upon him and he was very scared of his father, that he might be extremely angry on him and so to find an escape he boarded some random train and stopped taking his medication. He snapped. Last night, we could find the reason but we were cautious enough not to make him feel irritated because he is very sensitive and as far as I can remember he was talking about some girl, took her name. I am not sure if this girl, who i don't know anything about, could be a reason or he is just making it up. He said he doesn't want to meet her, and started crying. I felt so bad. His father is on his way here and I am waiting for him, we are eager to find out what made him snap this time. The thing we are all scared of is that how can we take care of him 24x7, we have our classes and our work too, what if the next time he snaps and wanders somewhere and by the time we find it, it is already too late. That is what bothers all of us. How can we all stay him all the time, we just cannot. For the time being, I hope he has a good healthy stay in him home and gets soon and completely alright when he spends his time with his family.Yes, thank you we are all here so it is easy, I can't imagine being alone and trying to take care of someone of someone, it is not easy. You too take care my friend... Last night we made him take his medication, and he is sleeping at the moment so I was least worried now.

There comes the complication because we can't provide him with such a professional help to watch over him, someone like a nurse because he lives in a hostel far away from his home, had he lived in his home he wouldn't have got into so much trouble i guess. But, it's okay we try to watch over him all the time but sometimes it just happens so fast and it really scares us. For now, he is with his father at home so it is fine but we are always scared because sometimes he just switches his phone off and leaves somewhere and does weird things. I just hope and pray to God that He take care of him and watch over him when we can not. Yes, he is going to meet his personal counselor once again and i hope he recovers and comes back soon.

Hello ellebj, Yes, last night some other friend of a friend called my friend and said that this guy was all talking rubbish. It's a good thing he called us, because sometimes he just goes somewhere and switches his phone off and then we get all worried so much. Yes, seeing his condition we were extremely patient with him last night. Really, the way he was talking last night with a professor, I was ashamed to hear some of that, I pity him. Yes, he perfectly understands us but it's some of things he tells us that worries us. We asked him if he had eaten anything last night, he didn't give a clear answer. And we brought food for him, he ate three times, and we guessed he had not eaten the entire day. Those medications are extremely important. We are there for him right now, but what about later on how will he manage I am scared, and he is the only child in the family. I sympathize with his family. While he was lost, we found him in a completely malnutritioned state, some stranger was grateful enough to look through and try to reach his contact, otherwise God knows what could have happened. The stranger told him, he was walking in the rains, wandered about aimlessly like a mad person. I was shocked hearing that. Later we came to know that he had paid someone nearly $1000 and was scared to tell his parents about it, and taking that deeply as ever, stopped taking his medication and then so much happened and he just got onto some random train and went away, probably trying to find an escape from all of it.

I'm not quite sure but it's because of famine that makes him unstable. Usually, a person would try to escape from reality because of the problems around him. Other than losing a big amount of money, he had experienced hunger and that makes him imagine something to makes him feel better. Another thing is sleep. A person who lacks sleep especially that is mentally illed is difficult to handle. His delusions and hallucinations occur frequently. It is important that he has 8hours of sleep. Once and for all, his med is really important. It could make more in touch with the real state and could make his system in good state. I think you know what I mean. The neurotransmitters that affects his mood needs to be controlled by the meds so he is talking nuts and mumble things that we can't understand. It is also good to know that he listens, but be wary because he might not follow it. Check on him from time to time. Had his father arrived? Makes him feel that he is loved and despite of his mistakes, you still accept him and willing to forget about it. Make him feel that he belongs, so he will follow you and be inspired in his medications

Yes, his father arrived yesterday noon and took him away. We were relieved of our duties, which was to be honest not easy. He wouldn't want to sleep and just keep talking anything, we had to give him sleeping pill to make him sleep from his restlessness and it kicked on later on, as he slept late and woke up in the afternoon right when his dad arrived. Yes, it is really very important that he never skips his medicine, because whenever he does, he starts acting really weird. Last day he freaked out one of my other friends, who was not able to understand what he wanted to say, and thanks to him we got to know that our friend here is in trouble, again. Yes, we always try to make him feel at home, make him feel independent and comfortable because they really wouldn't want to feel like a restrain, otherwise it would really mess things up so we need to be careful about that. We just want to help, we want that he contacts us when he feels like he is in trouble, that is all we want, because we can't keep a check on him all day long everyday, we can from time to time but we all got our own things running it is not easy. Anyways, we pray that God lead him the right direction and that we know when things are getting out of hand, hope he recovers and forgets whatever happened and come join us soon.

Yes friend. That is what concerns us, because friends can do what they can but they cannot nurse him everyday like that. His father is on way to take him back home and I hope he recovers from it soon.