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I agree with you. Hitting them regularly isn't good. Instead of hitting them, we should just talk to them in a nice way and let them realize their mistakes. I hope that my kids will not hurt other children and I hope that he will not bring up his own children using his dad's strategy, and that's hitting. I hope he will eventually become more responsible to his studies so that he won't be scolded anymore. I know Grade 2 students are still that naughty. I remembered my naughty classmates way back elementary.

Yes, I already talked to him many times. I don't know why he usually forgets. He knows about his dad's temper. I hope he will learn his lesson soon.

Maybe it can help if you speak with your child after that so as to explain everything to him like why his dad hit him or how he can avoid being hit.

Our son is already 8 years old and I think that he's quite old to understand what we mean. I want him to be considered as an adult now. I mean, no more hitting. He only needs to know what he did is wrong and he should not do it again, etc. I want my husband to talk to him in a nice way. I also don't want him to do the sermon during meal time. I usually lose my appetite and destroy our bonding moments. We only see each other on weekends but he still ruins my time with them. Last Sunday evening while we were having our dinner, he hit the top of my son's head with a spoon. We fought about that and I was sorry about my child. I got mad at them. I really said everything I wanted to say. My husband almost hit me because I couldn't shut my mouth but I didn't care. I dare him to touch me and it will be the end of our marriage. He shouldn't try my patience.

I mean where does he go the rest of the week if he comes home only in the weekends?? I can see that your hubby is not that attached to your son. And being away from home can be the reason number one.. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

I am the one away and he's the housekeeper. He's with my son most of the time. LOL. I can't go home from work every night because transportation isn't available. I have to stay in another city on weekdays and I go home on Saturdays and spend time with them until Monday mornings.

Oh, yes. That's right. The way his parents brought him up should be different with the way we should bring up our child or children. If his experiences were that bad then he should not let his son to undergo them, too. Oh, it's good that your partner never did it again. Goodluck to you too. Thanks for posting and happy mylotting. (Big hugs)

Yes, we should not hurt them I guess constant scolding, and hitting will make their self-esteem less. Instead of getting confidence, they will think that all they do aren't right. They will develop self-pity instead. Thanks a lot for posting and happy mylotting.

Young children are afraid of getting hit but I guess my son isn't already. He's already 8 and he got hit many times already. I don't want him to suffer anymore so I want my husband to discipline him by talking with him in a nice way and not by hitting him. Our son can weigh things already but I don't know what is his problem. I don't know if it's his fault or his teacher's fault. My husband always compares him to his classmates. They belong in a special class for these past few years so I guess my husband doesn't want him to be in a regular class. If he will not do his best, he might be in a regular class next school year. I don't want my son to be pressured. I just want him to learn and enjoy his studies. I don't care about the competition. If he is already old enough to know the value of education, I guess he will behave well and he will try his best to concentrate in his classes and he'll eventually get good grades. For now, he's only in Grade 2. He's not old enough to be responsible that much. Thanks for posting and happy mylotting.

But sometimes, hitting them will work but not just first on the least. Maybe if I don't have any choice anymore. :D

Oh, thank you so much. I guess you are right. I will try to do my best not to react in front of our child again. I just can't tolerate him hitting my child. He has a stick at home and he said he hit our son with it. On his chest. One time, I saw my son's leg with some bruises and he didn't tell me about it but my husband admitted that he hit our son. I'm afraid that it will cause him some traumatic experiences. I want the hurting to stop. Scolding by nagging is enough for me. Happy mylotting.

You are right. It's not good. I forgot to mention "head" too sometimes. I will discuss it with him the next time he will get angry. The last he got angry, he told me to bring our son with me already and he also with leave the house. I know he didn't really mean it. So, I told him " Why, are you already giving up your role as his father?" LOL. We reconciled after that. I hope there will be no next hitting, etc.

Oh, that really hurts. Something to use on hitting is ok instead of our own hands. Because we use our hands in caring them. But not to hit a child on the chest or legs. Usually, on the palm or on their butts. And not that hard that may cause bruises. Maybe you should discuss that with your husband, that it will not be safe anymore for your son. (Maybe its the way his parents disciplined them).

I guess my husband is very stubborn. He likes to do his way of disciplining our child. I told him that if he was brought up that way, I hope he won't do it with his child. He doesn't listen to me. We've fought about this many times already. I am telling him that this can cause some traumatic experience. I hope he'll change in the future. Thanks for posting and happy mylotting.

If the spanking is not that harsh I guess it's okay and it should be seldom. My husband's hands are quite strong. I think he can't control his anger sometimes. He should watch his temper. Thanks for posting and happy mylotting.

I guess you areright. I hated my father because he was so strict and he hit me when I was young. LOL. My husband also hates his father until now when he remembers the way he disciplined them before. I hope he will not become like his father. I told him that he should cheange his style because he's like father. Thanks for posting and happy mylotting.

Oh, children nowadays act older than their real age. I hope they will behave well so that they won't get so much scoldings. Yeah, we have to remind ourselves that they are just children. Goodluck to all of us in raising our children. Thanks a lot for posting and happy mylotting.

Yes, I agree with you. Scolding is better than hitting them. I hope our son won't lose respect to us. I'll do my best to talk to him abut his mistakes. Thanks for posting and happy mylotting.

I guess our son is reflecting about his faults too; however, he's so forgetful. Sometimes his teachers tells them some thing and he forgot to tell his dad. My husband asks other students and wonders why my son doesn't tell him. I guess my son isn't that attentive at school because he's talkative. I hope the teacher will correct him and be strict but what they do is tell my husband about his behavior and my husband will do the scolding and maybe spanking. He has a bad temper.He doesn't know how to manage it.

Yes, I believe in that saying. I want to apply that in our lives. I guess it's not yet late to correct our mistakes. Thanks a lot. Happy mylotting.