Can I talk to someone? Will you listen?
By jdalaqui
@jdalaqui (1073)
Philippines
October 16, 2012 10:43am CST
Seldom we can find a person who is willing to listen. Naturally people want to talk and talk without listening. I remember an occasion when someone was upset at me because I am not willing to listen to what he is saying... And that was my turning point from being a talker to a listener. How much do you listen? Someone is wishing to be heard. Will you listen?
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@haojie_yu (88)
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17 Oct 12
if I said I'm listening, Does that also means you still a talker?
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@haojie_yu (88)
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17 Oct 12
That's great, let's put this rule on table, do you have any details for this?
I will look forward to talk with you, really.
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@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Hi haojie, thanks for your thought provoking question. If you and I will come together, surely, we will be conversing. If I talk, I will make it sure you have the time to talk, and when you talk, I will wait for the time you give me the time. Thanks again.
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@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Hi Zandi, thanks for commenting. Yes of course we don't want someone who monopolize the conversation. If the other person is just wasting our time we should excuse our selves away. But there real people who needs our care, our attention and our fair judgment, we must give them time...
@Gracia2010 (282)
• Thailand
17 Oct 12
You will be one of the lucky person if you will come and share your thoughts to me because i am a one big listener. I am amazed with my this incredible aspects of mine in which friends or even new people i met don't bother to open up the things in front of me. I am approachable and always do listen with compassion.
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@flydog99 (25)
• China
17 Oct 12
Hi jdalaqui:
I am really want to be a good listener for being a good listener is a precious virtue.Listening carefully to each other shows our mutual respect and make the eye contact more easily.So listening to others is a wonderful art based on the beauty of language.
Listen more,care more,and it really make sense.
Happy mylotting!
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Hello flydog99, thanks a lot for your thought shared here. You are exactly right. The attitude of listening is a vertue. We respect each other when we listen to what other had to say. And yes, eye contact should be carefully observed because that gesture that we are really listening and not thinking of any other thing.
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@laglen (19759)
• United States
16 Oct 12
I am a bartender so my job is to listen to people. I will hear what you are saying but I won't remember much, this is intentional, people tell me a lot of personal things. Due to this, I am less likely to listen to people otherwise. There is only so much you can hear. As for myself, rather than talking to people, I prefer to write it out. Generally when you want to talk to someone it is to use them as a sounding board. Well writing things out will usually give you the same results. We usually fix things ourselves anyway. And by keeping it to yourself, you don't have to answer to someone about your decisions.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
hi laglen, if your a bartender and won't listen, you might regret a lost job very soon. But you are a good listener as a bartender and that's good. I also admire your passion in writing which is a good way of expressing your thought. Okay, let's take your position positively, "It's better to write down things while someone speaks or talks more than interrupting someone.
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@laglen (19759)
• United States
18 Oct 12
When I am at work, I listen, with out interruption, with out opinion. People do not really want your opinion (most times), they just need to get things off their chest. This I offer. My writing is for me, I do it in private and it is my way of getting things off my chest.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Oct 12
hi jdalaqui Yes I will listen as my son when he was young made me realize that while I thought I was listening I was actually doing
three things at once which meant I was not really listening with all my heart.that woke me up and I from then on put do what I had been doing and really did pay attention to what the other person was actually saying,. Now I am a really good listener,. thank goodness for that.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
Hi Hatley, thanks for that and I admire such parent who really gives time to listen to their kids. Often times we parents are so busy and tired to have a wonderful moment listening to our kids' story. Sooner of later they will look for someone to talk to and it might be that they will fall in the hands of bad influences. The ability to listen good is not easy, it's nice to hear that you really do.
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
16 Oct 12
I think I learned the art of listening while doing some voluntary work, the essence of which involved listening and just being there for people. It turned me from a total chatterbox who never really took the trouble or the time to hear what anyone else was saying, as I was so self-obsessed and caught up in my own little world. Nowadays I tend to listen rather than do the talking. The only problem with that is, often nobody's willing to listen to me, yet they come to me each time they want to offload, because they know I won't interrupt them. Would be nice to be listened TO sometimes, also.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Hi CelticSoulSister, what a beautiful name you have. Thanks for sharing that interesting story. O yes, we desire to be listened to. Isn't good when you are given a chance to just talk at time? But in your case, you are becoming a blessing to many because they trust you, they need you and they sought you. What can I suggest is to find few who are more mature than you whom you can also share your burden with, Friends who won't hesitate to listen.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
I guess I prefer listening than talking. There are some cases thought that I also prefer talking. When I am with some acquaintances who aren't that close to me, I prefer listening; however, when I am with my friends, colleagues and my family, I prefer to talk more. Sometimes my mood isn't good that I don't want to listen at all. I guess when I am stressed. I am willing to listen if someone wants to share his or her problem. Happy mylotting.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
It's my pleasure. Oooops, I wrote "thought" instead of "though." Yes, I will continue to be a listener so that when it's my turn to talk someone will also listen to me. Thanks for the reply. Happy mylotting.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Hi angelkarah, thank you for taking time to share a thought in this forum. It makes a lot of difference when we listen. I think you noticed that also. People will thank you or appreciate you more when you listen to their stories and sentiments. Just keep on listening...
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@champan (513)
• Argentina
16 Oct 12
I find really important to listen.
Of course everyone has their own formation, their knowledge and their things to say. But there is a world out there, there are other things we certainly didn't experienced, and perhaps other did.
I think life is a lot about acquaring knowledge and experiencies from others, that complement what we already know.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Hi chapman thanks for sharing you thoughts. I agree with you. Often people come to us to be heard and sometimes we find it heavy on our part because because we maybe bombarded with other peoples problem but on the other end, we can learn form their experiences.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
16 Oct 12
hi, i am more of listening type. My friends just get bored after going on talking and talking, they ask me to speak up at least few words. hehe, they are very understanding and play jokes a lot. but still i do try to speak sometimes, and when ever i start speaking,my friends listen to me , as if they never know me.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Hi prashu228, thanks a lot for joinin in here. I think you're a bit quite kind of person. Your friends must have tired jaws talking while you're just listening but it's not bad, you're an asset to the group. Just imagine when you always talks who would listen? that's why they have you.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
16 Oct 12
All of us wanted to be listened . Sometimes we don't even need other's approval or understanding but we need someone who will just listen . listening without judging but listening with a heart. Some can hardly give it , when it doesn't cost much , does it friends ? Give it now , lend your ears who knows next day it will be you who will be needing it.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Hi angel pink, what a beautiful thought for all of us today. All of us needs to listen to, and thus we should listen with a heart and genuine concern. People notice at once when we are tired listening to them but they will treat you as a blessing when you just try to be patient a little bit to listen with a real concern.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Hi Tongcv. Thanks for joining in. Well, most often people come to us to talk about useless things but what shall we do? They are burdened about about it so they want to speak it out and not just speak it out but to speak it out to someone who is willing enough to listen even to their non-sense bubbles. When we listen, can help them.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 12
I find that being a listener, is better than a talker, talking is easy, it can be done by every people, but not everyone can listen to what you are saying. It will be a wonderful world if more people realize that.
@jdalaqui (1073)
• Philippines
17 Oct 12
Hi wongchoiyee, thanks again for sharing your thoughts here. Every one wants to be heard but few are those who wants to listen. Oh how quit and peaceful our social world could be when we learn to talk less and listen more. That would be very helpful.
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Wow :D I actually find myself approachable. This is even 1 of my fiverr gig. "Be your friend til you wanna keep me, "listen when you're feeling down".
I have always love to talk with people. Whenever I'm done with some tasks, I make myself available for chats with friends. It's feels good whenever they share problems with you, it makes me think that I am an effective outlet of their emotions. It makes me feel that they find comfort in talking with me ^^.
and yes- i do listen a lot :$