It hurts to love

I think some people get confused on what love is sometimes. Love isn't being obcessed with someone. Nor is it feeling like love hurts. That is when you are not sure of yourself and are feeling a lack of self esteem. If you don't have this person inlove with you then you are lacking in some way and that isn't true. Young people need to calm down and be sure of who they are and what they need and want in a relationship and another person before they delve into love.

Love is meant to make you happy, To hurt is not in its destiny. Your heart should see What the mind meant us to be. The heart has its own reason that Reason doesn't even know. The mind sees every path To guide us the way to go.

I am on my 4th marriage & I believe I loved the first three men I was married to. I also had a couple of serious relationships that I thought was going to be my "true love forever". But, each love was different. I learned something with each relationship too. I think it is important to learn something from everything we do in life.. including love. I chose to end all three of my previous marriages. Even though I chose to end it, I still hurt because I loved them. You didn't go into any details about why you will never be together but if it is a situation where the other person cannot love you back, you are better off to deal with the pain & let it go. We can't force someone to love us back. Well, we can force it, but the relationship will most likely not work out and we will hurt in the end. Once we understand that and deal with it, we can move on to find someone who wants our love & can return the love. If you stay focused on someone who cannot love you back, you may let your one true love slip by. Sometimes I think we cause ourselves more pain by dwelling on something that we cannot change. I was determined to never be in another relationship because I apparently wasn't good at it. I stayed single for 6 years. Then, a friend of mine told me that her husbands cousin wanted someone to ride on the motorcycle with him... just friends. That sounded great to me! Long story short, we became very close friends and fell in love. I believe he is my soul-mate. We are now married. Good luck! I wish you the best.