If things get tough, true colors will show
By homeshoppers
@homeshoppers (6166)
Philippines
October 18, 2012 4:42am CST
I used to lost a lot of friends even those i considered to be so closed nor best friend during the time of my so called downfall, though some of the was able to comeback when i already stood up then when i need help again though not financial help but they are no where to found. It's like they are only good for good times but not for bad times. Isn't it friends specially best friends supposed to be with you no matter what either bad or good?
What do you think guys what will i do to those people or can i still consider them as friend or probably just a casual friend same as friends that i just meet that i just say hi and hello and a small talk and that's it.
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7 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
I belong to a huge group of friends from high school. Some of them have been my classmates since elementary. And eventhough we have been part of this group, not all can be called as your great, true friends. I know, coz the real friends I have would always have time to send me a message just to ask how I am and they would be there for me whenever I need someone to talk to and of course, they don't need to see my birthday listed on the Facebook calendar just to be reminded of it. Time and distance is no issue for real, good friends.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Your right even if they are not around or if they are too far at least they can have time to left a message for you to make you feel that somehow they still remember you. Thinking that someone car for us already make us feel great. Though its not really easy to find good friends now a days somehow they are only there if they need you but they will just be gone if somehow you ask them for favor its like they only want to receive but not to give.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Your right, i don't think they still deserve to be called as friend probably i can just consider them now as somehow i used to know before![](/Content/images/emotes/rofl.gif)
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
I'd rather not waste my time with these "so-called friends". Once they have disappointed me, it is enough for me to know that my relationship with them ends there. I no longer expect them to be part of any of my most memorable events in my life. I could remain civil with them, but that is just it.
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@rahmabaegood (166)
• India
19 Oct 12
Sometimes Friends are just superficial and light. They don't want any responsibilities from their friend, they just want to be happy and do something make them happy with their friends. So, helping others and empathy never exist in their mind... But of course, not all friends like that... :)
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Yeah your right, thats your lucky if you have one that always there through thick or thin for better or for worse. So sad i don't have one i wish to have one hehehe
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
@ rahmabaedgood thanks for the advice though i guess i should just avoid people like them who are only good for good times.
@rahmabaegood (166)
• India
19 Oct 12
Just my advice, sometimes people want prove that you're worthy of their love/sacrifice, so show them first that you care with them, boldly. And subtlely tell them that they also must do the same to you. Something like that, do with your own twist.
2. Be yourself, people like people who confident & full of smile (attracting people).
3. Be a bit mysterious, it is like don't show all things to them, make them always interested to you.
Hope it helps, sometimes yes, we must action first, and sometimes we need to do the bold face to face way, and sometimes a bit manipulation is ok, to get many friends and to maintenance friendship. Something like that, u know better than me :)
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@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
I like your topic title, 'if things get tough, true colors will show'...definitely true!
we can actually assess the person that we think our friends if we are in our downiest moment... those who stay are indeed our true friends! those who have not get in touched, maybe busy and has no time to condole us in our time of sorrows...
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Your right though if they have no time they can just text or call or probably left a message which is not a big deal for them than not responding at all even if we used to text a lot even that same day but when i ask them a favor they stop texting me. Though im not asking them for money i just told them to represent as witness that me and my ex had relationship for our daughter's papers coz were planning of changing her name to follow his father's name. if they don't like to get involve they can just sorry and that they don't want to get involve than not responding at all and its already a week now, i really hate it so i removed the all in my facebook friends and even in my ym and cellphone. I mean they are the best person to know that me and y ex had relationship than my family coz i never even introduce him to my family before then i became pregnant that time.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
18 Oct 12
Good friends are not "seasonal". They are always there for you whether it's the season of "plenty" or the season of "famine". Those who went M.I.A. at the time you needed friends the most shouldn't be considered as a good friend. I am not saying that you should sever all ties or connections with these kind of people. Just hang out less with them, especially if they are only there because you're doing well. Chances are, they are only using you.
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Thats right, ended true friends are hard to find, you can't even tell who is real and who is fake as some are only good during the good season. Though i just felt bad as i never left my friends when they are down i stayed and keep them warm with my constant messages and visit to them and called the to make them feel im here willing to help even if not for money.
@rizzaspeaks (391)
• Philippines
18 Oct 12
They say, the best can never be the truest but the truest will always be the best.
Only in your lowest times you can attest who your real friends are. We may have many acquaintances, some people may like us 'coz they can see our good sides but when you're broken, they aren't there. One should be more careful in choosing her friends than choosing her enemies.
Guess the best way to find a true friend is to be like one:)
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Though real friends is hard to find, those people who will stick with you through happiness and sadness, someone whom you expect to offer their helping hand and extend they shoulder for you to cry on and hold for. But i was wrong, they are only there during the happy times and those times that i can give a lot.
@lymsnb (223)
• China
18 Oct 12
in our life , we can make many friends , but the real friends or best friends forever is a few ,follow your heart , according to your condition, choose who are your best friends forever, the best friends is thet when you sad or sorrow and still stay in the side of you , if he or she is your real friend , never take away from you ,if you also love her ,please set it free, if he can reback you ,it is your ,the same with people , if it doesn't , it never was !
@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Yeah thats true though i used to have best friends but wasn't there during my downfall then they come back and shown themselves in my facebook when they saw me with my daughter with my job and when my daughter's father come back. They might think that time that im in need of money and i will ask money from them though now that i need someone to present themselves for my daughter papers since were in the process of changing her documents they never even bother to respond like if its alright if they can be the witness that me and my daughter's father was in relationship before and that our daughter is our baby. As a friend they can just say sure since they are aware of it but they dont even bother to respond, i was upset coz we've been texting each other and when i mentioned that to them they're just gone again. Maybe they don't want to get involve with my life but why they come back for what? just for the sake of friendship? we just used to have good times before during college and become closed friends after and even when we got our job we always went out.
@riyauro (6421)
• India
18 Oct 12
I have seen many people like this. and yes now the criterion to make friends is also there. people want to be friends with those who have money... anyway so these people are not your fiends for real they should be more like hi hello bye ones. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.
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@homeshoppers (6166)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Yeah sometimes other people just based their friendship if you have money so they can ask more favor from you but when times get harder and you will be the one whose asking for favor they will just simply gone, its not that they can't give it as they can just simply say sorry i really can't help than be gone at all without even a message to your phone.
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