I Messed Up...

Recently I got tired of getting a tongue lashing on facebook from a friend because she was SO shocked to find out I was an evil conservative! So I responded with a tongue lashing of my own saying how many can get a bit belligerent about politics but she gets downright nasty (cause she does!) and then she acts like she's the victim and is just SO offended. I felt bad after I posted it, well a couple of days later.. but I may have gotten away with it, as sometimes it's easy to miss someone's responses.. especially if you're one who likes to take a good swipe and then disappear, which is something else I think she does.. (not listen to any responses that is, but maybe that was just as well this time!) I guess I just got tired of all the "this group of folks I disagree with are all stupid, I know it and that's all there is to the whole matter!" attitude..

I think as long as you apologize and say how truly sorry you are and that it was wrong to take your anger out on them, then I think it'll be ok. I'm sure the person knows what you're like and that the email you sent was completely out of your character. But I know how you feel. Sometimes if I'm really upset and mad about something I'll take it out on my boyfriend and I hate myself for that. He could be acting so sweet to me and out of nowhere my anger gets the best of me and I lash out. I immediately feel horrible when I see the look on his face and he just gets quiet. It's a bad habit that both of us used to have but he's gotten much better about. I think I've gotten better too because I talk to him about it all and he'll just apologize and that's when I realize that it's not his fault at all. After he apologizes for me having a bad day he'll usually hug or kiss me and tell me not to worry and things will get better.

The only person I've really ever gone off on in an e-mail is my sister. And believe me, she deserved it. However, on the occasions I've done it, I've usually regretted it. I try to wait a day before responding, just to let the anger cool. I want to make sure what I want to say doesn't change before I send it.

Oh believe me I have done that afew times. Usually I do sleep on it. Now that is but when I was younger my anger would get the better of me. Felt like kicking my own butt, yes. Atleast we knew we did wrong and I will work on not doing this again. I do better now and usually let it go for awhile and see how I feel in a period of time. But this is after years of experience.

Yes I have messed up like that quite a few times with different people over the years.. I used to say what ever was on my mind and not thinking about anything except for what I was going to say next... I have apologized and they forgave me.. I kicked myself in the butt.. It took awhile for me to forgive myself with a couple situations.. I am learning to think before I speak and sometimes its better to say nothing at all then to say something that I may regret later.. I hope things calm down for you between you and your friend

I have lashed out at people in the passed. But I don't remember doing it through email before. Anyway, I always apologize if and when I would do that. Basically right away. It might take me some time to come down from that adrenalin rush, but after that I would apologize. I understand because I have been there. It happens, and remember, we are only human. We are not perfect.

hi LovingMyBabies oh yes I did that with my husband once and it was not even his fault, I was upset over something and then he said something that just pushed me over the edge and I just dumped on him.I felt like an utter fool as I was not angry at him, just that he talked when I was still in a lashing out mood. I apologized and he accepted it with the kind of stuff that ended us up in the bedroom.nice way to settle hurt feelings lol lol.

I have been in sitautions like this before. It most cases the other person will forgive me after I apologize. Sometimes it takes a little time sometimes alot of time! I have the bad habit of overacting at times and that what usually gets me in trouble! Your discussion got me thinking about something at work today,that happen. One of our pantry women could not find her kindle fire.She looked everywhere and then accused one of the cooks,who she idiolizes,of taking it and hiding it! the cook,Chris,said no and reminded her she once couldn't find it at work,on a different day and it turned she left it at home! Chris woulb not do anything like that! The women,Kelly,is very immature and sometimes a know it all! Kelly did find it! It was on the self by the time clock! She must of dropped it and someone picked it up and set it there! She didn't apologize to Chris! So now Chris is really angry at Kelly and no matter what she does he won't forgive her for properly for a month or so! Seen this before! He will hate her,she will be miserable and then Chris will forgive her and they become buddies again! The moral to the story is Kelly is 25 is a spoiled brat and must times thinks the universe revolves around her! She needs to get her drivers license and move away form her parents! She really needs to grow up!

Yes i have done this but i have never apologized. I am that bad and mean sometimes and i'm too proud to admit that i have committed such a mistake. I admire you for having that courage to apologise, that courage alone is worth taking note already and i believe that person would understand and forgive you if that person knows you well. I do regret treating people that way sometimes when i'm not in a good mood. But like i said i never apologized. Maybe i will when it happens again. But i'm much careful now and i do a lot of thinking first to calm myself down before talking to others especially foreign friends. So you are a much better person than me and stop feeling guilty.

Hi LMB, We have a bad hair day maybe you had one yesterday and if you already said sorry and this person forgive you then nothing to worry about. Well it happened to me but if I found out that I am wrong I immediately ask forgiveness to that person happy mylotting

I think we all have done this in the past, I know I have. Nothing you can do now, but apologize. I know for myself, I tend to think maybe they are having a bad day, or stressed out.

it happens to everyone i guess that we tend to put out our frustration on something or somebody and that was the wring timing that you opened the email. i am sure that person must have understood that the email was not intentional. well don't worry all will be fine. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead.

I was always the type that pride myself on not taking my issues out on innocent people. However, there have been a few times when I just got testy with people and deeply regretted it. I have found that most people are forgiving, so don't beat yourself up about it. I would focus more on the instances that led up to it and how I could have change them. Great Topic!

Was the email rude in anyway? If it was, then you need to control you anger. To me getting angry isn't a bad thing. It doesn't necesarily fall under negative feeling but the guts to protect something worth dearly. The source of your anger is the feeling for yourself. Also,was it how deeply you have been wronged from what was written in that email to you. All ot say is, find a better way to deal with things and don't start apologizing if you know you'v been wronged. All the same, if the email wasn't rude then I suggest you aren't that much of a friendly person.

there is a reason for everything. You are human and you lashed out but you apologized, equally as important you learned something from the experience, you learned a different side of you. You also learned how to stop it from happening again and that is so vitally important. Have I done that, yes of course and if most people were honest they would admit they did it at least once in their lives.

If the person is a family member, then I think they will forgive you. If they are a friend, then it may take some time but they will forgive you too. Me? I seem to think better when I'm angry. I seem to aim better. The bottom line is that those who know and love you will forgive you.

We have probably all done it at one time or another.....and yes. I have myself...then like you said I kicked myself later and even though the person accepted my apology I think there was alot of stress afterwards!

It happens sometimes. But as I know myself and know that I have a quick temper, I read 3 times antthing before sanding it. It`s easier than when You are in front of the person. Words are then more difficult to manage. I hope the person understood and forgave you.

Actually I did it just a few days ago. I was in really bad mood when I received an email that contain a not so good thoughts- that it blew me up. I am not that bad as well, but sometimes we just can't control everything in the palm of our hands. I know I felt sorry after, but it was done, I've responded and sent my email to that person- that I regretted after.

I think everyone has been there. All we can do is apologize. If they get mad they have a whole lifetime to get glad. I've fine it. My friends have done it to me and I e done it to them. At the end if the day (or week) we are still good friends who live each other. It's like a marriage. Sometimes we go off on someone when they don't deserve it. But as friends we should be able to still be friends and not throw our friend away for it.