Where gone that feeling???

You know what? I have also been struggling to find out the answer to that question. Once, my husband and I had a huge fight. Then it came to the point that he is accusing me of falling out of love. And he said that it certainly happens to married people when they get old. But why? For one thing, I know I did not change my ways towards my husband. And if I did, it was not because i wanted it to happen. It happened coz he pushed me away. I noticed him being always with his friends most of the time. I mean, if he wishes to spend some time with them, fine by me. But what hurt me is when I ask him to go out with me or with the kids, he would say that he has no money or it is just a waste of money to go out. I grew up with loving parents. We were not rich but my parents have time for us. We had time for family bonding. So to make my story short, he has become like his father who had less time with his children because he was busy making ends meet for 6 children. My husband isn't a workaholic like my father in law. He has a lot of time with other stuff other than for us his family. So, tell me?

The rush of meeting the person of course will be gone forever but if you think about that was an illusion, it wasn't real so it's not really nice. I think that feeling only exist to put people together, to overcome walls that we create during life. Now if we love the person we'll do it forever. I don't know about you but when he's sleeping it's when I look at him and know that I love him and always will. That'd I'd die before something happened to him and I would defend him till my last breath.

If you really take time to get to know someone before commiting oneself to them then all the stages after marriage will be good. Married life does have some stages. The 'honey moon stage' is that one that happens first. You are inlove so deeply and the other person can do no wrong. ANd you both treat eachother nicely and with respect. But there comes a time when you both begin to take eachother for granted and you the respect and special feeling you once had. The trick is not to let that happen. Always be searching for some way to show your love for the other.

If love in marriage is based on lust and selfish motives ,then when your selfish intentions are met or the physical beauty of your partner is enjoyed for long,you become tired of the relationship and love starts to disappear and when love takes backseat,then blame start to come in front.Both the partners will find fault with each other and then their old love is replaced with bitterness and hatred, but Love which is based on mutual trust and understanding will grow as you advance in your martial relationship.You will understand each others shortcomings and strength and true love based on Almighty's strength will help you to dwell on your partners strength,rather than on his or her weakness.Marriage is not between perfect people but between two imperfect souls and they overcome each others limitations with the strengthening love of the Almighty.Beauty is skin deep but true love's depth is unfathomable.