Love marriage or arranged is good? Which marriage do you preffer?
By ajithlal
@ajithlal (14716)
India
13 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
hi ajith,
I want to have a love marriage because I believe in love I mean I don't want to marry someone who I don't know or my parents choice cause I am the one who will gonna live with him.
Arrange or love marriage has differences but it will work out if they want to work things out.
happy mylotting
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@ashishbhatnagar123 (10)
• India
19 Oct 12
I think that trust is very important for very relationship. If we have good trust on our partner and better understanding then any type of marriage will be successful
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Oct 12
hi ajithlal I think this depends on where we all live
as its a custom in some countire to have only arranged marriages
and I assume that they m ostley work. again I am an American 'and we pre fer to fale in love and marry the man we love. I knoe our
statistics are bad for divorces but I think this is because so many
people go inot marriage half heartedly thinkin oh if it does not
work we can just divorce.The problem is they do not think abou marrying one person foever. I married for love and stayed married to the same man for 33 years a hgppy marriage even with the ups
and down s thatlive threw us. so am for falling in love and marrying t he one you love.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
21 Oct 12
Hatley aunty:
It is good your response is selected as best response. You lived with one person for 33 years in spite of the fact you were brought up in usa. great, Number of such people in india is percentage wise high.
yes, in indian context arranged marriage is good because parents support will be there in times of need.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
19 Oct 12
I think any thing is okay, as long as the partners are in love and understand each other . Every marriage works ,if they try to put our effort.
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@puiuioandaniel (182)
• Romania
19 Oct 12
I don't believe in marrige. It's just a paper and nothig else more. If you love that person you can live with he also without that paper. And we can overcome love. If 2 persons can live toghether and they understand each other, they could survive without legal basis.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
It depends on where you are located right now. I think arrange marriage is becoming far more unpopular nowadays. Many are freethinkers and independent already and many are choosing to follow their hearts than be forced to be married to someone you do not have feelings for.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Oct 12
I live in the US and have no arranged marriage in my life at all. I have heard of alot of people who didn't want one and those who didn't mind. I wouldn't put up with such a thing. I guess it would much different if I had grown up in a society where this was the normal way of life.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
21 Oct 12
Hi ajitlal: Happiness can be found in so many different ways that there's not an only formula but if I am going to make a mistake in my life I prefer to make it because I decided to so then I prefer a love marriage. Besides arranged marriages are not part of my culture.
ALVARO
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@soorajsrs7srs (636)
• India
19 Oct 12
very good posting.i have done love marriage . me and my wife married 3 years back. the parents were opposed. so we left the hometowe and went to some other place and lived together for 2 years after 2 year our parents were ready to compromise. so now its all matter is clear
@Bhebelen14 (5194)
• Philippines
19 Oct 12
Hi ajithlal, I know some person who had an arrange marriage and it worked, they have a good family and they end up loving each other. But for me i preferred to choose the one i love and no one can able to stop me.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
19 Oct 12
I would never want an arranged marriage. I know in some countries its a custom, and may even work. But for me a marriage is all about love for one another.