had no contact with an ex for 8 years, bumped one day and everything felt fine.
By LinaSummers
@LinaSummers (25)
October 20, 2012 2:30am CST
I had a boyfriend before whom I never had contact with since the day we broke up. It was a terrible breakup, I was young then and said so many hurtful words to him, literally in enumeration. We were together for only 3 months, not a big deal for others but he is my first love. Just recently, we bumped into in other and we chatted for a while. I said sorry even if that was way back because I was really guilty for all that I said to him. It was amazing because he said asked for my forgiveness too. He said what we had was something special and that I have helped him become a better man. He also told me that he learned that we need patience in order to keep someone. Never really expected something like that from him because all the while I was thinking he was just playing around with me at that time. From that moment, I felt happy because I realize that somehow I made a difference in other people's lives. We became friends.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
I know what you mean. For the longest time, I held this grudge over my first love. We also have been together for just a few months but the impact of that separation was intense. I never wanted to speak to him again after learning something about him. It was only after 22 years were we able to talk about it. Somebody called me up then that my boyfriend was just playing tricks on me. Of course I was hurt. I didn't think of ever talking to him about it. And so after all these years, what he thought the reason why I stopped talking to him was I was just not in love with him. Now we're friends. He is happily married now.
@LinaSummers (25)
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20 Oct 12
Not really to bug you but did you just at least try to confront or ask him regarding what you have heard. I mean who knows, that somebody was just trying to destroy whatever it is you had. Then again, past is past. We really cannot change what has happened, all we can do is change our response to it. As an old song says, first scar is the deepest and I truly agree. I am glad that you became friends.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
I didn't bother asking him about it coz i got scared being a fool. I didn't want him to tell me that ir was the truth. There had been instances duribg College that we could have met again but I avoided him.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
At least all ends well
Imagine that 8 years of feeling the guilt each you remember him.
Now, there's a closure, I am sure both of you already find peace within and no more guilt feelings.
Imagine that 8 years of feeling the guilt each you remember him.
Now, there's a closure, I am sure both of you already find peace within and no more guilt feelings.@LinaSummers (25)
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20 Oct 12
Yes, you are right. Been really guilty but never really had the guts to say sorry. Some people would tell me to forget about closure during breakups, forget those crap and move on with life but sometimes closure is just as important as any beginning of a love story. We mess up, we all did. To have peace with another human being you've hurt and has hurt you makes it easier and less bulky to live each day.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
20 Oct 12
That is a good reunion. At least there wouldn't be any awkwardness if ever you guys bumped into each again. It also proves that both of you have matured and turned out to be such really good persons. I also agree with him that each relationship we had, each person we meet, will help us be the kind of person that we are today.
I am such a sucker for gossips sometimes, 
so I wanna ask, is there a possibility for a second chance? 
so I wanna ask, is there a possibility for a second chance? @LinaSummers (25)
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20 Oct 12
Indeed. I was glad even after all the heartaches, we still managed to be real friends. Nothing is really impossible. As for your question, that won't happen. Although he is still not married, he is with someone right now. Besides, he is not anymore my type. We really change but the lessons we learn from the past help us to be who we are today.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
20 Oct 12
Thats seems to happen after they have had a long time to think about it. I hope maybe you 2 can get back together again.
