opportunity is creating stress
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
United States
October 20, 2012 7:49am CST
Hubby at last minute was given some training. Well the thing is I work on his days off the training is on two of his days off that I'm already scheduled. I know I'm kinda putting the cart before the horse as it's stressful trying to find someone who can take your shift and then the fine details that go with it. At this moment I have no one to take either shift, if I call in then I'll get written up. I NEED A JOB! So that's not an option I could switch with one person but then I'd have to see what to do with the lil guy and who could watch the girls when they get off the bus for an hour. The other option would basically be the same thing except I wouldn't need someone for an hour it would be like 15 min. So I could pheasably ask one of the trust worthy neighbors if they wouldn't mind. Or if I had to see if a friend/acquaintence from school wouldn't mind picking them up from school til I got off from work. Provided either of those ladies would switch my hours for me period.
The other shift I may be able to just give away fully I have several people who could possibly take it the problem is getting ahold of anyone at this minute seeing it's not an appropriate time to call yet.
So yay for opportunity but BOO for the stress that I hate to find a replacement. Oh and one of the girls who's kinda a boss said because mgrs know I'm trying to find a replacement I'd get written up if I called in. I don't need that either. I wish hubby would of thought about this better before accepting the training. He hollers at me for worrying about money all the time but he thought about this time but not that I wouldn't be able to get rid of my shifts.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 Oct 12
I am just not quite sure why you would be written up for calling in, unless it's because they (the managers) know that you are trying to find a replacement. It's not like you can help that this came up all of a sudden. I'd enlist the help of the management themselves to help you with getting a replacement. Explain to them how important this is and that you've got a lot you have to take care of. Even if you do switch with someone, you have to manage to figure out how to get your children taken care of safely as well. Theys hould understand.
I don't understand how one write up would be getting fired, unless you've been written up several times before as well.
I hope you get it all sorted out but try not to stress. Call as soon as you are "decently able" to and explain the situation to your co-workers, hopefully one won't mind switching.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
20 Oct 12
In some jobs the managers/supervisors make you find your own replacement and they won't take that responsibility upon themselves. If I called in sick, it was one thing... I didn't have to find a replacement... but if I just needed off for a specific reason, I had to find my own replacement. Once I had committed to taking on some overtime, and then a situation arose and I couldn't work. I called in and told the supervisor the problem and she said if I did not show up for work I would be written up. I showed up, but I never agreed to work overtime again. I just let the supervisor worry about covering the shift herself. I lost money by not working overtime, but as much as I helped that supervisor and others with being their mule, they wouldn't work with me. I quit helping them out. Once a supervisor had to actually work as a med nurse herself because I would not help her out.
If she has sick days, she might just have to call in that she is sick or her child is sick... it's a lie, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do to take care of your kids when your job won't be considerate enough to work with you. 
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@GardenGerty (160936)
• United States
20 Oct 12
Wish we could help, but know that we cannot. I do realize, however, that venting can be priceless, plus we can pray for you to have the right result. I hope you find the replacements or child care options you need.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
20 Oct 12
I did resolve things for the most part it's one lil hiccup in child care issues I have to find out about hopefully soon.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
20 Oct 12
That is very stressful...my son has somewhat the same problem. He has his daughter every other week. I usually pick her up...but if it snows he has got a problem..either he calls in or he needs to find someone who can watch her for a while....I can't call in...I need my job too...dang....hope you get it all worked out!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
20 Oct 12
Child care issues is one of the MANY reasons why I just left my last job. My babysitter up and quit on me and I was left with no one and my 12 year old was watching my 5 year old for 50 + hours a week. I was going into work at 5 pm every night and getting home at around 4 am.
I hope you figure something out with your child care issues for the day in question.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
22 Oct 12
Isn't that one of the worst things that we can face. It seems like whenever we have some kind of an opportunity in our life, there is some kind of stress that goes along with it.
Now, I realize that you do need a job, but I also have to ask whether you are the main breadwinner in your home, or is your husband the main breadwinner in your home? If the answer is that your husband is the main breadwinner, he is definitely doing the right thing by taking the training that is being offered to him.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
20 Oct 12
Hi Snuggles,
I can relate to your dilemma. I wonder, do you live anywhere near your parents or your husband's parents where they could help out? It's too bad that your hubby's training was dropped on him at the last minute, because it throws a monkey wrench into the ebb and flow of your routines. I know it is stressful. It's too bad that your job won't just schedule you off those days and let you work other days. I guess the same problem would be there though if you did that, because the hubby would be working and no one to be there for the children.
I do hope that you will find someone who will be willing to take your shifts, and that you can get all the details worked out. Your friends would probably be more than willing to pitch in and help you.
I was fortunate. My parents were there for my daughter when I worked. When my mom worked with me, my dad would be the only caregiver. It was stressful at times with that arrangement because he would often lose his temper... I guess a little child was too much for him at times... but we worked it out. Hope you can.
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
20 Oct 12
His parents are 30min away (one way) and they don't drive in the dark and I would of had to leave at 8pm and this time of year it's dark by then. My parents have both passed away so I can't rely on them.
I did find someone to switch one of the shifts and take my other. I am thankful to have it taken care of... though I need to finalize the plan on child care for a short time.
