will ever consider marrying a person you don't love (romantically)
@chubbychubchub (90)
Philippines
October 20, 2012 9:47am CST
I got this friend of mine, who proposed to his childhood friend to marry him, but he doesn't love the girl (romantically). I wanted to tell him that his being unfair for both of them specially he just came from a fresh break-up from his almost 2 years girlfriend. i want him to see the reasons but knowing him, being so stubborn i just let him do what he wants.
now i'm more worried for the girl specially she's so kind and sweet and because she agreed to marry him even after she know the guy's story.
i know she's not just (marrying) helping him for a business matters. i can see thats she's marrying him because she loves him so much and i'm afraid that she will get hurt because i can see that she's looking forward to be loved by him.
i don't want to intrude their affair but knowing the real story behind them and also being a friend, i just can't help to get worried for both of them. specially i know that he's still hoping for a second chance from his ex girlfriend.
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9 responses
@babytaffster (2232)
• Chatsworth, California
19 Apr 20
You don’t necessarily need to be in love to want to get married. He might genuinely care for her and would really like to love her, and hopes that this is what will make it happen.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
I hate to say this but your friend is acting very rash. This is not a good way to start a marriage. I have a friend whose mother and father married for the same reason as the two you mentioned, they are now not in good terms. They don't sleep on the same bed anymore and they don't talk to each other anymore. her mother is now having a relationship with an old love she has and she seems happy to be with this person.
This is very unfair to the kids. I feel bad for my friend but I'm sure she's strong.
It wouldn't be good to intrude but they are adults who made their own choices despite being aware of everything.
@indiandevil (2410)
• Canada
20 Oct 12
He needs to not do this to himself or her.
The man I love did this a few years ago, because he had gotten a girl prego but he wanted to be with me. He sacrificed everything and he is from what I'm told miserable.
She even treats him poorly, and he feels stuck because of the kids and stuff.
Seriously you need to talk to this guy before he makes this mistake, because he really will become unhappy as he gets older.
@girl_thinking (1959)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
I pity the girl and judging from just this discussion, I feel that the guy is selfish. I think there is really nothing you can do about this situation but to stay close to them and offer your shoulder when one needs it. We can always give our advice but most of the time, people still do what they want to do so it would be hard to persuade the guy to stop and think first.
@toxic_lifestyle (1213)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
No of course! Marriage is created for people particularly the partners or lovers wo both love each other romantically! :)
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
20 Oct 12
Never, never, never. Id never in a million years do this. Why would someone do that? For money? or what.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
20 Oct 12
I think that this is a hard question, but you would have to think about it only if you were put in that situation because it is a hard thing to understand. I think that you can definitely be very happy and content with somebody even if you don't love them. You can have a good life and have a great time even if you don't get butterflies, and you can also have a family and be happy together. If you don't mind not having the type of love that other people might have then that's absolutely fine and it is of course up to you with what you would like to do about it.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
In every relationship, it is love that matters the most- then everything comes in random.
I will never consider marrying someone without love or any romantic relationship.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment and I don't want to live my life in full regrets.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
hi chub,
Sad to know this I am a girl and I don't want a one way relationship specially if it is life time commitment maybe your friend loves the girl but not the way he loved the past girlfriend,
happy mylotting
