Are some people just not meant for a typical life?

United States
October 21, 2012 10:43pm CST
When I was younger, I used to always think that I would get married and have "X number" of kids and their names would be this.. I would live in a house and I'd live there until I die. After falling completely head over heals in love and it crumbled, that's no longer the case. I don't want to get married or have any kids. I don't want to "settle" down and be trapped there forever. I want to travel the world, have a great career, and have a few close friends i can have fun with. Is there something to be said for being independent and not raising a family? What do you think? Why do many people want to "settle" down anyway?
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
You are maybe at the height of your career and that you are so engrossed with the success that you are having that you no longer think of having a partner for life. But think about this- who will be there with you to share your success? wouldn't you want to have somebody to come home to every night after a long day's work? who will take care of you when you are sick? wouldn't you want to grow old with that special someone?
• United States
23 Oct 12
I totally get what you mean. That used to be my dream. But now, I just don't see it in the cards for me. Some people need that one person out there to make them whole...while others, are completely fulfilled with just who they are. Selfish? I dont really think so.. I guess it's just independence. As silly as it sounds, I'm completely okay with taking care of myself. My dreams still hond on to a few things like that, but my realities tell me that, that isn't who I am. Relationships are too serious for me. Who says we need a label in order for it to be love? I just want someone who is okay with just being together... not in a rush to get married, have kids, or any of that. Just someone to be there.. even if they are just friends. I don't want to feel tied down or trapped. I'm also a very modest person. I don't want to be the center of attention for all my successes. Half the time, after a long days work, I just want to lay down, read, write, or anything solitary. I guess this just shows there's a large diversity of people out there. For me, I just don't want to live the stereotypical life. Thanks for your comment!
@anaknitatay (1335)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
this is really very profound. I guess we are wired to seek out family and companions to be with and most people decide to fulfill this need they should marry and start a family.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
22 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your feelings and very well and it is quite to have dreams like this. But it is very much disappointing when we realize the hard core reality and feel it extremely difficult to accept it. There is absolutely no issues in living an independent life and not on anyone's terms. U can take your decision to get settled at any time and until then enjoy your life to the fullest. What say?