Think twice before giving out love letters...

hello en I thought you are the one who send this guy back home

She may have felt afraid. He may have also approached her. She could have told him already to leave her alone. In this instance, in the eyes of the law, he is considered a danger to that woman. Once you become a danger to someone you are subject for deportation. What country wants a dangerous stalker? Not having access to the article I don't know exactly what happened. But it is much easier to deport him than for the woman to have to disrupt her whole life and move to get away from him. My sister knew a woman who was being stalked. The police had told the man to stay away, but there are only certain limitations. Like stay at least 400 yards from her house. But he still was in plain view of her. She feared for her life and moved from Missouri all the way to Alaska to escape this guy. I will look for the article. Very interesting.

I know that it seems sad because of what happened but love does conquer all. I would think that deportation would be the last resort and maybe it was. This story albeit sad would make for a great story either in a book or for a movie, not just to sensationalize it but for people to know that love is the strongest emotion we have and even though it seems like the story is over, I think its just beginning.

I assume this happened in Phillipine because I don't think this would happen here in US (although I would not be so sure). First, did this guy really know the lady? Second, was this the only letter on one windshield? Did he also try to place letters on other windshields belonging to female drivers? If this was the only one or lady he was aiming for, then I don't get the authority's handling. If he did it on other ladies, then he was asking for trouble.

Well, if he really is becoming a stalker, it would be just proper to have him reported to the police. I would do the same too, if a man is so persistent.

I feel that it is not the right way to behave or react to a boy who just shared the personal love to her. May be refusing it and just react to it little harsh is quite OK but this punishment is quite big Anyway bad luck to the boy

I don't think love is a crime. It is meant to be a romantic feeling. Loving behavior may be based on the feeling of being in love. The man posted a love letter which mentioned proposing marriage to her. It was unfortunate that she didn't feel the same. It was crazy that he is being deported for falling in love with a lady. It was sad he was put in jail for several months. The police thought he was stalking her. Maybe the man was an illegal immigrant. I hope that man finds a lady that can fall in love with him. Mutual feelings are necessary for a relationship or indeed marriage.

I believe he is being deported for committing a crime - stalking as opposed to writing a love letter or expressing his love. Being a foreign national, I don't think any country would want to waste their limited resources on such petty crime or criminals especially during this economic crisis. Deportation should be enough to deal with this minor misdemeanor which is already a big pinch on his wallet and career opportunity as far as your country is concern.

Hello enelym, What is the whole story about this incident? i don't know how these two started talking or how the girl rejected or was the girl even rejected this guy. I don't want to judge the girl immediately, maybe the guy did a lot of stalking or threats something like that before she got pissed and have him notify to the immigration. some guys shouldn't push it if the girl doesn't like you.

HI godmom Well, I dont think this is love affair. This is a kind of obsession. "But she got no interest on him" - indicates that this is one sided and again, the guy has done this for the second time... so should fall under obsession. And yes, the rules at some places are harsh and for the good. We do get news here that the jilted lover throws acid or stabs the girl if she denies his proposal and many a times nothing serious in terms of action from the cops.

The boy must be afraid that lady may say something to him or may insult her. What I feel if the boy really have the interest in her then he should have gone forwards and should have disclosed her feeling to her. At the most what she would have? She may have rejected it or may have given the thought over it.

Now no writing world only sms or call. You are right before write a love letter we should not only twice but think many times because writing never be deleted. This is not good way to express the feeling through letters. Because someone can get the benefit of this.

hi en, I pity him maybe he really loves the girl well we can't never say what he really did before it's kinda sweet if the girl has feelings to him. maybe there is a law stating that anyone who is not a citizen that do such act can be deported also maybe the girl complain that she is being stalk happy mylotting

Well,it's too pity..it seems loving someone has a risky adventure.So i wonder if the guy was too much pushing.I had made a mistake when i were young.Then i loved her but didn't know what she did feel about me.I wanted to get letters to use but things seemed too urgent.So i got her directly face to face,"will you marry me?" She was shocked,"but who are you?"

Hello enelym, I think it was so sad to him, but maybe she felt harrashed by him. I think we should set limits to ourselves. We should be sensitive when somebody is rejecting us. We should stop by ourselves. Don´t you think so? But it´s so sad to know about this guy. I hope good luck to him for the next time! Don´t you think so? Blessings enelym... dainy

When a person from another country comes to the US it is on a visa.. There is usually a time limit and then the person has to go back to their country.. I know of three types; work, school, and touristism.. Now while the person is in the US if they get married to a US citizen they automatically become a citizen.. (at least thats the way it was before 9/11 things may have gotten a little harder) So this guy might have really loved this girl but she wasnt interested.. or he wanted to become a US citizen and she turn him in.. Now there is another way to become a legal citizen of the US; this takes lots of work but it can be done... If it was for love, I feel sorry for the guy.. If it was for other reasons; he got what he deserved...

I am not so sure either.. since we are not the woman, so we can't really tell exactly how she felt.. Maybe the guy was staling her for so long, she got scared or something. Although i do pity the guy, loving someone one-sidedly is really hurtful.o

i bet the guy was really hurt. i think the lady's act was unkind. she should have the guy only reported and not deported. what a sad way of expressing your love. thanks for sharing the news! was it on tv or internet? haven't watched tv a long time ago.

Hi Enelym001, loving is not a crime but being obsess too much, then stalking and harassing is not cool. What he did sound romantic but not romantic at all if he did it after so many rejection and stalking the girl for so long, I think she did the right thing by report him. We dont know when his obsession would turn to be a psychotic act, he might kidnap or harm her. But hey, can we make a different scenario? What if the woman starts missing him after his deportation

That does seem pretty harsh, but I guess not knowing the details and how long he "pursued" this lady its hard to say if he was "obsessed" with her. OR was she over reacting and using the law as a weapon. Both scenarios are plausible. Did that happen in the USA? There's an unfortunate number of people who do use are laws as weapons and to invoke spite, unfortunately the law has to treat every complaint as serious and we also have an inordinate number of DA's who simply want to become a judge and don't care about the circumstances of a case and whether not their witness is telling the truth. So that SAID, its always hard to say what the real situation is in any case. The guy could be completely over the top or just a guy taking a shot at a marriage proposal, now he's rejected and deported. You would think a little jail time would be enough, tho if he had priors I guess they come down pretty hard. Yeah, getting a note on ones car with a proposal would be kind of romantic if it came from someone you wanted to ask you. Although you might want something bigger and more elaborate from an actual boyfriend. So its probably kind of expected from a guy who probably knows the answer is no.