How Essential to a Couple to have child?
By montevilla
@montevilla (550)
October 22, 2012 7:21am CST
Its happiness to a couple to have a child and it would completed that so called "FAMILY".
But how about those couple who hasn't not been blessed to conceive a child? How would they feel about it.
In my case, having a child is one part of happiness in my marriage ,but it does not mean this all what it means by complete family.
If my wife and I will be blessed of a child, I will be happy and more thanks the God for that blessing. In some cases if ever that me and I my wife will not be blessed of a child I will be satisfied knowing that my wife still there for me.
In my thought,children is not only the happiness of a married couple.
What's your take about this?
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9 responses
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
23 Oct 12
my father and stepmother have been married for 20+ years and they do not have any kids. however, my father does have me and my sisters. :) we were plenty for my stepmother. :) as long as you're committed to each other, that's what counts the most.
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
23 Oct 12
also, my ex husband's brother has been married for 18 yrs and they don't have children either. they spoil each other!
@montevilla (550)
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23 Oct 12
I think you have a point here.It will be nice if all couples are the same like you had just mentioned.Children is a part of happiness but it will not be always the reason of happiness of married couples.
Thank you for responding
@celticeagle (168269)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Oct 12
Some couples don't care to have children. They care more about their lifestyles and feeling free. While others want children very badly and even go to specialists to help with this endeavor. SOme women feel both Romantically and perhaps old fashioned that having a man's child is the true showing of her love for him.
@montevilla (550)
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23 Oct 12
You are totally right,some married couple do some remedy just to have a child of their own, some are just enjoying having no obligations having children.For me its essential to have a child but if we will not be blessed with a child I will be always thankful as I know my wife will be there for me always.
Thank you for your respond!
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@celticeagle (168269)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Oct 12
There are alway adoption. Good to know your wife will be there for you always.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
I personally wouldn't think of it as being essential, but I do feel that a child really completes a family. For me, it's the purpose of getting married. But you're right that children are a blessing, but a married couple's happiness shouldn't be solely based on having them. Couples should be happy with or without having children.
@montevilla (550)
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23 Oct 12
I like your views and idea.You are right I totally agree with you!
In marriage its not necessary if couple can conceive or not.Its about how they feel completed from their presence.Happiness is not only came from having a kids.Acceptance I think can make them grow fonder.
Thanks for your response.
@montevilla (550)
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23 Oct 12
Sorry to hear that,but at least you have children giving you such motivations and strength to face life.
I admire you being courageous in such situation.
Thank you for responding!
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
22 Oct 12
I think they should only have a kid if they both want one. Many have kids for all the wrong reasons.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Children are indeed a blessing and a welcome addition to a family but to some who have already to many children to feed and with so much difficulty financially, 
this means additional burden.
To those couple who failed to conceive adopting is their best option.@montevilla (550)
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23 Oct 12
You are right sometimes those couples having a lot of kids facing a lot of burdens and difficulties in life because it was not plan properly.Financially they hard to live with a little earnings and they end up into poverty.
Adoption is a good options for some couples and I think it will be just fine.
Thank you for responding!
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
30 Oct 12
These days it is not essential to have children in a marriage if the couple don't wish to. I can understand this essentially if they are very career minded. They couple that like pets might have a pet dog or a pet cat. Some ladies are good at birth control and choose not to get pregnant in a marriage. That is okay and then the couple can please themselves. It is lovely if the lady can get pregnant a couple of times and have one or more babies. I think children are wonderful to have. Some ladies are infertile and they shouldn't feel bad. They could adopt if their husband agrees possibly. Families come in all different sizes.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
22 Oct 12
Thanks for posting this discussion. Well yes i think it is essential for a couple to have children so that they can complete their family. A family is complete only when a couple are blessed with a baby. They feel like they have got everything in their lives and even gives them a chance to stay close to each other and indulge in taking care of their baby or groom their children.
What say?
@montevilla (550)
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23 Oct 12
I totally agree with you,its essential for a couple to have children and I think it bring happiness to a couple if they can given a chance having a child.
Thank you for your respond.
@gpldeguzman (168)
• Qatar
23 Oct 12
For a couple, having a child is really important to make the relationship going. Unfortunately, there are couples who are blessed with children that is why they sort into adoption.Somehow, adoption has helped them a lot. But for those couple who are still childless, I know it is quite disappointing and sad but they should not still be happy and make the most out of it, after all they are still together.
