stay together or not

Times are hard for many. But if you still love her, you must stay with her. Things will get better, and a job will be found. Im sure of it. keep looking and dont ever give up. You have a family that needs you there.

Do you think your wife would actually carry out her threats or do you think she is just angry and behaving in an immature manner? Healthy people do not threaten harm when they are unhappy with how a situation is going. There are several issues to be addressed here; the welfare of the child, your unemployment, your parents, your wife's behavior, and your on wishes of how you want things to be. Simply leaving and taking your daughter will not solve anything. How would you feel if your wife harmed your parents after you left? The person who needs to leave is your wife, but that is only as a last resort. Have you tried marriage counseling? Why are you not able to find work with a degree? How long has it been since you graduated? Do you think your wife is merely impatient or do you think she is unreasonable?

Maybe try to find a job that suits you or any job that will give you earnings. I understand your wife for feeling bitter due to this reason (jobless) You have a kid to take care too, and it's time for you to think about her future.

Well, the problem in here is money. Why does your wife no work? what does she do? if you guys still love each other, better you guys have a conversation to solve the problem. Your wife should find a job and you can ask a help from both families to help you pass this time till you get a new job. I hope everything will be alright back. Best wish for you and your family.

It is really tough to be in your situation. But everything can be settled through a peaceful manner. Try to talk to your partner and to all parties, lay your cards on the table and sort things out, and if you really cant make a resolution, I think, you should find a job first, get settled before leaving, easier said than done, but if you dont have any choice, make the drastic move, I think. I pray taht you may find the right solution in your problem. Good luck.

Hi lowloy, Don't make any rash decisions, especially when you are in a desperate situation because ultimately it becomes an emotional response. Firstly, what kind of work are you looking for? As the man of the house it really is your responsible to provide for your family. I would really encourage you to get a job first. You have to understand the worst thing you can make a woman feel, especially your life partner is INSECURITY. So you have to settle the first step that is to secure a job. When she sees progress in your life her insecurity may go down to 80%. Make sure you stay in the job and i assure you will be rewarded in time as you are faithful because when you sow faithfulness you will reap success. So when your wife is able to see progress + success, you will begin to see improvements in your wife and family. Do not break commitments to your wife and family because i do know we live in a world today that are full of quitters. i hope you are not one of them. Show them what you can do to be a man that is worthy. It all comes down to love because if currently you no longer love your wife then there will be no drive to make changes and developments. Hope this helps!

i'm so sorry to hear that, friend. i'm really able to understand your and your wife's feeling cos your cobdition today is so similar with mine. i live with my parents in law since i got married. actually i want to live separately with them but my parents in law dont allow us cos they really hope we can take care of them at their old times. they are still in very good condition but they want us staying cos they dont want to be alone now. so they seem like to force us to stay with them. but i try to be as nice as i can to avoid conflicts. fortunately, i and my husband have a job. though both of us have job it doesnt mean that we are rich. but we try hard to be independent finacially and not ask to our parents. money is not everything in a marriage life but without money how could we live properly whereas you have a child. i can understand that your wife often upset cos she should go for shopping to buy daily needs. it's a great pressure for her in managing a life if she doesnt have money. but being that offensive is not too wise. if we try to fix the problem we should sit together and try to solve it heart by heart. dont decide to divorce too easily. you have already had a child. think about her future not yours. c'mon..getting divorce is not a good way in solving of marriage problem..

You take your daughter with you? Where will you take your daughter to? I thought you are living with your parents! So this means you have an other place to live? How will you pay for this place? And how come you are not willing to start a life/own household with your wife and daughter? Sorry but it is not normal to stay with your parents if you have a wife and child. Two women can not run 1 househould. Your wife is right, she never is or will be on the first place as long as she has to live with your parents and have to depend on their goodwill. You did put her in the last place since the only thing you cared about was your school/education. And now you finished that you can not find a job. So now you are blaming her for being patient all those years and wanting something too? You say your wife has not worked in her whole life (how old is she?) but you also did not work in your whole life so I don't see the difference. If you want you can make money too and take care of your family instead of your parents! As a man you should be able to make an income and take care of your family. If you are not able to do so you should not put a child into this world and get married! And now you are blaming your wife for everything and even say your wife is a bad mother and your daughter is in danger. I think you should take your responsibilities and find a job. No matter what kind of or for how many or less hours. Every penny is one. Also you and your wife have to talk and make plans for the future so you both have a goal and can work and save for a place of your own. BTW there is also nothing wrong about it if your wife will go out too and find a job for some hours a week. Even without experience or education it must be possible to find something. It sounds to me that both of you are just not motivated (or is it too lazy and too comfortable with living with your parents?) enough to make something out of your life. If it comes to that I pity your daughter and I think you both are not the greatest parents.

Stay with her until the end since she's your wife. Even it is hard to find a job, you should still search and do your best to make her proud of you. Instead of thinking of running away from your wife, you should be thankful instead that you guys are still together, don't let problems ruin your family and your dreams.

Hi friend, sad to hear about your situation. Try your maximum to find a good job for you, it will solve all your problems. A lot of jobs are available in this modern days, if you search for a job with full interest surely you will find it. Wish you to get a good job in the near soon

I think it will just be harder if you will leave her and bring your kids with you. Your kids will surely look for their mom as well. I think you have to work it out together. It is a problem that the both of you should handle. :) I hope you will be able to conquer that trial in your life. I think you can try some odesk works that could bring some bucks in your house. I think your wife just wants privacy and space for her own family. Just try to hold on. I hope it will work out well..