Corporal punishment in our tradition...

My children are very knowledgeable about their rights. Sometimes they would tell me about what they had seen on television violating the rights of the children. My husband and I are not in favor of a way of disciplining a child that would result to hurting whether physically or verbally. We always believe that the children will learn to behave well based on what they see inside the house. First and foremost they learned by imitation, especially during their younger years. So we believe that if we don't want them to act on a particular way, we simply don't do it too. We teach by example. Have a nice day!

oh , yes that's really bad, and yes i have seen such punishments happen ,around me. My parents never believed in this punishment, they always used to explain us ,what is right and wrong. But i have seen my relatives and friends who were treated very badly by their parents even for a small misbehave. I don think ,this kind of punishments , bring change in children , in fact they become more and more naughty, and develop some hard feelings towards their parents. Using of abusive/insulting words is even more dangerous, they get locked in their mind for ever, and they get hurt in the mind and heart , They can never ever forget the pain caused by the words . After continuously beating or punishing the child physically ,they get used to it and they will never realize their mistake ever.

I did experience that when I was young, that is why I decided not to practice it with my own son. I think it does not help a child grow better and at many times children cannot get the message of discipline when you apply corporal discipline. I also distant myself with my father because of this it created fear and a lot of things happening at the back of my mind already. I think it is not healthy for the psychological development of children putting them into this kind of punishment.

My parents have practicing corporal punishments ever since when I was a kid. I was not only being scold but also being hitted whenever I have done mistakes. And I guess it's not advisable for parents to apply or practice that on their children. Because is a form of violence in my opinion. Besides, children wouldn't realized their mistakes but instead, they'll become more rebellious. :)

Last year I suffered from a PCOS condition. Due to abnormality of my hormones I easily get angry and I was hot headed and temperamental.I tried my best to control my moods especially with dealings on my son.Because he was just a child (he was 3 then) he is naughty and sometimes stubborn.There was one situation that I really lost control of my emotion.I shouted at him and scolded him until I realized the shock written on his face.I felt so sorry during that time that I hugged him tight while saying how sorry I am. I am not favor with corporal punishment because as written in the Bible (King James version,Proverbs 13:24) "He that spares his rod hates his son;but he that loves him chastens him that early" In other version it stated that the he who loves his child discipline him diligently. I think the "diligently" way of dealing with kids is having a good communication.Children who have open communication with their parents have the more chance to have a better life. They learn how to be compassionate and loving unlike those who are insulted and beaten who tends to wallow on themselves. I believe too that in the Philippines,corporal punishment is one of the reasons why teenagers seek company from friends or groups who at the end bring them to bad life style.

charity, & love should begin at home. it is love if we discipline our children while they're still young. with the end in mind of raising them to be disciplined and well-rounded, we give punishments to make them realize their mistakes and misbehavior. the bible says in proverbs 22:6 train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. so it is just okay punish them for their wrong doings or disobedience. however, there should be restrictions in applying such punishments. in hitting them, we should not make it hard enough that will cause them physical injury, or insult them in front of people to the extent that they loose they're self confidence, or self-esteem. it also depends on their age, level of maturity..the goal is to make them realize their wrongful act and change for the better. sometimes, soft words could even make them realize their mistakes, while hitting them or reproving could breed hatred.parents likewise should be guided enough.

I think this kind of punishment is only practiced during 60's and below. This kind of punishment slowly decrease on 70's and rarely practiced today. I was born on the 70's and I can say that corporal punishment is not observed in our family. I haven't heard it from my classmates and friends as well. Actually, if you ask the young genre of today starts from 90's they don't know what is corporal punishment.

When my siblings and i (5 girls) were just kids, would receive a spanking in our butt , by our father using his belt. But that is only done when he cannot be made to obey not to quarrel with each other. Thus, we grew up afraid of it and disciplined. A mere sharp look from our father would silence us. However, it didn't diminish our love for our father. With our daughter, i remember my husband spanking our daughter when she got a bit hard headed, with his slipper. But it was on her butt. But that was never repeated, because i guess my daughter learned a lesson from that.

hi bem, Really? I never heard of it even my parents when I asked them if my grand parents hit them if they do something bad they said no they are just being warn not to do it again. happy mylotting

There's punishment and punishment of course. I strongly believe that, either you like it or not, punishment is needed sometimes. Children have to know their place. They have to know what behavior is not to be tolerated. In fact children ASK for guidance and directions. Punishment for bad behavior should go together with rewards for good behavior. It should be in balance. However, when punishment becomes torture and rewards lead to spoiling your kids I think you go too far. No! I know you go to far. Parents need to guide their kids in a balanced and consequent way. When i was behaving terrible my mother used to beat me for sure. And I remeber very well that sometimes she almost lost control. I can't blame her. I WAS a terrible kid. And my parents were the best one could wish. They taught me the values in life. They taught me right from wrong. Of course we have all other visions but at least I got the basics. And believe me: the beatings didn't make me a bad person and the rewards didn't make me a spoiled brat.