Do you treat your kids differently between one and another?

I think that a lot of people think that you should treat your children the same, but I don't think that this is the case. I think that each child has their own needs and personality and this means that they might not get the same reaction in a certain situation as the other one would get. An example of this would be if one of them broke something and they had been misbehaving for the whole of the week you would shout at them, but then if the other one is usually very well behaved and they had only done this one thing wrong then you might be able to let them off about it.

I treat my children in a similar way appropriate for the ages. I try to get my children speaking in a polite way remembering their pleases and thank yous. My disabled son has to be spoken to in a very gentle way. I avoid saying no to him. I speak in a positive way and direct in to behave in a good way. Rather than saying no throwing I say hands in your lap. I speak in a firm way to my daughter if she misbehaves. If the bad behavior continues then I give a warning about if she continues she will go to time out. Indeed if she does then I carry out my threat. She is three years old and she gets as many minutes for her age: three. My disabled son would have five minutes because that is his age. He very rarely goes to time out.

I am tje motjer of teo ildren. I don;t believe tat I Trear then NY Dfferently. i kove them euqually. i sishe for them the same hlpes and drems of the world

i only have one daughter till today so i cant say anything about what you said in your discussion. but i had experience with this kind of thing, but not in my family. it happened in my grandparents family. my grandparents have ten children. my mom is the first child of the family. she told me that her parents, means my grandparents, treated their children differently. my mom as the first daughter of family and have some brothers and sisters should help my grandma's job such as cooking, washing and taking of her brothers and sisters. different with my.mom, my grandparents treated their second child wich is boy, means my mom's brother, means my uncle, very well. they looked so proud of him. but i dont know the reason clearly. what i want to say is that treating children different one another is so human. we try the best but sometimes it is limited by our ability as human. i think the best thing we can do is talking to the child which feels that she/he treated differently. tell her/him that we dont mean like that. we just require her/him to be more responsible to his/her task, and so on. dont let the jealousy last long in them cos though they are still kids but i'm sure they can feel that jealous feeling verh well and of course it is not good at all for their growth both phisycally and personally.

as a matter of fact, I have not had kids yet, however, I have to look after my brother's kids because they are quite busy with their jobs. so I have some feeling of treating kids. If I were in your shoes, I would treat them differently because the I do not like the naughty one.

well i have just started my career and no kids, and not married too. But i have seen my parents , they never showed any difference between me and my brothers. I was a calm kid , that's what my mother says always. we should always take extra care of those children who are two different poles and with arrogance. Try to teach them the odd comings of being lazy and and rebellious in a soft manner with examples. Hope your kids grow up into a good citizens.