Is it rude to decline?
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
October 25, 2012 8:50pm CST
I have been looking for someone to do a professional photoshoot of the brats. Now I'm not going to waste my money if you don't do a good job, or don't have experience with animals.
I mean either way one gets paid, and a limited amount of time. Most charge $50.00 for a 2 hour session (try getting 6 animals to look at a camera and play nice).
My sister suggested her boyfriends sister to do it. I said I'll ask through her facebook group, and I mean if she does I don't mind going to someone locaal and just starting.
She has 0 experience with animals, and had 2 photoshoots. I'm a little iffy, I told my sister I would keep looking and may go with her if noone else will do better. My sister kept going on how rude I was for not going with her.
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6 responses
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
26 Oct 12
I get the impression that your sister must have talked to her boyfriend's sister already about it, giving her the impression that you would use her. You can not waste your money on pictures that won't be of quality, and you really do need someone who is experienced with animals. It takes a certain amount if patience with that. You can't just promise a lollipop to them after the shoot, like you can with kids to hopefully make them behave.
I wouldn't feel bad about it or anything, just be straight forward. Hopefully you can find someone with more experience at a good price.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
26 Oct 12
I bet you are exactly right with your thoughts there SomeCowgirl. Ricki has the right to spend her money how she sees fit, and hiring a professional makes more sense than hiring someone with no experience with animals. And almost no experience of any kind. How absurd.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
28 Oct 12
It is absurd Pointless. I know that sometimes family wants other family members to use their boyfriend or their boyfriend's family if they are qualified for something that needs to be done but it's not always a good thing. Sometimes it can lead to civil suits. I think to keep the peace as well she should just decline straight out. If she ends up not liking the ladies work, it could cause a tiff between her and her sister.
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
27 Oct 12
I do not think you are being rude to keep looking.. You would like to have a good picture of all your animals.. Which can be diffcult on its own.. Then it to turn out just right.. This person may only have one or two seconds to get the right shoot then its over.. And it may or may not be possible to get a second session; depending on your animals... The old saying goes you get what you pay for; and you are willing to pay extra to get a better quality picture.. Your sister just needs to understand that..
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@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
26 Oct 12
I have to agree with the previous 2 responders, the reluctance to go back to someone and withdraw a promise is the only feasible reason that I can see.
It would seem a little absurd to expect someone to spend their money using a photographer that they do not know and does not have references. Using a professional service may be more expensive, but at least it should provide a greater level of reliability.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
27 Oct 12
No, it isn't rude to decline. It is rude of your sister to try to railroad you into paying someone who sounds horribly underqualified for the job.
If the girl had offered to do it for free to build up her portfolio, that would be a different matter. I have known people who got into portrait photography by doing just that--doing free shoots for a few people they knew in order to build up a portfolio of professional work. Then, they took it from there and now have established photography businesses.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
Maybe what happen was your sister told the sister of your boyfriend about it and she is shy that to tell her that you will be looking for a better photographer instead of her.She is afraid that her sister's boyfriend might be disappointed or mad at her.
We always want quality result especially if it requires an amount to pay. you made the right decision. maybe someday, if she is totally ready, you can probably hire her.just explain to your sister why did you do that. I'm sure she will understand you. you just have a little of misunderstanding.
@Roserick (41)
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
it is not rude to decline whatever your reason to decline is your right. and besides, if they are professional enough they would understand that it is part of the business industry, being accepted and being rejected.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
26 Oct 12
She is rude to say that to you Ricki! It’s your money to spend, and if you want someone who actually HAS experience with animals, then you have every right and obligation to yourself and your pocketbook to hire the person of your choice.
Just because your sister suggests a certain person, doesn’t mean you are rude to decline her suggestion. How stupid she is to even say that.
