Are you obliged to payback for your parents' responsibility?

My father worked hard every day of his life for 25 years at a job that he hated put money away for his retirement bought stocks for his retirement because that was what all the people were saying to do that the stock market was where the money was at. He had a 401K and when the world went to hell in a hand basket so did his retirement. Now my father works at odd jobs and sells his home made log furniture and when the day comes that my father is no longer able to support himself you better darn well believe I will be there for him and the reason for that is simple if it was not for my father I would not be here. I would do the same for my mother as well. A good parent makes sacrafices for their children and suffer at the hands of their children the least that the child can do is later on in life pay the parents back for all that they gave to provide you with a good life. My parents have given me money before and every time I try to pay them back they never take it. When the day comes that my dad takes my money I will gladly give it to him as I know he must truly be in need of the money.

I personally don't believe a child is obligated to pay their parents back.This is because I believe parents voluntarily take on the responsibility to provide everything their child needs when they have them.However I do believe that it is the right thing for a child to take care of there parents either practically or financially if the parent needs help and the child is in the position to give the help.If my mum ever was short of money or needed to be cared for I pay if I had the money and ability to do so.

No our parents do not oblige us to pay back for sending us to school up to college but I am obliging myself to give back at least a portion of what I earn to them as a form of gratitude.

That is just awful. parents making their kids pay them back.. forcing them. it is the obligation of parents to take care of their children and raise them to be good people.. But repaying them, should also be done out of love.. not force..

I am so blessed with such loving parents. Although I feel uncomfortable sometimes, they do help me with the things that my kids need. I really do not need to ask from them, They just extend their help without asking for anything in return. But of course, I just don;t want to just take everything in without thanking them. I do give them something that I think would be useful for them when I have extra money. And I know that they are thankful for that as well.

Probably you don't really have the obligation to do so. Just like what my parents told me before, I am starting on a new life. But of course, I have this heart of giving back. I want to show them that I really appreciate what they did for me. Perhaps if we just think about the fact that where we are right now is largely due to their hard-work and dedication, then giving back wouldn't be that hard. However, I'm also quite aware that not everyone here experienced the same love and care that my parents gave me. So rest assured that I respect your opinion of course. :)

No, my father did not but mom was the one who always mention that I haven't do my responsibilities as a daughter to give money to family. But she did not mention a specific amount to be paid, roughly she said is few hundred dollars. I did try my best not because of mom, but I really want to repay their kindness, so I work on jobs, sometimes I quit because I have depression, sometimes I have money I will not give her directly but spend to take her on movies and dinner, sometimes I do buy groceries like eggs, bread, mee, ribenas and toilet paper.

I think that people should be trying to pay their parents back for all of the things that they did for them when they were a child. I don't think that this should be in money, although I think that if your parents need money then you should try to help them if there is any way that you are able to do so. I think that the best thing to do is to help them with things when they get a little bit older and they're finding it harder to cope on their own, because they helped you when you needed them, so it is only fair that you do your best to return the favour.

hi, for me,its not an obliged to payback our parents responsibility to us,actually for me its a thanksgiving for my parents to those responsibility they have done to me,so i give this grateful thing through helping them and take care them.

I don't think my parents are the kind who will outright tell me that they want some form of compensation for raising me. It is perfectly true that I raised hell more than they would like and the power play between parents and children will soon find a balance in the coming years. Regarding my parents, I think what they really want is to make most of our lives as their children. That includes giving their opinion on what they think is the best for us in their point of view, which may or may not agree with us as children. As for compensation per se, I think my parents expects it but they won't demand it it from us. In my my culture, a child should at at least be grateful for the sacrifices made by parents but the actual 'payment' can also be as subtle as the expectation. For me, I'll be there for my parents when they need me. Even if it is an annoyance and frustrating on my part, I at least my parents cannot tell me that i was ever ungrateful. I am already grateful that they don't demand it and I do retain an affection for them. In a sense, it is a silent scoreboard on who gave what and what the person contributed. There will be no official acknowledgement but I think both me and my parents are satisfied this way. It is sad that some parents use their children as investment for their own means. But it is another matter if the child itself volunteers the help for some sort of relationship between them.

My parents never mention, but sometimes I do feel that I am obliged to pay back, not only finacially, but also physically too. I quit the job I enjoyed and come back to my hometown, in a small city just to be with them, and helping my father running his business. As the eldest among my siblings, I really feel the obligations all the times, but I am not sure what I'm doing is right...

Hi friend, my parents don't obliged me to pay for their love and care, but always i will take a lot of care about them and spending for their needs and necessities. As a good son, it is my duty to do so. Our parents did a lot of things for us in our childhood days, it is our duty to take care about them in their old age and fulfill all their honest needs and necessities

Well my mother worked for 30 years at a job she hated saved invested and lost almost 400K she still can support herself however her health is getting bad and we as her children are already in place and getting the paperwork to take care of her. Her only responsibility is going to be hanging out with her grandkids.