How would you React?
By Daisy_22
@Daisy_22 (1229)
Philippines
October 26, 2012 10:48am CST
Having conversation during leisure time with co-workers is really worth remembering. I had a friend who is a co-worker with me make a comment asking why are you getting slimmer?Are you pregnant? I was quite shocked of a very quick revelation.Would you bother explaining or depending yourself or you will just let them talk and talk about you for he next few years those talks they've made will come back with them as their karma.
At first our ego is already been damage but sometimes we will be able to have a harmonious relationship.
9 responses
@STOUTjodee (3573)
• United States
26 Oct 12
The slimming part would be a compliment, but suggesting you were pregnant because you are slim? I never got slim when I was pregnant!
What gets me is several years after having a child and someone asks if I'm pregnant (when I'm not). Since this was a co-worker and you probably have to see her on a daily basis, I would say something nicely about thanks for noticing I look slimmer but it's not because I'm pregnant. If she thinks otherwise, she might be planning a baby shower!
I'm not saying any of this to sound mean or rude, I would just tell you're co-worker politely and tactfully you're not pregnant and leave it at that.
What gets me is several years after having a child and someone asks if I'm pregnant (when I'm not). Since this was a co-worker and you probably have to see her on a daily basis, I would say something nicely about thanks for noticing I look slimmer but it's not because I'm pregnant. If she thinks otherwise, she might be planning a baby shower! I'm not saying any of this to sound mean or rude, I would just tell you're co-worker politely and tactfully you're not pregnant and leave it at that.@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
Usually the perception of the person if pregnant is that she will become slimmer due to the morning sickness a pregnant woman experience in her 2-3 months stage. But I guess maybe she is just envy that I really actually achieve my desire to lose weight.
@STOUTjodee (3573)
• United States
27 Oct 12
Maybe she is envious of you losing weight! Anyway congratulations on your weight loss!
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
27 Oct 12
Really woman get slimmer in the 2-3 months ? The ones I saw cant even fit their fitted skirt on in that time as the belly start showing little 
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Some woman cannot compliment another woman without also thinking negatively at the same time .
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Some woman cannot compliment another woman without also thinking negatively at the same time .
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
I wouldn't mind if somebody would ask me that as long as she doesn't talk behind my back. It could have just been a bad humour. So i'd probably reply in a joking manner that i am and i would add that the father is Kobe Bryant! That might shut their mouth or we could just burst out laughing and have more fun.
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
you know, that actually makes sense! although both are unpleasant scenarios, it's better to be teased about it upfront and answer it that way (just give the name of the celebrity you fantasize about), than to be whispered about something that's not true at all.
@celticeagle (167015)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Oct 12
Really worth remembering? That sounds like Karma to me! People are going to talk whether we like it or not. They have to have something to make their boring lives seem to have purpose. Poor things! I never could understand gossip and I was usually the last to learn anything because I just didn't listen to it.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
26 Oct 12
IF your getting slimmer i dont think you would be pregnant at all but maybe eating right and on a diet possibly. They should say wow you look really nice lately what have you been doing? I Dont know if i would let them talk about you but i would explain myself to them so that they wouldnt talk about me i dont need rumors started about me and then coming back to me later and me getting mad and blow up over it.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
27 Oct 12
This is very much common in almost every office. Not it is other members who likes to make the conversation but even we like to take part in the conversation. And specially when the boss or senior is not around then the conversation become more interesting as new topics get added one after one to the conversation. And you know when there is all interested people then it is more enjoyable too.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
27 Oct 12
That was mean of her, but then it wouldn't do you any good if you will give in to what she's insinuating. Whenever someone tries to maliciously start something on me, I would just answer her question with another question, something like, "what do you think?" then I would let them turn greener with envy. They can talk all they want but I will be enjoying my slimmer new look. Let them do the talk, and I will let my looks and work do the talking for me.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
27 Oct 12
Slimmer and pregnant in the same comment that is confusing ? who ever get slimmer when they are pregnant ? .. I would just say I dont know , its just life I guess . I will also remember that conversation but the question she ask is kinda silly , I have never heard of someone getting slimmer because they are pregnant .
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
If I am married, it will be okay but if I am single then it's not okay with me. Maybe your friend is getting at ease with you but that doesn't mean that your friend can me that mean. You are right, some people can't be happy with other people's achievement even if he/she is a friend.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
26 Oct 12
Pregnancy is one thing which cannot be suppressed. Further one has to feel happy about it. If the person commented is close friend you can react. Otherwise it will be better not to react immediately.
