When my two married friends is having an affair..; (

That is not really good. But can you stop them? I had an experience before when I confront a niece about her illicit affair with another man. I was insulted. That is why when my friend who is already a widow and have an affair with a married man,I just asked her if she is prepared to face the consequences of her deed and all the what ifs. I felt that she can't be stopped by the way she answered to all my queries.

Stay out of this it is not of your business what kind of marriage other people have. It's there choice to do with their life and their marriage what they like. Also they don't need to tell you anything about their life or marriage since this is a private thing. This besides of the fact you heard the "news" from someone else out of your circle of friends. Being a friend means you accept and respect the choices of your friends no matter if you like it or not, if it would be your choice or not and how long they are married or not.

I think its just best to not get involved at all. It may be true and it may not be true, but its just best to stay out of it. For the sake of your friendship and hopefully your other friend doesn't tell other people.

Sorry to hear that you are in that situation. That would be tough. If I were in your shoes I would probably confront them and let them know that I'm aware of what is going on and that they should tell their spouses so that I don't have too. Sorry again that your in that tough spot.

Hi Ynrhea, I think that the only person that's the third wheel is you because you know them both...But I would definitely keep out of the situation completely...First when you start excusing yourself from the company that they are both in, they will mosr than like want to know "WHY", and that will be your opening to at least let them both know whats in your head and your concerns and dislike for the situation... If you just approach them you might find yourself in the middle of their affair and having to make excuses for them and everything because now you have just put yourself right in the middle.. If they are both your friends you must treat this situation very carefully.. I think jumping in with both feet would be a mistake.. Good luck with your decisions....

It's a very complicated situation yet if you really care for them and to their family i think you should confront them both to know what's really going on between the two of them. It's so sad because it might affects your relationship with them because of their affair if it's true.

You should join them just kidding lol ... i think if they actually betrayed their partners and choose to be together, then we as the outsiders should not have any comments at all. You should not doubt you friend character yea.

It must be very hard for you to see things like this happening, but I think that you just have to remember that you shouldn't stand there and let them bully you into keeping it quiet. If it was your partner who was cheating on you then I am sure that you would want to know about it, so you should first talk to the people who are supposed to be having an affair and see how much truth there is in it, and then you should try to talk to them about letting their partners know, and tell them that if they won't then you will.

Since you have doubts and your friend says that the guy might listen to you, then I guess you must do one thing. Talk with your friend and confirm the rumor- I am sure you know your friend so well and might listen to you as well. You need to act this early before it's too late.

Maybe you should confront them first before asking from otehr people.. Confront the one who is closest to you. Affairs are really bad, no mater what the situation is.. People should end the current relationship before starting a new one..

If you are that close to that person, I think it is fine to tell her that what she is doing is immoral. Enlighten her. She must just been blinded by some "worldly" stuff.

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, it is not a simple issue. Both of them are betraying their partners with their activities. There is nothing wrong in asking about their activities, as a good friend it is you duty to guide them in a good way, so ask about this issue to them and suggest them to avoid this kind of unwanted things

That is one sticky situation to be in. Being a married woman myself, I really feel upset about those people who deliberately and willingly engage themselves in extra marital affairs. Especially if the people involved are my good friends. I think what you need to do first is find out if this is true, if you're really close to either of the two, maybe you can hear it from them firsthand. As a friend, you have a moral obligation to remind them that what they're doing is wrong however you look at it. If they will listen to you or not is totally up to them. You've done your part,the st will be up to them.

that's why people shouldn't get married too early.

I dont blame you for being mad, affairs are bad enough. But when you know the people involved, its worse.

Once you are sure that really having an affair, you better contront them, you are their friend and that is your role as one. Remember, a friend is there in our ups and downs, a friend will always there praise us and correct our mistakes.