Sibling rivalry?

India
October 27, 2012 3:48pm CST
Hey guys, i have often heard my college friends saying that they share positive vibes with their siblings but there is always some kind of competition among them to get more attention from their parents and relatives and i was left confused how they are even thinking about competing with their own blood. No doubt we should always have a competitive mindset but it should be against our own self and not against anyone. I have feeble memories (when i was barely 6-7 years old) of how i used to cry when my sister who are much elder to me used to get much attention from my parents and i think that is pretty much an obvious feeling to have at such an age. I have seen many children of age between 12 to 14 who get violent when they are seeing their siblings getting love from their parents and i think this is very wrong. What are your thoughts on this? Did u ever have any sibling rivalry in your life? Please do share your thoughts!
5 responses
GemmaR
@GemmaR (8517)
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28 Oct 12
I think that most people have some kind of rivalry between their siblings, and sadly I don't think that it is something that always gets all that much better. I know that I have a fair amount of jealousy with my brother, because he is five years younger than me and just seems to be doing everything right in his life whereas I did everything wrong in mine. I know that I shouldn't think like this, but the only thing that I am able to see a lot of the time is fact that he is living his life five years behind me, doing everything that I did only better.
subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
23 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Well yes u are absolutely right, no matter how much we love our siblings there is some kind of rivalry and jealousy in us that proves of no help for us. I can understand your feelings and more importantly u have realized that it wont help u if u feel jealous of your younger brother. I think u should never compare your life with others. Rather u should work progressively to improve yourself and your status in life. What say?
prashu
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
28 Oct 12
No not at all, we have a very healthy relationship and no rivalry. But yes i have heard of such cases. Which is definitely not good at all. Its completely useless and only increases the distance between the siblings. I know one family, mother worked hard to bring up her daughter and son. They lost their father when they were still very young.Now the daughter is very annoying type.At least i think like that, and there is the reason for my point. She always wants more than her brother, it may be in anything like getting marks in school , salary in job , or buying a costly dress etc etc. I sometimes get the feeling that she is mad, totally lost it. If her brother gets anything better than her ,then she cant tolerate it. Even the boy is like that ,but not so much like her. I find it very irritating.I don't like to meet them at all. why don't they make have competition with outsiders? Its better i feel. But the problem is , they don't have any such competition with others, but they both die with this rivalry. No peace in their home .Mother is always worried about them . I don't think such life is necessary ,that too with siblings.
subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
23 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your valuable response again. Oh my goodness i am so much worried for that lady as she might be seeing such rivalry between her children. I know she must be getting upset to see how her children have developed such an ill habit knowing that fact that they do have a fatherly figure in their life. I think they both are behaving as if they are animals and they should rather compete with the outsiders. U have done the right thing of avoiding them. What say?
ardoy0731
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
28 Oct 12
I dont have any rivalry in my siblings. I am in the middle of two girls so I always with my boy cousin most of the time. In case of my three younger brothers, our age gap was quite far, about 8 years or so, so I am always be the big brother around. I guess I do have rivalry with my cousin in some ways than with my siblings.
subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
23 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your valuable response again. Well glad to know that u were the middle of the siblings and may be u never felt that competition present between your siblings. Now since u were closer to your boy cousin it would be pretty obvious to have some rivalry with him. Besides the age difference factor does play an important role here as more age gap means respecting the elders and following them as your mentor every time. What say?
Gretchen522
@Gretchen522 (715)
• China
28 Oct 12
When I was a child I also competitive with my brother but now we both grown up,such things never happend again, we often miss each other.
subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
23 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Well i am glad to hear about the relationship with your brother and i am sure u must be missing those old days very badly when both of you fought like crazy people. i know many brothers fight with each other for small things during their childhood and later on they realize that they are the ones who are their best friends on earth. I know such things have never happened afterwards and it is pretty obvious to miss him. Is he staying away from u now? What say?
bizziepumpkin
@bizziepumpkin (14)
• United States
27 Oct 12
My sister and I competed on everything, and then fought like cats! Now we are friends and even work together. Life turns out for the best in the end.
subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
23 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Well i am glad to hear about your sweet and bitter relationship with your sister and even i have heard how many say that they used to fight with their sisters like cats and ultimately with them they become closer and the bond gets stronger. Life is all about accepting the way it comes and i am glad that now u both are working together and life has become so easier and beautiful for both of u. What say?