Is love cruel?

professor Bhaiya: It is in a way good that the matter ended with online only and not in real life. In real life if they have met then the damage for the girl will be more than what it is now. it is true love is blind. love makes you forget everything in the world and makes you feel what you think is right. let the girl forget that boy and go about taking a job and taking care of family members,

I think that love can be cruel, but it depends what your experiences of it are. For example if you know that you love somebody and they love you too then I don't think that there is anything cruel about that, however there can be a bit of a problem when you know that they don't love you back, and this is the point at which I believe that love can be cruel. I have been in that situation far too many times, and I will admit that it hurts, but most people do recover from it and find that they're able to live a perfectly normal and happy life.

I've heard of stories about people meeting up online, fall in love, and even get married. But these probably happen not that often. I guess nothing still beats physical presence. I know that words are powerful, but sometimes some sort of physical action to express one's love like a simple hug is greater than mere words. What happened to this girl is very unfortunate. We can't fault her for falling in love. We can't even fault her for thinking love is cruel. She got hurt and usually when we're hurt, we don't think rationally. She need to move on and just let this experience serve as a lesson. It's not easy but it's the only thing to do.

I believe this is not failure. Love has made her realize several truth. It is not one-sided. It brings out the best in people. Right now, she is a grown person. Though in pain, she managed to be good in communicating her emotions. To console her, all you need to do is listen. Online love? Well, most people won't admit they've fallen prey to something good to be true. And if they did, most likely they don't have the courage to pursue such.

Not knowing the guy in person, that is hard. We should not trust completely. We should be wise. Loving is a decision. We know if it could hurt before it starts

Yea! Sometimes love is really cruel... there are people you will do everything just to get their love but they do bad to you in return... but there are thoses who will love you totally from the start and will find you worth every thing to them and later when they find an other they will class you as nothing... and treat you like nobody...

She is depressed not because she loves someone but because she expects to be loved. I can understand and sympathise with her in her sadness but, at the same time, she must learn that love itself is not conditional or dependent on being loved: that is 'self-seeking' and belongs to some other emotion, not love. To quote a famous writer, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." I do not say that it is impossible to love someone whom one only knows through words on a screen or as a voice on the phone (far from it, in fact). However, this method of getting to know someone is 'unnatural', by which I mean that it does not follow the normal pattern of love which begins with seeing the person and feeling attracted to them, usually, in some physical way or by noticing - and liking - their behaviour with other people. Only then, usually, does one strike up a personal relationship in which one explores mutual ideas, opinions, beliefs and emotions in which the relationship becomes intimate. An online relationship can very often fool us into thinking that it is "love" because it usually skips the first stage entirely - that of noticing a person and of approving of them in such a way that one feels one wants to know them better and more intimately. It usually jumps right into the intimate exploration of thoughts and feelings without all the preliminaries, making us believe that, because we are at that stage, it is therefore, necessarily "love".

I`m old, friend. That`s why I don`t understand online love. I think this is agmae and an addiction, but not the real thing. Real love is more complex needs the presence of the other.

Namaskar sir Unfortunately cheats will be cheats whether they are found online or offline. That said, yes, on internet these things are more common and no one can do much here because of anonymity. Sad that the daughter of friend remained ignorant and should have avoided such flings on the Internet.

I just cant understand this "cyber love" huhhh :( I would say to her, love is not cruel honey..intentions were cruel and you are lucky that you got rid of such a cheater earlier, be quite practical, learn from it and dont proof yourself a stupid by doing all this..you have a great future ahead waiting for you.

Hi prof, you did a good thing. Girls must be very careful with this kind of cheaters. In this modern days this kind of mobile and online love is quite common. Girls must be bold enough to face such kind of issues, if they are involved in online love. Better to avoid this kind of unwanted love, if they are involved in it, then they must be ready to tolerate cheating. Don't be sensitive and face everything with bold heart.

Loving in online lover is really hard. You do not know if he is really true to his sweet thoughts and promises. So I prefer to choose a lover which I met first personally.

Hello Professor, Whatever happened with her is sad but nothing to blame online love or mobile love. Thats just a way of communicating. I mean imagine that she met the guy, been in love for a while and then he moved somewhere else, changed his number. Then what? The scenario would have been the same. Its not that "online love" is wrong but the guy wasn't genuine. Uncle, I have some friends who are going to get married this year. They met last year through internet. So sympathy for her but we can't do anything if a person is not interested or if he is wrong guy