Is it okay to have a crush when you're already aging?

Hi Vi! What should I say? haha when I am in such situation that I still have some crushes even if I am already married and on my 30's? haha I think its something normal that we admire some people around us, but of course it doesn't mean that we are already in love with them! I think the problem will come when the feelings is mutual and that crush developed into love and then the two of you will fall in an illegal relationship! haha forbidden love!

I saw a quote from Facebook, "When you are in a relationship, then yes, flirting is cheating." But when you are married and JUST have a crush, I think there's nothing wrong. Anyways, I believe we can admire anybody else as long as we are not cheating on the ones we love. It's always been good to admire other people.

It maybe sin for a marriage a person to have another affairs with other man or woman. It's not a sin to crushed to any person but if that crushed beyond limit that might be a sin...

Hmmmmm, let's see... maybe at whatever age you are when you die? What is wrong with having a crush? It just means you admire someone; you don't have to do anything about it. It's perfectly innocent unless you try to have a relationship with the crush outside of your current situation.

I think you can have a crush on someone regardless of how old or young you are.. When you are married or in a relationship you should stay faithful to him/her.. Yes there may be feelings for others that come and go.. That is one thing; it might just be the fact that you can not have that person so that is why this person is on your mind..

First of all I'd contact the water company. Second: I'd start looking for a better place to live. Because I think your landlord has a screw lose. What's next??

If you look at someone lustfully, that's considered a sin. Whether a crush is a sin or not, is debatable. It depends on how you think of them. If you are actually thinking about doing something with them, then yes, what you are thinking about doing is a sinful act. Stop that. However even if you don't mean it sinfully, this is not a good path. People don't cheat on their spouses by waking up one morning and thinking "I'm going to cheat on my spouse today!" It's a slow pattern of thinking over a long time period. But over time, what you think about doing, you will eventually do. So I would recommend you change your pattern of thinking as quickly as you can. It might be just "accommodating" right now, but it's a stepping stone on the path to adultery and losing everything of value. Don't go there.

In my opinion there is no age limit for having a crush.. Yes it is sin if you are married or in a relationship. Why should a married woman accommodate a guy? Thanks for sharing.

There is no age limit to admiration, caring, and loving someone. Crushes may not be logical for someone married, but as long as it is only thoughts and not physical I fail to see how it hurts anyone. It could even make your marriage stronger. Most all of us have had a person we admire more than others. Celebrities have fan clubs to prove this theory, but every fan knows this crush is only an infatuation.

I personally don't feel there is a maximum age limit on having crushes. I think for as long as we live, there will always be someone we admire or adore. I don't think it's necessarily a sin to have a crush on someone if you're married. We're only human, but it's definitely wrong if you act on that crush.

I think that is natural and there really is no limit for that when it comes to age. We are humans and we feel these things. It's doing something unfaithful that is a sin. So avoid doing unfaithful things. That is all.

There's nothing wrong in have a crush to someone,whatever our age is, but there are limitations. Most specially if we are in a relationship. And also, if it is excessive, to the extent of disturbing the other person, that could be wrong. There is probably temptation there to do more. I hope our crush to someone will just remain to be like that and never jumped to a new level that could bring bad effects to us and others. Have a nice day.

Excuse me? A maximum age? Why should we limit ourselves?? At the age of 55 I started a new relationship with someone I knew already for 3 years. I never intended to start it because of our age difference: over 30 years. But the other party kept on coming to see me and insisted. So in the end I gave in. Yes, I'm 56 now but that doesn't mean I have to stop enjoying life and what it brings. The feelings that we have deep inside reflect our true selves. Why neglect or deny our own feelings?

I strongly believe crushes are okay at any age. :) Also, I think crushes are okay in various relationship status whether your committed, married, etc. When I was in middle school I remember sitting with my dad and step mom and my step mom talking about her "crush" with my dad. They giggled about it, but she seriously had a crush even though she was happily married to my dad. The thing is, she did not act upon it or anything like that. She just acknowledged it and let it go. Relationships should be built on trust and acceptance, and my dad trusted she wouldn't do anything so he laughed about it, too. Lol, crushes aren't something you can really choose. Your actions, however, are something you are held responsible for. If you are in a committed relationship you can't help having a crush on someone else, but cheating is never accidental and never okay.

i tthink its okay that you would have formed an attraction on someone even if you are older than usual age where people do find to haave a partner. It would be bad iguess if you are already married and you keep on crushing on every attractive woman and you cheat on your parter.

I think there are no problems on that thing. Having crush to someone means that you like his looks or personality but it doesn't mean that you are already loving the person.

Yes, I think it is normal to have crushes at any age, even when you're married. Crush is just plain admiration. There is no cause for worry. We all have crushes, especially movie idols. I have lots of crushes.

i guess having a crush is simply appreciation of liking a person on his/her attributes. well, it would be a sin when along with it, entailed a different feeling of lust or whatsoever but if that feeling is simply appreciation, there is no wrong for that. i guess no age limit for appreciating someone. thanks

Having crushes is normal at any age I don't think there is an age limit for having crushes,its a kind of admiration for something the person possessed. If its more than a crush and you are already committed that is not right. But for some reason if crushes remains crush and not a deeper feelings . I think its just normal. Happy mylotting!

It is never good to have a crush on somebody at whichever age once you are married. I would say it is a sin, you can work out issues being committed to your wife or husband; renewing your relationship in focusing on each other and other issues in life - like working, raising kids if you have any. Take vacations as a couple enjoying each other. The reason why we fall in a crush on other persons is because we take more interest in them than necessary. Giving an example; it is not bad to look but when we look for long and start analyzing much details, trouble sets in.