Are you living in the past?

I have always agreed and tried to live my life in this fashion, however now that Hubby is subject to short term memory loss I am thinking that the past can become terribly important. So far he remembers mostly good things but I do realize how awful it would be if he had no past to remember and value. Maybe what I am learning is that each life path that we becme associated with has value and that value is what you have control over. I know that many others are facing this memory problem and so am not so quick to discount the past.

I am sorry to say that I think that I am living in the past to some extent. I don't know what it is recently, but there is something about me that keeps thinking about all of the things that I have done wrong in the past, and the things that I wish that I could have done in order to be able to put them right. I don't usually agree with having regrets in life, and I do know that I should just let things go and move on with my life, but this is something that I am struggling with at the moment due to the fact that I can't stop thinking about things.

I used to live in the past, dwelling on regrets and mistakes I had made and how I am still paying for them, but with therapy and my antidepressants I now live for today, not tomorrow or the future which to me is a scary concept. I try to enjoy today and think about today and enjoy the things I do on a daily basis like going to the gym, going to the library to read or going shopping. I have found that it useless living with regrets, and to move on, I cannot change the past, I can only learn from it, and I start learning today. Experiences teaches us how we can grow stronger and move forward.

I agree with this and admit that I live many a moments in my past. BUT - those moments are NOT regrets of any kind. Instead they are the good times that I have as a treasure with me. You know, I am ill and have nothing much today - I am at home, without much of work and also a growing set of medical expenses. Still, I need and do find happiness. I have learned the hard way that there is nothing like happiness and even if you have to look back to find those moments which bring happiness to you, go for them. As for regrets, I have only one regret in life and I do not look back at things with any regret or remorse.

There is no use in regretting about our past events and incidents, we can't change the past. No one have the ability to live in past. It is impossible to live in past and ridiculous to live in future. We only have the ability to live in the present. In fact our present time is a great gift from god, so only it is called as present. We must use the present in a good way and avoid unwanted worries and sorrows in our life Some persons spend a lot of time in regretting about the past. There is no use in this kind of activities and it is merely time waste. We must forget about the past worries, but never forget about the lessons and experience which we learned from the past. We have lot of events and incidents in our life and we gain a lot of experience with this kind of events. Don't worry about the past time, as we don't gain it back. Those days never came back again. We can cherish our past good events, but avoid worrying and regretting about the past sorrows. Organize your time and spend it in a good manner. Time is a great treasure to each and every one and we don't have the ability to recover the last second. Use each and every second in your life in a constructive manner and organize your time to do a lot of good and useful things which gives you more fun and pleasure. Avoid worrying about past, which don't have any meaning. Think about the present and live your present time in a good manner. Future will take care about itself, if you live your present well. Since we are living an unpredictable life and no one can tell about the next event in our life, so avoid worries and live your life in a happy manner.

Not me, I live everyday like its my last one. Im a single mom here. I have to look for the future. And my future can be today.

I agree with this and I am very much impressed with the way you explained it. Unfortunately, like many other things, this is easier said than than though. I, for one, like to believe that being optimistic on almost everything is the right way. I mean, it's like a way of life, choosing to see the good side of everything more than the bad. It's a way to avoid dragging the regrets of the past to the present, becoming unproductive, and just plainly living life in the negative way. Still, like I said, it's easier said than done, because the past can really haunt you and you're mistakes can just come back to you in any time, expected or unexpected. It's impossible to undo what has been done but it doesn't actually mean we cannot make up for it or do things the right way afterwards, right? I like to believe that everyday is an opportunity to a better tomorrow.

I agree with you. You expressed this so eloquently. Each day is a blessing. It is so important to live in the present.

Life has to move on. This has actually been my main motto in life....What my experiences in the past should be my reasons to fight for the future.

As what i said to my family and friends. I normally dont deal with my past specially if its sad or bad moments as it will not gonna help me to move forward though it migt be a reflection to do better today for my future. Im somehow kind of optimistic person. I will rather think of what else i can do today to have better future than think of my past. Besides facing the truth and life will give us freedom and free from sadness. probably acceptance will that thigs really happened for a purpose and that we cant turn it back again.

Is that what we called a hellish life from past? I agree of what you said. We must move on and also, we must learn based on our experience. Anyway, some people thought that they're move on from past, but on their subconcious mind, it records and remembers it. It just our concious mind is the only one who records all present situation so as not to remember what's in past. Well, how I wish you understand what I wrote

Pose, you are a true wordsmith. You put into words just what I need to hear. We do make the same bad choices because we keep living in the past. I've come a long way to heal, but I still do it to some degree. For me, forgiveness is what has allowed me to move on.

hi dear Pose you see I am trying to catch up on all the notifications thats why my answer to you is that late. Sorry for this. The past is something which is part of our lives and I didnt have such a great past regarding my relationship to parents, my upbringing etc etc. I broke free from a bad situation in my life in mid 2011 and for the first time in my life you would hear me say things like, life is beautiful or life is good, or I enjoy life. In my past I always felt as if a dark cloud is hanging over me so to speak. These bad experiences of my past come back up here and there and if they do, I do my best to say, that was in the past and who cares about these people any more who made my past living hell sometimes, I am in the present and free and so I also have a good chance of a nice tomorrow not having to worry about what they do what they think etc.