I am learning to understand his behavior
By shylade
@shylade (3132)
Philippines
October 29, 2012 2:57am CST
My son is at his terrible twos. Just weeks ago, I am losing my patience with him already. I can't understand what he means and adding to what I feel are stress from work and from my crocheting projects. I want to understand him as seeing him so frustrated really breaks my heart. I don't want to punish him because he is too young and I think that won't solve our problem. As I understand, the terrible twos is something everyone goes through. It's a phase every parents must face with understanding, patience and knowledge too. If I don't read about it and chat with fellow moms like me whose children gone through this phase then maybe I am still at awe now. I want to thank also moms here who always share their thoughts and experiences. This time around, I will share how I am learning to understand my 28-month old son. As I already told here, he will cry out loud when every we don't let him do what he wants like turning on/off the TV, the lights and the fan. He maybe thinks that we are getting an important task from him. So I observe the way he acts. Then I let him do it but if I see him he can't do a task, I will approach him and ask him if he needs help. Oh that works wonder. We have less cries at nights and less struggles. I know this will not work with everyone else but still I am sharing this. I feel relief and happy all at the same time. 
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5 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
2 Nov 12
To be honest I don't know what exactly your problem is and why you do not understand your son. It's normal that at a certain age kids want to do things by their own. They have been observing adults/other kids and copy their behaviour. So what exactly is the part you do not understand? How come you feel so much stress about it?
Let your son be who he is. Some kids start with it early others are still sitting or laying around when they are 4 or 6 years old. Be happy he is so alert. There is nothing wrong with trying to get dressed himself, switching the tv or radion on/off, making his own bread, etc and all in his own way. If you have time you can show it to him first and he can do it/try it himself. As long as you are there to supervise he won't get harmed seriously it's fine. This is the normal way to handle this. He needs his own experiences and it sounds to me that no matter how young he is, he is ready for it.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Hello! I am a first time mom and my son is at his terrible twos now. I have been posting here what he is going through. Being a mom and a working mom, both at the same time really stress me a lot seeing my son always crying if he can't get what he wants. That's why I am learning to understand him and extend my patience. Sometimes, it's easy being said than done. Before I became a mom, I have seen many scenes of crying toddlers with their moms or dads. At that time, I thought why they can't handle their own child. Now that I became a mom, I understand that's it's not easy. You need to understand your child's behavior and be patient. Right, I have to let him be but I need to guide him so he will not lose his way. Thank you for sharing.
@tedifa (1232)
• Indonesia
1 Nov 12
Sometimes kids always made a trouble for us.But i think that was not a problem for me.I felt that my kids trouble is the prove from his affection to parents.If i got angry and give him a punishment it can't educate him to the right thing.I prefer to explain carefully before go to bed.Patient and smile can give him a comfort.Maybe he's still in progress,and wanna show you something.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Yes, He always wants to please us. Now he is getting better and is easier to talk with. I know showing him anger will never be helpful and will just dismay him. Right, being patient and showing him how much we love him will be a lot helpful. Thank you for sharing.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
same here, I always get out of my patient especially when there are many tasks to do. Sometimes, giving punishment is not bad but you must be firm with that. whereever and whenever they act like that. Sometimes for a parent it is really heart-breaking to see your kid crying out loud. But if you are going into their tantrums as their way to get what they want, they will used to do it everytime they got frustrated.
Good that our son knows how to approach us and say sorry.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
You must learn to control your emotions because the more you are showing him you are getting angry, the more he will insist what he wants. Just let him do what he wants and communicate with him calmly what he should do. He will surely understand that. Thank you for the response!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
Both mom and kid learn at the same time during this phase. And to be able to have a lot of patience on understanding your kids is the key.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
I agree with you. I also notice that when I am losing my patience he will just make it much harder for us. SO we let him express how he feels then afterwards talk to him about how he feel. I told my husband we must be patient and show him how much we love him instead of getting mad too. Thank you for the response.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
29 Oct 12
Hi!
I have a three year old son and I'm the one attending to him since birth. I can say that taking care of a child is not that easy. My patience is really tested. I think toddlers are really like that. Don't worry, it will change when they have grown up already. However, I shower him with love and talk to him and explain things when he does something wrong. He listen, thank God. I also pray for my son everyday that he will be a good boy. Have a nice day!
