"You can't change a person"... or can you?

Its tough to change a person. We can show them new ways to be. But they need to decide for themselfs if they want to change.

If you were asked the same question I know that you would readily reply NO. And I guess all of us will have the same answer. But the change we want for a partner should be a change in making ways of how to have a good relationship and not physically changing how our partners look. The person should change himself for the right reasons and should be willingful rather than force him to do it. Lay out your cards and explain what you want. Then let him realize the good points of what you are saying. He should be able to know that the change you want from hims is something vital for the success of your relationship.

I think people can change. For example, as people get older, I believe they change, as the problems, pains, disappointments, sufferings of life takes it toll on them, together with the rigours of aging themselves. Many people become more serious as they get older; also they often mellow: become calmer and less intense. How they change varies from person to person...some might become gentler...others less so. As a Christian, I also happen to believe that people can change through Jesus Christ. For example, a person who loves to spin tales can become highly truthful; the drunkard, temperate, the aggressive person, gentle, and so on. Also I believe severely traumatic experiences can change a person. That said, on a daily basis, I'd say it's fair to say that change is very slow, if it happens at all. Change of course occurs in childhood and adolescence...but after the onset of adulthood, real change is hard I'd say.

I think people can change, but it has to come from within them as individuals rather than them putting up a false front of change for the sake of somebody else, as they'd not be able to keep that facade up for long. I tried to change my ex husband as I thought I could (I was much younger and much less wiser then) but later in life came to realise that it would be better if I were to settle for someone who's already what I look for in a person, rather than choose someone who isn't and try to change them - as then it wouldn't be them, if I changed them, it'd merely be an extension of me and me manipulating their individuality and personality.

I don't believe that you can can change person. /the chang has to comwe naturally. the hchange has to dome from that persom who wants the chNGE, IV ELIEVE it can happen but iit has to be foer thright reasosns.

Honestly I think you can change a person but only certain kinds of things. For example I wouldn't ask or expect a person to change the way they act or their values however I might ask them to be more responsible if they want to get serious with me. I once dated a guy who was constantly defaulting on his debt and being irresponsible with his money. I told him that in order to get serious with me he needs to get his life in order. I feel that is reasonable enough and honestly something he should want to do for himself anyways. Anyhow what exactly are you trying to change about your boyfriend? To be honest sometimes faults are what makes a person unique and lovable but if its something crazy then that's another story.

I think that it might be possible for you to change a person if you really wanted to, but the question should be asked about why you feel as though you would want to change that person. If I knew that my partner didn't love me the way that I was, I would probably finish the relationship because I would much rather be with somebody that loved me for who I was rather than wanting me to be somebody else. I love my partner even though he has faults, and I would never expect him to change anything for my benefit.

Yeah I believe that you can't change a person. A person definitely has to be willing to change for themselves or to improve themselves. This is a hard thing for so many people to see. I wish that more people especially younger ones to make sure that the characteristics of the person that they are with is what they want in life. This way they would avoid a lot of future pain.

i want to say that your dad is right we cant change anyone.if i will try to say something to you ,you will not agree with it but by your own willing power you changed itself. so can only try to change or can give him advise them but you find change when he want to change by own willing.