signs of breakup
By janebernal
@janebernal (274)
Philippines
October 29, 2012 11:57am CST
i was into a long distance relationship for almost 3 years now...with that years he always call in short we have a very good line of communications...he even visited me here and i even introduce him to family .daughter and friends...everything is ok and we have some plans for our future..i loved him so much..however this past 2 weeks he just suddenly changed he never calls even emails or ym..i tried my best to contact him but to no avail, i send several emails..but out of 10 for that absence he just replied once that he was busy and he clearly wrote i have to let him go..then after a few days he txted me he loved me and missed me..im now so confused for his suddenly change i cant think anything wrong that make him upset ..still i waited for his explanations why..but with all honesty i loved him and willing to wait ..but my question til when i have to wait... is this really a sign of break up on his part?just liek that no communication til now i cant understand cant think what to do...please enlightened me need your advise or thoughts about this...thanks
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7 responses
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
best thing to do about that is do not easily jump into conclusion. try to contact and talk with him online to clear things out. it is not an easy thing you got there but your only weapon to keep your love affair glowing is to trust and to hope. talk to him first before giving signs of ending it.
thanks :O) good luck
@janebernal (274)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
yes im not jumping yet but im giving my self a few weeks or months im the only one exerted an effort to communicate with him hope that he has the guts to say to me its over even how painful it is il accept....thanks
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
29 Oct 12
Well, first of all, the important thing to clarify in your relationship at a distance from you is: he still loves you or not?
I tell you this because by your question, there seems to be a contradiction. Before he tells you he wants to be let go and here I assume that he would like the final breakup of the relationship with you.
Suddenly then he tells you that all in all, still loves you!
This is a source of doubt! What is the truth?
Thing to clarify in my opinion, as soon as possible.
@janebernal (274)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
yes i already asked him if he loves me or not once in for all so i can moved on too ..but i wait or give him space a bit..yes ur correct as soon as possible but its only me who exerted an effort for our communications...i already gave my self a few weeks more then maybe its over...facing heartbreak...
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
29 Oct 12
I dont know how long distance realtionships work but maybe he just needed a couple weeks to let some steam out who knows. I know with me and my boyfriend i feel i need space sometimes and i just get away for the day and go shopping and have a agirls day with my mom and i love that so much. Its life i guess you can say but everyone needs there time to themselves and he probably read your emails but didnt know what to say back at that time. I dont know if i could actually do a long distance relationship like that for 3 years without knowing his was cheating on your or something.
@janebernal (274)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
yes u have you point and also its my way of thinking maybe he needs a space which il give it to him hope its only space..its scary if later on its over now...its so painful when u will learn about cheating here i am so loyal and honest,,hope that he has the guts to tell me its over now...thanks
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
29 Oct 12
This could be for a lot of reasons...
He could have met someone closer that he was interested in, but changed his mind before it progressed further..
He could have just had a bit of doubt..
He could have gotten very busy and been concerned that he couldn't give you the amount of attention he feels you deserve...
Instead of asking us what we believe is going on, perhaps you need to confront him in a constructive manner..
@janebernal (274)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
first i thought he was just busy which i do understand but lately no...its only me who tried to exert an effort to communicate with him..yes i wanted it but i still wait and give him another time until he has the guts to tell me its over..so that i can move on too even how hard it is..thanks
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
19 Nov 12
these are all premature and basic signs of getting broke up and now its the tiem to call it quits and it will work ideally,no need to get annoyed or sad,give some time and communicate,its all fine
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
29 Oct 12
I hate to tell you this. Sounds like he has someone else closer to him. Id just come right out and ask him. If he has another girl. I know it will hurt to hear it. But it might be time to break it off with him.
@janebernal (274)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
thanks im trying to asked him but he never confirmed it...yes just thinking of it it hurts me most...
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
Hi, Jane! I am so sorry that you are going through this. I guess, it is really difficult to keep up with long distance relationships. I think both of you have that same question on your mind if your relationship is heading you somewhere or not. I think, it would be best of you try to ask him if both of you can talk about what you want and feel about your current situation. You just can't be left hanging. 3 years is quite long for a relationship like yours to work. I hope you could convince him to have a real talk about what is the real score between the two of you.
