Talk of the town
By Paper_Doll
@Paper_Doll (2373)
Philippines
October 29, 2012 7:25pm CST
I learned that my cousin who is 23 years old was being abused by her husband. She got married at 19 and now, she is no longer living with her husband and can't even have a peaceful life as the guy continues to trace her.
On the other hand, my best friend when I was still in elementary left her husband for an old rich foreigner. The husband, who is also a cousin of mine, did not say anything and left devastated about what happened.
These are the talk of the town when I visited my parents' yesterday for their wedding anniversary celebration. I feel very saddened to hear about those news as they are important people in my life. My father, during his talk, indirectly discussed those issues within our family and let us learn our lessons from them. He also mentioned that he truly hope that it won't happen again in the future. He has also warned us about other people who might give negative comments about what has happened.
Have you experienced being the talk of the town? Whether it is because of a positive or a negative thing that happened to you or your family. Please share how you successfully handled the situation. Thank you.
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5 responses
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
17 Nov 12
Personally it is sad sometimes when there are people that all they have to talk about are things that are happening around them, or to people that they know instead of focusing on themselves and what might be going on around them. Most of the time these are people that never tend to worry about themselves thinking they are on top of everything until something happens to make them think otherwise.
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Thank you for your response. I do agree with what you've said. Gossip can be very harmful but many people love it. In a town like ours whose people are likely to know each other, whenever something happened, everybody would know. It is like you can't keep anything from them. Funny but they are like analyst that would analyze every family/home. Like when a husband did not go home for like a week, they would think that the couple have already separated or the guy has already another woman. They believe in negative rumors so easily and spread those things without confirmation.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
30 Oct 12
your father sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders. the thing is, if you think you are not being talked about, you are in denial. Everyone gets talked about. There is saying that goes something like if they're not talking about you then you don't matter. You have to live your life and not worry so much about what people could be saying. Words are words, but your life is your life.
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
Thanks for sharing your thoughts jalucia.. Yes, I guess that is the best thing to do. People may talk about us but it is really up to us if we will let their words ruin us. At the end of the day, it will really depend on us.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
30 Oct 12
Oh no I am so sorry to hear about this. Especially for your cousin to be so young. I know someone (very close) who went through this similarity. She was abused by her husband for 7 years. The only way she got out of that relationship at the time was because he was sent to jail for a year. She was of course the talk of the town for a long time. If he hadn't gone to jail who knows how it would have turned out with her getting away.
I've never been the talk of the town that I know of and I am glad of that. I can not stand gossip. When I hear anything like it I tend to try to not join in with it. I try to dismiss it all that I can. I've had family members look at me so oddly because I am not interested or I do not contribute to their remarks.
As for how to deal with it I really don't know except to let it pass in time. Don't contribute either way and hope it will die away.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
Thanks echo. It is very sad that some marriages have to end that way. I feel sorry for those women, and of course, their children. Yes I agree with you, time will pass and this will all be forgotten. The best thing to do is just let it pass and don't mind what other people would say because if you'll say something or react to this, you'll just make everything more complicated.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
31 Oct 12
Yes I too feel horrible for them. What a terrible thing to have to live through and then also the aftermath of all of the gossip. 
they are strong to have to live through it and now with them getting away they can now start to build a real and better life. The children too if witnesses or just having to deal with a mother who is suffering from that sort of acts is hard on them as well.
they are strong to have to live through it and now with them getting away they can now start to build a real and better life. The children too if witnesses or just having to deal with a mother who is suffering from that sort of acts is hard on them as well. 
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
1 Nov 12
I am not yet married, but I am happy to share my parents (even my grandparents when still alive) are living well and might have petty conflicts but settled all things well.
A relationship should always be God centered. It's the best way to keep each other close and to let God control. However- influences around us are reasons of some conflicts. If we are weak and won't hold on to our loved one, then we fail the relationship.
I can see that couples who are devoted to God, teaches them to be humble. So couples like these, are more understanding,with long patience, tender enough, and more willing to communicate than to break up. :D
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Thanks for sharing meowchie. I am glad to know that your parents are still with each other despite all those conflicts. I think that problems are really part of every relationship. Yes, our positive outlook towards life and God could really help us overcome the trials that may come our way. A husband who is God-fearing will definitely not hurt or abused her wife. A wife who knows God and His teachings will never cheat on her husband. That is true that only if couples will make God as the center of their relationship, they can't really go wrong despite many problems and conflicts that may come.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
30 Oct 12
I didn't do anything necessarily to become the talk of the town however I've had issues with people talking about me before. A lot of people know me and I'm always out having fun and it just seemed like more and more people had their unwelcome opinions about me. It finally got so bad I walked up to this one lady who was talking about me and probably spreading the most rumors and told her how I felt. She was speechless. I said "I know I'm really great n everything and super interesting but if you can please try to resist talking about me thanks."
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
I admire you for being straight forward Sindelle. Sometimes, we really have to do that to make others feel that they can not just ruin our names. I hope she has already learned her lesson. They should know their limitations. People love gossips and they easily believe negative rumours about other people. Thanks!
