Are All Beautiful Women Boring?
By Artemeis
@artemeis (4194)
China
October 29, 2012 10:03pm CST
I repeat: "Are ALL (physically) beautiful women boring?"
In a recent article from a journal Psychological Science, a group of scientists went about to discover whether women who are physically attractive would also have equally appealing character traits and values.
Guess what is the result of their findings?
They found that physically beautiful women tend to focus more on conformity and self-promotion than independence and tolerance.
Initially, I did not really pay any attention to this article and I simply shook my head and shrugged it off as some attention seeking article to comfort the unattractive women like myself.
Until I arrived at the office and recall a conversation in the pantry with my boss's personal assistant, who is really a good looking woman - physically attractive, flawless face, nice skin, manicured nails and a very good sense of dressing. However, she has a lot of problems relating to her peers and other women at work. Only then, did the article strike me when she totally lack the various traits and values that would make her easily approachable and get along. From her account, I did some checking around with our other colleagues and gathered that she could never hold a conversation for more than a minute, has a high sense of her own opinion, could never take a joke on her account, does not tolerate people's mistakes, stubborn and stuck up. Compliant only to superiority and authority other than that, she is simply a tough nut as far as being sociable is concern.
Also, recalling my high school classmate who was a princess of the class who could never stop gloating about her endless range of beauty products she uses and her collection of clothings. At that time, while she was the hot favorites with the guys in the school, she just could not fit in with the rest of the girls in class.
Just the other night, my husband was commenting on one of the television serials where he said that beautiful women (leading actress) never seem to be the first to admit fault, give in to an argument or comforting to their male partners. They sit so high and think so highly of themselves till they are unreachable.
So, hurrah! For the imperfect non looker me, but I am still doubtful about this article. My doubt is in the area where beauty being an eye catcher does has its advantages as far as appeal is concern. They (attractive women) would not have to work as hard to attract or befriend people when they can be impressionable on first appearance and look. Compared to the buck tooth and pimple faces who would need to work on traits like sense of humor, good listening ear and interpersonal communication skills to overcome their shortcomings.
However, I have to admit that I have cut out this article for some self comfort and motivation. Is there anything wrong with me?
What do you think?
Do you agree with this article and the findings of the scientists?
6 responses
@ms1864 (6885)
• Bangalore, India
19 Aug 16
Actually...i think it has something to do with how the person was brought-up and in what kind of environment. I'm sure social pressures have an impact on it too. But no...i don't think it has something to do with beautiful women being boring....there are even women who are not so attractive that are superficial and lack substance. There are beautiful girls who don't even know it and have depth.
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@MiaFerrari (51)
• Argentina
31 Oct 12
Well, it's never ok to feel good about others being "wrong" or, in this case "boring".
I am a woman, and I don't consider myself attractive. The article doesn't make me feel any better about myself, but I can tell it is true.
I don't think it has to do with only caring about your looks, but with the fact that if you're attractive, men will notice you more easily, so you don't really have to bother about being interesting. Sad, but true.
A pretty friend of mine told me she cared about her looks because she wanted guys to come close and talk to her. I told her I'd rather have something interesting to say when that time comes.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
4 Nov 12
Beauty kills and some people will die for it - risking their life with unqualified cosmetic surgeons.
Like you've said, this world is about first impressions and outward appearances does play a big part for the world to approve and accept. Sad, indeed.
But, beauty like a beautiful flower it will wither with time while the spirit of a good soul's deed will last forever.
@GemmaR (8517)
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30 Oct 12
I don't like it when people think that a certain person has to be a certain way because of something about them. I have a lot of friends who are very beautiful indeed, and I have always thought that they were very exciting and not boring at all. I don't know why people seem to think that if you're beautiful you can't be interesting as well. It is a shame that people think this way because it means that you don't give a lot of people a chance when really they might honestly deserve it because they are nice people in reality.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
4 Nov 12
I believe you are a wonderful and easy to get along person, that is why you are not getting the picture of what this article is saying.
Pull your good-self out of their equation and observe if they have a lot of girlfriends for starters. Don't look at the numbers but check with the numbers' opinions about your very beautiful friends and you will be surprised with the answers you are going to get. I am sure you can see that most of them do not have as many (real) friends as you.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
I think this could be true to some who are self-centered and vain. I mean, those beautiful women who does nothing more than just to prep themselves up have nothing going on their heads other than how others would think they look.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
4 Nov 12
I believe if you observe further most of them really do not have much "girl" friends and could not relate with them well. Like my class's number one girl, who is ever so busy with her boyfriends, she hardly has the time nor patience to listen to her girlfriends.
And due to the keen competition for some certain guy, she would always be finding and spending her time trying to catch up with her physical appearance. The attention and focus just isn't balanced if you know what I mean.
@deazil (4730)
• United States
30 Oct 12
I think that type of behavior is more prevalent in (physically) beautiful women than other women. That may be why it seems as if they all are like that. It's as you said, a less (physically) attractive woman has to work on other skills - sense of humor, good listening ability, etc. - to become attractive. I have known some quite beautiful women who were personable. But I think if you took 50 beautiful women and 50 plain women you would find more socially adaptable women in the plain group than the attractive group. I don't agree with the article to the extent that ALL (physically) beautiful women are boring, if that is what they're saying. And no, there's nothing wrong with you! You're fine! If cutting out an article, no matter what it's about, brings you comfort and gives you motivation, then you go right ahead. Comfort and motivation are good things to feel/have. But work on your sense of humor. Just kidding. Good discussion topic. Very interesting. You have me thinking when I should be sleeping.
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@artemeis (4194)
• China
4 Nov 12
Thank you for your well worded response here.
I will certainly remember what you've said here and I do agree that not ALL beautiful women are boring. I think boring is a wrong choice of word than difficult where they simply have difficulties is relating with their own peers, most of the time.
Sense of humor, huh? Time to put on my thinking cap.
@Sindelle (824)
• United States
30 Oct 12
Well I could see perhaps less attractive having to try harder and thus being more interesting. Also sometimes people who care less about make up and clothes are more interested in other things that I suppose could make them more interesting. Especially to me who don't wanna hear about the new Mac colors or designer jeans you brought.
@artemeis (4194)
• China
4 Nov 12
I didn't buy any new Mac or designer jeans? Are you talking to the right person?
Anyway, I believe everything's fair and square over here. But, it is a fact that the attractive ones do not have the time or need to work on their social skills when they are constantly being attended and seek.