Should i Pursue, move on, or am I Being Played???

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Okay, it was a Very long time since i last posted a discussion here. Since the last discussion I had posted here helped me a lot in my life, I decided to post another topic hoping I get helped the same way I did before. i would like to discuss this in as much detail as i can to avoid any confusion from anyone who reads this. so, here goes: - My Current Situation: I am Currently Single. It has been 9 months since my last relationship. That relationship lasted about 3 1/2 years. Unfortunately, it did not end so well because my ex girlfriend cheated on me. so....There's that. Now recently, i came to date a Girl (Let's name Her 'M')who i knew back in College. we have been dating a couple of months now. I was able to develop feelings for her but there were some factors that gave me doubts before really getting serious with her. - Let me Give you a Quick History about her: I was able to know her because she and one of my best friends used to date. unfortunately, during that time, she was known to be sort of a Campus Flirt. when she used to date my friend , she was also seeing somebody else at the same time with my friend. although She and my friend never really became Boyfriend/Girlfriend. They just had their fun. But my friend had deep feelings back then and to cut the long story short, She broke my Friend's heart. Time moved on and so did my friend. Right now, I think M and my friend are in good terms and my Friend already has his own Girlfriend. And when he knew that I was dating 'M'. he just told me "knock yourself out, take care though..haha!" - We moved on with our own Lives: Right after College, I heard that M had her own boyfriend and lasted two years. During that time, i also had my own Girlfriend (yep, the one described above). Time passed then me and my ex broke up. that being said, i had to catch up with most of my girl-friends because my girlfriend back then was the jealous type. I was able to get M's number as well since we stayed friends since college. I also found out that M no longer had a boyfriend. no grudges were kept with my friend (the one M dated) that's why it was just okay that me and M were still friends. moving on. There were times that i got bored and had nothing to do during weekends. i could not go out with my usual friends because they had "partners" of their own and they had their own thing going on with their lives. out of boredom, i just decided to ask her out with no romantic intention. i was just bored and i didn't want to go out alone. eventually, The 'once in a while' hang outs became frequent. a simple 'lean on the shoulder' became hugs, goodbye kisses to the cheeks became kisses to the lips. Next thing we knew, we were already making out in our 'Dates'. At first, I was hesitant to move on and pursue her given her history with my friend and given my history with my ex (the type of girl that she was back in college fits with the reason i broke up with my ex). However, for some reason, the girl I knew back in college seemed different from the girl I was dating now. She was more mature and did not play around with the feelings of a guy having interest with her (by 'guy' of course, I mean me). I was able to say that because of something she sent me. - A Text Message: After one of our dates, she sent me a text message saying "could we stop what we are doing?". by that, she meant the Kisses, holding hands, acting like a couple in public, etc. She said that because she stated that she was having trouble about what she was feeling. She was not ready for a relationship just yet. Although she said to me that she liked me in THAT way already, it was the 'commitment' i was thinking she was not ready for yet. -What I did: I just agreed to what she said. I already have feelings for her and I said i'll just wait. Although i could not say that it's LOVE just yet, there is something in me that wants to be with her (Damn, that sounded cheesy!). and besides, I think I'm not ready for a committed relationship as well but I'm not afraid to do it again right now. I guess it's how much I like her now. And she is also not dating anyone else right now. -What I think I think what she told me was a positive thing. Considering the type of girl that she is and was, she really did not have a hard time with her way with Boys. Now, because of me, she's backing off a little? Could it be that she is having feelings or feeling something real and she is just confused? If she felt that I was just some other guy, she would not have trouble and continued to have her fun right? (Help me interpret this if i'm right or not) -The Next Date The funny thing is that, on our next date, we started out doing what we agreed upon but ended up making out at the end of the date anyways. I'm trying to figure out if i should still pursue her given the fact that she does not want to have a relationship yet. is she really not ready or is she just keeping me in reserve? I would not consider dating other girls because if i do that, and her confusion is real, it would give her an Idea that she is just an option for me where in I am already comfortable with her. need your input on this guys. I know it was long and i thank you for reading. all comments are very much appreciated... =)