Why won't new parents listen to their parents?

Hi, You are right. It is better to listen to someone who has been there and had the experiences. We can learn something from others experiences. But if your daughter in law thinks that she knows how to raise her child then you should not give her any advice. It is obvious that you love your grandson and want to give some good advice about raising him. But it is better to give advice to someone when it is asked for. When someone doesn't listen us we feel offended.

Each parent(S) is unique and also in the way they bring up their children. They are new parents; allow them to learn through an experience of their own. If they get stuck am sure they would come running to you for help and treasure wisdom.

What you did 20 years ago while raising your children may not be right nowadays. You need to understand that things evolve and change all the time. Toys are different now, as are cribs, strollers, highchairs, etc. Modern technology has made things safer. Research has even proven over the years that the way you put your baby down for sleep has changed. What was right back then may not be right now. I would never listen to my parents when raising my children because I know that time has changed. I've seen first hand how things have changed over the years and how raising children has changed as well.

Please don't take it as offence, but everyone should be granted the choice how to bring up their children. If you always tell them to do their things in another way, they are going to feel as if you think they are stupid or that you won't let them have their way. Bringing up a child is not an exact science, it doesn't mean that if they don't follow your advice they are going to mess up the kid. Also, the world is a whole lot different now. Let them decide how THEY want to educate and bring up the children. If you really think they're doing something wrong (and something really wrong, not something like what brand of baby food to give), you should tell them, but you should tell that you accept if they do it in a different way and you are really not telling this to pick up a fight... and please don't try to give advice on EVERY SINGLE thing. I'm seeing this whole situation with the eyes of a wife-to-be, and my future mother-in-low sometimes drives me crazy by always giving advice on everything, like nothing I do is fine, because she's more experienced and older and blah-blah-blah... it's just too much, because I feel as if everyone thinks that because I'm not as experienced I'm gonna make thosands of mistakes just because I think about issues in another way than they do.

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well yes u are absolutely right, nowadays new parents are no more listening to their own parents and they think that they do not require any advises even from their parents as that would mean that they are being spoonfeeded by them and hence they want to be independent in their lives. But this is very much bad and they should listen to whatever their parents say to them. What say?

There is nothing wrong with giving them advice when it comes to their newborn. In fact if given the right way I'm sure they would appreciate it. But that being said no one wants to feel like everything they are doing is wrong either. Just like you learned from your mistakes they will have to learn from their mistakes as well. Everything right now is new to them as far as being parents & they want to make sure that they are being the best parents that they can be. Just be patient with them & I'm sure given enough time that they will be seeking you out for advice. They just don't want to feel like they can't take care of their own child & even though you may not mean to make them feel that way they feel like you are by always telling them that they should be doing this or that.

yes and no as some new ideas are bettewr than what we knew ctryhnny so give them a little slack and too they want to be parents and learn for themselves.you mean well bu t nothing beats that feeling that" yes I can raise my baby correctly after all.its my child." Of course you have a l ot to g ive them but remember they really are the parents not y ou and they have to stand on their own two feet,they are adu lts now with a family of th e ir own,also a lot of mothering for most moms is instinctual. as I say cut them a little slack and no not make f un of them theyh will learn by doing.