Picking out or Buying your own Engagement Ring?!?!?!
By BabyGurrl
@BabyGurrl (65)
United States
October 31, 2012 10:04pm CST
My boyfriend and I have been discussing marriage a lot lately. We're like two little lovebirds.lol So one night, I called him and I asked him could I pick out my engagement ring. I like to play around with him and I just wanted to see what he would say. He goes, "umm, I don't know if that's in the rules. I don't think you can do that sweetheart". Personally, I didn't think there were "rules" to getting engaged. There are women who have proposed to their guy and there are some who have even PAID for their own engagement ring. I read one story where a lady took out a loan on her house to pay for her ring and another maxed out 4 credit cards just to pay her ring off. Another lady bought her ring AND bought her fiance's ring (which he picked out and told her to buy-mind you he makes a great salary & can afford to buy her ring). Now that I think is a bit much and to me, that's crossing the line. I thought this would be a pretty interesting topic and I wanted to discuss it with my mylotters. :) What are your thoughts on this? Should a woman be able to pick out her engagement ring? How do you feel about a woman purchasing her own ring? Just a friendly, discussion here. All comments/thoughts are welcome! :)
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4 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
1 Nov 12
I bought the rings myself at my first marriage since I had a greedy husband and if I did not I would probably have no ring(s) at all. I also did it with my 2nd marriage because my husband has no money plus in the country he lives is less choice and the quality very bad. Also I don't like gold rings, glittering things etc, but we did had a look in his country what we both liked. We both have 2 rings, the idea is the same but the imprint is not. I would not buy a ring for a guy who can pay for himself, I would also not get married to a guy I have to pay for each time again (like my first husband). I can not stand abusers and my ex husband was surely one of them. Only spending money on himself, always the first to tell me what to buy for him and how to spend my income on him. On the other hand he never spent 1 penny on me and the kids. I think it's up to each person (and his/her situation) how to handle this. What feel right for you. Nobody cares if you have no ring, if you prefer a chain or tattoo or whatever. It's just a sign/symbol no more no less.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
28 Nov 15
Im so sorry that your first husband was an abuser. He really didnt deserve your love. I hope that this one treats you well. And if you are happy that you bought the ring then it is ok. what really matters is to have someone that truly loves you by your side.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
28 Nov 15
I think that if you and your boyfriend think you can get your own engagement ring is what really matters. Only your opinion matters because you are the ones who will get engaged. About me, I would prefer my boyfriend to choose it and propose to me in the old romantic way 
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
1 Nov 12
I think, it is the guy's problem to choose the engagement ring for his future wife. I mean, it should also come as a surprise, right? Why in a hurry?
@Eglantine1230 (34)
• China
4 Nov 12
There are ladies who like a engagement ring and also some who don't like a ring.If you would like to have one,he should buy it for you(if he can't afford it,it's another story).In my opinion,it's not a ring itself that matters,but it's about if he's willing to make you happy.Love shouldn't stand on words only(Sorry,I'm not a native English speaker,so I don't know if this expression is right),I mean that love,after all,should be represented in tangible things.If you don't like a ring but something else,he is willing to buy it for you to make you happy.If you two are unable to reach a consesus in many things,you may have more problems with your family life after you tie the knot,especially after you have a baby
