My son is misbehaving...

My son is a lot older now but when he was younger, I was always getting calls from the teachers and principal telling me that he was misbehaving and I needed to pick him up or that he was suspended. A kindergartener suspended for ten days! Can you imagine? It ended up that he was having two problems. One was a lazy eye, we didn't notice because it only happened after he was looking at paper for a few minutes and it was like he was dyslexic and the other was that the kids and the teachers found him an easy target to pick on. He got older and changed schools. His eye problem is fixed and no one here has any problems with him. Good luck and maybe you can talk to him and see if he is having problems with someone picking on him.

Well my friend had a similar problem. Her son was acting up at school. She used to run out of the office at work all the time in tears over it. Anyways in her case her and the father were divorced. She went to a child psychiatrist and was told that her son was lashing out because he missed his father. She took her son to several sessions with the psychiatrist and after awhile it started to help. They also were able to give her suggestions about rewarding him for good behavior. Also she said it helped when she told her son that she'll be calling the school every day to check up on him. I know seeing a psychiatrist is expensive and may not be an option to you. Maybe the teacher or school counselor can give you some good suggestions as to how to handle him and why he's acting up. Or maybe if you calmly ask him yourself he might tell you whats going on. I'm sure its very frustrating and I hope you figure things out. My friend used to cry all the time thinking she was a bad mother. She isn't a bad mother and neither are you. Sometimes children act up and we cannot help that. I hope you get this issue resolved soon. Don't let it get you down.

Are you sure that this might not be ADD, ADHD or Bipolar? Is there trouble at home, or is he being bullied at school? There is always a reason for something. I once knew a boy who acted out a lot. He hit other children. Turned out that the boy had ADHD or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. His mother and family didn't want to admit it, at first, but then the teachers and principal forced his mother to get him tested, and sure enough, he had it.

It may not seem like a big adjustment for him but there is a change you are no longer working.. Your son might see this as an opportunity to stop going to school and stay home with you all day.. The way it use to be when he was younger.. It is possible that he might be actting out so that he will be sent home and never have to come back.. I am not saying school is bad or wrong.. You are mom; and most little kids want to be with there moms all of the time.. I also understand why he is in school; there is an advanage for the child; regardless of what others have said in this discussion.. He could have ADHD or another behavior problem.. But I would suggest looking at all of the other possiblities first.. Not that labels are bad because they are not; but at the same time children are mislabeled all of the time and then their parents are forced to give their children this pill and then that pill.. So I can understand your resistence.. A child on a pill is easier to control, thats why so many children are misdiagonaed all of the time.. My oldest is ADHD; he showed posible signs around the age of three.. He saw the doctors regularly.. He was not labeled this until he was 6 years old.. Even with family history of mental disablities.. If you and/or the school is wrong; the child has an excuse for his bad behavior until someone catches on.. Children are smart; and they do not get the credit that they deserve sometimes.. As parents we can either give them the tools needed to suceed or the crutches to fall back on when they dont do their best.. Why say it like that? In school I was LD had lots of problems in the beginning.. my mother labeled me dumb, a retard, wouldnt amount to much... After being rasied in that kind of enviroment you start believing it.. My mother got so mad at me and the teachers when I tested out of the LD program.. So I just reverted backwards.. I loved school but I was rasied to be dumb.. I found an easy way of dealing with it all.. I wouldnt distrupt the class or anything but I quit putting my heart and soul into school.. When I became of age I did graduated.. But I was not living with my mother.. she didnt want me to succeed All I am saying is watch how you apporach the situation; if he is just a little more of a wild child that might change as he gets a little older.. But if its still there by 5 or 6 I would seriously start looking into getting him tested.. First place to start talking about it would be to his doctor.. Even now.. They can document this and see if he gets better or worse.. Good luck

Kids his age might be incorrigible and extreme tolerance should be taken by us parents. But if you think that his behavior is really getting overboard, you can always seek help from a therapist.

maybe your son just need attention? or he's too young for school.. and wants other activities.. maybe you should ask him what he wants and let him know how important school is and how to mingle with other people.. he's just a kid :) he'll surely learn to understand and listen to you because your his mom.. mother's know best :)

I guess our children have the tendency to misbehave if they are not that motivated to study. Maybe the teacher isn't good in getting his attention. The teacher must know how to deal with her students. How about reverse psychology? Maybe, he will tell his problems to his teacher if he finds his teacher caring and trustworthy. Maybe someone's bullying him at school. I hope he won't stay that way too long. He's only 4. He's still young. I guess he will become more mature as he grows older. Happy mylotting.

Hello, 4 year old goes to school. Isn't he too young for going to school?? In our country, kids go to school as soon as they turn 6 and not 4. Maybe it's hard for your son to adapt, since he is really young, maybe there is something which concerns him. Don't be afraid to ask him yourself, he might share if he wants to. Happy myLotting!

I think it is very early to join your son in school. My parents joined me at an age of 5,which is most common, Anyhow tell him to sit calmly inside school eating others box is very bad thing. If he continues like this, it will create so many problems to him and you. But dont forget to improve the taste of the foods you are making for him.