I Am So Stressed Out!
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
November 2, 2012 11:11am CST
Yes I am venting again, sorry in advance. I am so stressed out right now...
We offered my aunt for us to move her down here from NY instead of her having to pay so much for a U-Haul. We told her to just help us out with gas and we will move her here. Okay, so we were supposed to go up there on Monday.
My sister is treating me to a concert for my birthday on Sunday night (my birthday is on Thanksgiving this year but there was no concerts close to that day), and she said she does not want to drive home for 3 hours after the concert so now we won't be able to leave here on Monday. My aunt has to be out of her house completely by Tuesday, so now we have to leave at God only knows what hour to be there to get her out on time on Tuesday!
Then my sister tells me not only are we staying in a motel now but she made plans for us to look at venues for her wedding on Monday as well so we won't be getting home until like 9pm on monday night! So there is no absolute way that we can leave here Monday to be there on Tuesday. Now I have my aunt a little upset with the situation which I really cannot blame her and I am in the middle of everything going on...
I am SO stressed out and we have not even gotten there yet! This is such a disaster and it has not even started yet!! Ugh, my stress level is through the roof right now!
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Nov 12
Take a deep breath, everything always seems much worse before it happens. Is there anyway that you and your spouse can get some rest even before the concert so that you can still leave right after everything is done? Or perhaps tell your sister that you'd love to look at venue's with her, but that you promised your aunt you'd be down to help her move, and that you can't go back on that.
Everything will work out, just try to have fun. Sorry I have no more words to comfort you with, but I know from experience that it is always a lot better then it seems at first.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Nov 12
I need many deep breaths right now, lol. We can but my husband has a really bad habit of falling asleep behind the wheel which is not good either. Even if he gets enough sleep, if its dark out he will fall asleep. It is really bad!
My sister is driving there and back, and she already paid for the tickets for the concert so I can't just tell her I am not going but she refuses to leave earlier because she wants to look at the venue! =(
I don't know what to do at this point...
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
4 Nov 12
try to sit down and relax. consider how important your sister's invite is and if it is not possible to make it, help her to realize why, but do be so gentle in doing so. satisfying her request when you are so stressed out will make the event dull and you might end up spoiling everyone's fun.
@celticeagle (166718)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Nov 12
I think that in issues of stress we have to figure how much of this can I have some kind of control over and how much am I not in control of at all? Can't your sister video the different venues for her wedding and text them to you? That would aleviate one issue and get you home sooner. When stressed you need to get plenty of rest. Just remember that there are things you have control over and some you don't.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Nov 12
Pretty much I don't have control of the situation at all. I get what your saying, no point in stressing over things we cannot change. Really hard for me to do though. I like having a plan and sticking to it. Things being up in the air like this makes me very nervous!
My sister is driving there and back and I cannot tell her I am not going now when she paid a lot of money for the tickets. At the same time though, I feel bad for my aunt too. =(
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
2 Nov 12
Doesn't your sister know you're going to help your aunt? I'm sure if you explain this she'll be very understanding, and may even drive back on Sunday night. You're going to lose your mind if you don't figure something out. You need to get to your aunt's house on Monday. How far is it from your house?
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
2 Nov 12
Either way you look at it someone is going to be pi$$ed off. I think this is sort of selfish of your sister to do to you. She should be more understanding under the circumstances. You made arrangements with your aunt first, and that's what you should keep. If it was me, I would just tell my sister I cannot go to see wedding venues with you that day, but I can go another day, because I need to go home. You had a priority first, and that's what you should stick with, especially now that I read your aunt is getting a cast off? She needs your help more than ever now.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Nov 12
Yes my sister knows that we are going to help my aunt. My sister wants to look at venues though and she is not going to change her plans for anyone...
I don't know how we are going to make this happen! She is driving so I cannot just leave earlier. =(
It is a 12 hour drive from here to NY!
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
2 Nov 12
Sounds like your sister is on the path already to becoming a bridezilla. Stand firm now about getting back according to your schedule, or you likely will have even more stress on your plate as the wedding draws closer.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Nov 12
Yes she is. Lol. Good observation! I will have plenty of stress once it gets closer I know. But as far as the trip went and my aunt everything was fine. My aunt did not mind putting it off for one more day and it actually worked out better for us that way! All is well. =)
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
2 Nov 12
Could you not explain this to your sister? I;m sure she would understand you can always get her wedding dress some other time (not as if she was getting married Tuesday.I can see where you aunt is upset over this, I would be too as she handed everything to you and you said you would now it's on the fence.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Nov 12
No, she already knew and did not care apparently... But my aunt said it would be better for her if we put it off for a day anyway. So it all worked out for the best. We already went there and got back. =) I am so grateful the whole thing is over!
@liviaslife73 (238)
• United States
2 Nov 12
I can totally relate to how you feel. I too am under a lot of stress but of course for different reasons. All I can say is that you agreed to help your Aunt out first so that should be your first priority. Your sister will just have to understand that. There is only one of you & you can't be everywhere at once, so try to calm down(I know that's easier said then done)& see if you can't talk to your sister about getting together on anther day if possible.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Nov 12
Yeah the stress was killing me but it all worked out. My aunt did not mind putting it back a day and were back home now. =) It was a long trip but other than that all went well and no one is mad at me! Thank goodness. =)
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
2 Nov 12
Wow! I had to take a peek at your profile to see how long of a drive you have. is that NC? I know from here in Ohio it's like a 10-12 hour drive from here to NC (depending on houw fast I drove, how often I stopped, etc.) and four more to NYC. That's one long drive!
Can your sister change her plans? If her wedding isn't for a few more months, she should be able to put it on hold. I think a lot of the places she wanted to go look at would understand with a phone call if your sis told them that she has to make an emergency visit to NY to help out a relative.
I would just try to get the sister to enjoy her time with you, go ahead and get the motel but just have a 'girls night/day' before she gets married.
I know if I was counting on someone to help me get out of a bad situation and not having any help and being way off schedule for things would make me a little upset.
I used to drive from NC to Ohio and vice versa a lot. I would drive during the night when there was less traffic. I would go back and forth up 95 and go around Washington, DC. Getting near DC at any rush hour is crazy, bumper to bumper and often times traffic jams, waiting as long as an hour or more sometimes.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Nov 12
Yes NC. We have a 12 hour drive ahead of us... =( It is going to be so stressful and tiring! And I am not feeling good with a bad cold and its that time of month right now... All things added, I am STRESSED!!
I wish she would change her plans but she is not going to. My sister does what she wants to do and thats it. She is a little selfish at times.
Thank God I spoke with my aunt and she is not upset with me at all. She is upset with my sister and the situation...I just feel horribly bad, like I am letting her down.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Nov 12
HI LovingMyBabies wow things got a bit complicated all of a sudden.'No Wonder you are stressed out.Now your poor Aunt is also upset and of course none of this is h er fault or yours.So you are going to a concert as a birthday treat by your sister on Sunday evening.now sister wants you to look at venues Monday morning? why not tell your sister you have to leave to help your Aunt move by Tuesday so you cannot look at venues Monday morning.You must le ave on Monday morning so you can get her moved out on Tuesday. Surely she can change her plans for you that much. After all shes also her Aunt also. Explain to your sister the importance of you leaving on Monday morning.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Nov 12
Yes things are very complicated! And it happened so fast because plans changed so last minute and now I don't know what to do. Yes my birthday treat was this concert but now she is also turning it into her wedding plans as well while we are there! Which I did not know was going to happen or I would have just told her no thank you. I don't mind doing the wedding stuff but not when I already had plans to help my aunt and she knew it!
My sister said that she wants to look at the venue so that's that. I just don't know how we are going to pull this off! It is a 12 hour drive to NY from here. =( So stressed right now!
There is no convincing her otherwise, my sister is the one driving so I cannot just leave when I want to...And she won't leave any earlier!
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@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 12
Calm down, everything will be at its placed soon. Take care!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Nov 12
I really do need to calm down because I am losing it over this whole situation... =(
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
3 Nov 12
Well, forst off I hope it is not in New York City. It is crazy around here, traffic is crazy and there is no gas to be had either. The hurricane did a lot of damage. If its not in the city, be careful driving anyway. I understand the stress. I have ben in situations that were stressful before. Just try and calm down. And take things one step at a time. I think if you do that you will get through all of it and maybe it won't be as bad as you are anticipating.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Nov 12
It was Long Island and we waited for 3 hours for gas! It was bad, it was crazy when we went through the city to get to the island too.
But its a good thing that my aunt wanted to wait an extra day anyway so I got to do everything I had to do... We are back and all is good.
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
4 Nov 12
LMB, it seems that everything hinges on your sister. Why is she being so uncooperative? She's forcing you to spread yourself way too thin. You can't do it. It's impossible to be in two places at once. At least your aunt is understanding and realizes this is not your fault. She's directing her annoyance at the right person - your sister. I doubt if you'll be able to make everyone happy and I think someone will be upset in the end. I have a feeling it will be your sister. I wish I had a solution. I sympathize with you as I am under extreme stress myself right now and fail to see that there is an end to it. I know what I have to do but it's just all very stressful for me. I really hope something works out for you. I know you're always helping, helping and more helping and you deserve to have some cooperation. Your sister..
. Say a prayer for peace for yourself. You need peace and calmness right now. Maybe spend a moment alone with God. It might help. I wish you the best.
. Say a prayer for peace for yourself. You need peace and calmness right now. Maybe spend a moment alone with God. It might help. I wish you the best. 1 person likes this
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
2 Nov 12
Take a break, go for a little walk get some fresh air. it all will work out for you. Have a great weekend.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Nov 12
Thanks, a break is what I need right now! Hope you have a great weekend too.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
3 Nov 12
To be a bit blunt, it sounds like your sister is being inconsiderate.
Is there any way you can drive yourself to the concert? Or you could move most of your aunt's things in advance (today and tomorrow) and she could just drive herself down on Tuesday?
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Nov 12
I agree, she was worried about herself and not my situation. But thank God my aunt wanted to put it off for a day anyway, so I got to do everything! I am so glad it is over with...
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
3 Nov 12
Wait I can't quite get it but what are the demands of your Aunt?
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
hi LMB,
I've been in huge stress this past days I am just thankful that I managed to finished it all with the help of my friends (some are mylotters) don't stress yourself too much you can always have a choice and can find a solutions on it.
happy mylotting
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Nov 12
I am glad you got done what you needed to as well. My situation is fine now too. I am so happy things got better.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
3 Nov 12
it happens to anyone just vent it out and feel free the rest of the time for sure
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Nov 12
Yeah I vented it out here and we got everything done so its all good.
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
3 Nov 12
for most part of the time ,it happens to anyone and its quite common,we must just chill out always
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
11 Nov 12
Yeah I guess it does happen to many. Thank goodness it worked out for the best...
@auwielady (116)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
Chill my friend! You should probably relax, take some deep breaths, enjoy the fresh air and unwind a bit. Everything will be alright. Things will be on the right place at the right time. Remember, there's a rainbow after the rain always. Just smile! :)
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Nov 12
Yeah I feel better now the whole situation is over. I got both things done without a problem...
