Saying "No"

Hello edvc77 I agree! That's the hardest thing especially for new ones. Even though I'm not a parent but I know how hard it is. My Mom is a strong woman, she's firm ans strong about her decision. When she says "NO" then that's no, if she says "yes", then that's yes. As we grow mature we realize that she disciplined us well and I'm thankful for that. Stay positive and be strong you will be successful to face the challenge.

Agree. The NO for the kids is very effective. Most of the time, whenever a kid does something wrong or stupid, some elders just say- ah it's ok, let it be, she/he's still young, but never dared to tell the kid not to do it again. So the kid just thinks it's something allowed to be done. Aside from no, engage the kid to some neat toddler books with dont's and do's lessons. There's never too young for learning,as long as the child interacts- then she/he is ready to learn and hopefully learn the right and good :)

I always told my kids No when they were little. My older son was a wild little thing and was always testing me. I would swat him on the butt and he would cry. The funny thing was, it scared him more than anything else. It didn't hurt him, he had on a diaper and would fall on his butt harder than that. I would smack his hand and say no and he would keep doing things and one day while I did that, his hand started turning red and I felt really bad and went back to swatting his diapered butt.

I am not a parent but an Aunt for my nephew and niece who are living with same compound. For my niece who is 7 years old already or even younger years I taught her already on how to eat properly especially on how to finish the food. I even told her not to leave even 1 piece of rice. She is discipline enough to follow it then it is her habit to do that. For my nephew who is just 2 years old I am just talking to him like do not touch those things then he also follows that he wouldn't touch it.

hi, Its good to know that your child listens to you and stops doing anything when you say no. But some children don't listen like that, they do the same thing more when they hear no,and that is irritating for the parents. I really don't know what should you do to discipline them as i am not a parent.

i think sometimes you shoul let your chil do whtaevwr hewants as long as it wont really hurt him or anybody because there are things that you think not good for him, but for him, they are.. and also the result of his actions will give him lessons. it will make him realize if its good or bad, then would let him identify what is right or wrong.. i dont have a child yet but i just wanted to share how my mother brought us up.. and its very effective..

yes we must learn how to say no and always disciple must prevail at the end of the dya

It's not true what you say. Kids don't know or realize if you say NO that what he/she is doing is not good for them. They stop because you are angry with them, for the time being. So the kid is scared because of your reaction. It's normal for children (and adults as well!) to discover themselves what is good or wrong. They also need to discover it by themselves since only if something turns out wrong they have the experience of that and those experiences they need in their life badly. If you say NO whole time you will only learn them to be scared, not try out themselves, they will have less self esteem as an adult, always be scared and no skills. I wonder why you want to DISCIPLINE a child. You are not training it to join the army or? I have 5 children of my own, over 11 foster children and I was never telling NO for whole days or trying to discipline them. They all are polite, attentive, helpfull, creative, intelligent plus have lot of self esteem. Let a child be a child, talk to them, ask their opinion, answer their questions, let them discover the (their own) world. There is nothing wrong with rules, habits, etc but this should give them security and and a save home. They shouldn't be there to discipline them but to raise them.

Yes I agree with you edvc77. parenting is,I think, the hardest job ever.we are not even paid with any amount,our only consolation is when our child excel in school or whatever he is doing, and if he is healthy.Another thing is,whatever our child is doing or how he behave reflects how we disciplined them. But children are children. They explore the world without idea of what is bad or good.I think that saying no and letting them understand the concept of what is know and yes is a must. How will they know that they are not doing the right thing if you will not inculcate the "yes'and "no"how will they behave properly if you won't say "no" to them?In addition to saying no is a good explanation why you had to say "no".

Thanks for this discussion i have same problem you have. i hope we will get best response for this problem.

I'm not yet a parent but as a child, my parents managed to discipline me and my little brother. They were strict but in the nicest way possible. Let's say I wanted to play outside as long as I wanted. She allowed us but she allotted a certain time. If we didn't go home by that time and would be stubborn about it, she'd scare us on how dangerous it was when we stayed up too late. My father was less lenient. He'd lock the doors so we wouldn't get in. We stayed out for a few hours before letting us in. I never disobeyed them since XD It's a matter of being feared and loved at the same time. Explaining and talking to them also helps. Whenever we wanted certain toys, they'd explain on how we're not rich to afford them. For some reason, we never threw tantrums because they'd eventually give us what we wanted as an incentive for good grades or for waiting until our birthdays or Christmas ^_^

my opinion is: beat your kid when he does bad things. he will learn respect and in future he will understand what are good things to do and what are bad things to do. Trust me, my father beat the crap out of me when i was a child and did ouful things, now i`m 23 years old, i know how to respect ppl, ppl respect me, i have a small busines that i own, and all this because my dad educated me well.