Do You Really Listen
By redredrose
@redredrose (1105)
United States
November 2, 2012 9:50pm CST
When someone is talking to you no matter how bad or boring the thng is do you really always listen the best that you can. I know not everyone does this and they should. I don't even listen as best i can. Like if what someone is saying doesn't hold my attention is boring or bad or something i just nod my head and say yeah mm mm to male it look like i'm fully interested and listening and i know this is totally wrong. You would want someone to fully listen to you and every thing you're saying so we should do the same for others. Sometimes tho when i don't like what they are talking about i do think of other things and don't listen as well as i can or should , but i'm trying to be better about this because i know i would want someone to fully listen to me and care about what i am saying. Sometimes you can tell when and or if the person is paying attention or not and that's rude.Tho if it is over the phone you can't really tell and that's not good. So i am trying to be a better listener and listen to every word someone has to say so i can be there for them if they need help a friend a shoulder to cry on or advice and so i'm not rude.
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6 responses
@md_som (29)
• India
3 Nov 12
well i try to listen as best as i can becoz every human has its own power of tolerating something which he/she doesnt wanna listen..
but the time i loose that power i start doing fake reaction to those people that yeah i am listening to you...but in real i am not listening to them.. hahaaha
thanks
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@marquisdesade (399)
• India
6 Nov 12
I think our task is to hold that power for as long as we can. Nicely put together, I like it.
I will never want anyone I talk to, to fake expressions so that I think he/she is listening to me, but when he/she is not. And it is also true for other persons thinking towards me too. That means they don't want me either to fake listening when in fact I am not listening. That's why I am trying to improve my listening power, to hold that power for as long as I can. I am not perfected the art, but I intend to. It is much much beneficial in the long run.
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 12
what can i say, i think im a good listener and can give good advice too maybe.
i have few friend that really sharing their problem too me and the said it nice to have someone like me to be talk to.
for me,today i help never and we never know maybe someday i might need them to heard mine too.
it just good to feel when u can comfort someone else
@marquisdesade (399)
• India
3 Nov 12
You are so right on saying that we should really listen to what others are saying. Personally, I don't always listen when I am mostly criticized or when the thing being said has no value to me. But I know if I listen to my criticisms I may be able to improve myself, and I may never know in advance when what piece of information may be of value to me. I am trying to be a good listener, though at times it is damn hard.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
I try to be a good listener to people who might be needing someone to vent out their feelings. I do feel bad not being able to provide them some advice. So I always make sure that when they approach me, I give my 100%.
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
3 Nov 12
I know i should give my 100% when people talk to me or need to vent or a friend and i don't I am trying to be better about this and to listen 100% but sometimes i just do't feel i can any advice on this please and thank you.
@pheenkeesh (103)
• Philippines
3 Nov 12
I'm usually the listener because I'm not really talkative. Although I admit that I sometimes get bored which I owe to my short attention span or if someone talks about a topic over and over and over again. You tend to give the usual responses of "uh-uh" to avoid being rude. I know it's wrong but sometimes all they need is a place to vent out or express themselves instead of keeping it all to themselves.
@kimberlyamores (11)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Nov 12
Listening doesn't always mean you have to give every piece of advice in everything that a person says to you. Listening is empathizing, understanding and just being there for a person who need you. You do not have to give advice if you are not asked to. Also, if you are not interested or is not comfortable with the discussion, you can be honest by saying your true feeling in a nice way of course.
