People Who Trespass

Maybe you should talk to them and tell them how you feel? In a nice way of course. They're still conspired family through marriage, either yours or your own siblings. For me, certain family members are so close to me that they can come and go as they please and even help themselves to whatever my kitchen has to offer, and the same goes for me in their homes. As a matter of fact, I can't think of non-family that has trespassed my place. I guess because everyone knows that me and my husband are very private individuals that we send this kind of message that we do not take kindly to unannounced visits and unexpected sleepovers, unless of course it's an emergency and an extreme need calls for it. Family is family afterall. We may be too private for outsiders but once they have squirmed into our hearts, we would also give them the same courtesy and love that we bestow to our own blood.

When I was little I was taught that when some one comes over to my house you are to treat them good make sure they dont need anything tell them to help them self. Its about hospitality. Making sure that people feel comfortable at your house. The fact that its family really makes this weird as when it comes to family my door is always open and my fridge is always full. Its not considered trespassing unless they are not welcome. The fact that its family means that they are welcome. I would try my best to make them feel comfortable as a guest. It seems that many people have forgotten how to be a good host when it come to company visiting. If it bothers you though you could try doing the same thing to them and see how they respond. If they say to you hey what are you doing you can tell them the same thing that they do when they come to your house and show them how it really is.

Hi Meiliyeppuda, I guess I am the opposite from you. Anyone who comes to my home that just walks in without knocking is almost always someone that I know real well and am very close to so it doesn't bother me although I will say that most of my friends do give a little knock and then open and come in. As for getting into my cupboards and refrigerator...I like my family and good friends to feel comfortable and at home while here so that does not bother me either.