What do you usually do to pass the hardest day in your life?

i agree with you that telling our problem to any people are sometimes dangerous. it can be like a blunder for ourselves someday. so it's wise to keep some parts for ourselves. yeah i do.agree with your statement. about my problem today i cant tell at all to others even to my husband. it's not an embarassing problem or else but it is untold cos i dont have right words to represent my feeling. it's so complicated and i become unhappy because of them. i really want to runaway but of course it is not the best way to solve my problem. so what i do now is only praying to God to decide what the best for me. im actually interested in going somewhere and spend my time alone but i cant do it rightaway cos i have to work and i have a family to take care of. but your idea is great and im very intersted in doing that soon..

im so sorry for the disaster. it is broadcasted worldwide so i know that disaster from TV. it's so horrible. thank God you and your family are in good condition.. yeah, turn our heart to God is the only way we can choose when we are in the condition like me. i pray to God to give light so i can find my way again after lost. today my problems seem unresolve but im sure that God wont let me having a burden beyond my ability i can bear. may i know what happen with your marriage? my relation with my spouse runs so bad these days, let's share. maybe we can lighten our burden by sharing..

Yeah it can be hard to express our feelings to others when we are trying to figure out how we feel. It is definitely a good thing to pray to God about your feelings. Reading the Bible regularly is also a good way to get comfort and encouragement. I would encourage you to read Proverbs. It has so many wonderful truths that can bring you comfort. I hope that in the future you will be able to take a trip by yourself like you would like. I'm not sure exactly the feelings you are dealing with but I hope that you find ways to get through them and find enjoyment in your life. I know when I think about my problems lately all the things that have been happening with the storms in the USA has really put things in perspective. Even though my daughter is a handful, I'm having problems with my marriage, and I want to find a full time job I'm thankful that our house isn't under water, or that I haven't lost someone close to me,etc like so many people have with all the hurricanes.

you said that you trust to your spouse to discuss and solve your hardest day. but how if your spouse is the one who makes your day become so tough? will you talk about that to your spouse too? is having communnication easy in your relationship?

you're lucky then. not like in my relationship with my spouse where communication is hard to build. i always try to tell everything what i feel to him but he seemed not to care of what i feel. he loves me n i know that but he's not too sensitive to.understand what i feel. while im too stubborn and easy to get angry when he doesn seem to understand my feeling. i sag frankly that today i freeze my relation with him cos i have been lazy to talk to him again. i keep silent fir days and let everything flows. i wont fight again for my relation..

Fortunately, communication is good in our relationship. Honesty plays an important part too. Yes, there were times when my spouse was the source of my troubled feelings; and those were the hardest time of my life... Yet, we still managed to talk through our feelings even if it caused some frictions between us. Sometimes arguments can lead to solutions as well.

yup, listening to music is relieving. i enjoy music too cos it has relaxing effect to our mind. but listening to music ony has a temporary effect and when i come back to reality, i will be depressed again. yeah i knw that our hardest days wouldnt go away just because of listening to music. those hardest days could last for days or weeks and i need to more than listening to music to heal my soul. unfortubately i really dont know whatf to do cos my brain is too frozen to think. but your idea is great. today i downoad some of my favorites song and i start to listen them to calm my mind down..

you're so positive, dear..and i like it very much..you have something i dont have: positive thinking. im maybe one of the most selfish people in the world. being grateful is so difficult for me. i know im totally wrong with this and i do hope i can change my bad behaviour. i need peopke like you to always remind me about blessings i get everyday and shout to my ears that i should appreciate it. i need people like you, dear. im so lonely. i dont ave good friends to share with since my mom passed away three months ago. and simething terrible li.gers in my kife and i need someone to cheer me up, i find nobody. my spouse cant take that kind of position so i become very lonely. so when i read your response, nothing i can say but you're so true. i need to be positive like you, being optimistic is the only thing i can do in my condition today. i must believe that days of tomorrow will be brighter than today. and you remind me about all of these that life could be so wonderful if we just believe. thanks for saying this honey. may God bless you..

you're so lucky having someone you can share your problem to. i dont have a petson i can share my problem or my feeling since my mother passed away. i'm married but i think my husband is not a good listener. he's not a sensitive person who can understand my feeling. he's an introvert person like i am. i dont try to find petson who can share to cos i think my problem is a kind of problem i cant tell to any people. actually i believe that telling our problem or feeling to others will help us to, at least, reduce our burden instead of solve it. but i dont have that kind of person anymore. so i just can keep it and let God do the right thing for me..

yeah..listening to.music is sometimes relieving..but for a very hard problem, just listen to the music is not enough cos when we are in a lowest condition, our heart and mind will be pushed to the limit that we dont know what to do and then get lost. i agree with your opinion but i need more than this. im so sorry if my words sound little rude but im really confused these days till songs no longer heal my soul..

i also really really want to do likr what you usually do when you have hardest day: stop activity and go somewhere. i have imagined beach or mountanious area or a forest to spend my times for a while till my heart calm down. but having picinic is a kind of activity i seldom do. i mostly spend my time working, staying at home doing house chores and taking of my family. i also dont have much money to have picnic. my husband is lazy too to have picnic. i often ask him to go somewhere to have picnic but he refused it. my life turns so boring. maybe it cause my hardest day becomes harder and harder cos i dont have idea to make myself comfortable..:(