Why would you want your firstborn to be a boy or a girl?

I have three kids. I wanted my first born to be a boy in order to protect his younger siblings. I come from a family of 8 kids myself. My brothers are the babies of the family. I noticed my boys are more dominate. Than if they were the last born, as my brothers are. As being the baby of the family with older sisters, they tend to turn out to be momma's boys. I didn't want that for my boys.

Oh. Yes its true. Either boy or girl, we can teach them to be responsible. It is not about gender. They are both equal though only society dictates that they are not equal. Even though I am a girl, I still want to have a firstborn to be a boy or I want to have children that are all boys. I do not know why. Maybe its my experience and the way I see in society between men and women, well, I still can't get over it. I still see boys are dominant within society when it comes to religion, politics and society.

In my home country girls and boys are equal. It doesn't matter if the first baby is a boy or a girl. However most people want the second to be the opposite gender. It is wonderful to have a boy and then a girl or a girl and then a boy. It must be less fun to have three boys and desperately want a daughter. If I had only one child I would have wanted a baby girl. I was lucky enough to get three children. Two sons and then a daughter. They are aged 17, 5 and 3 years old. I regret having such a big age gap. My 5 year old son is disabled. People say they want a healthy and normal baby. It is also special to have a disabled baby. Each child is an individual and it doesn't really matter for the first baby girl or boy.

Here in my place most want the first born to be a boy usually, the reason may be, when you are old that boy can support you, some don't need girls at all; because of the dowry problems, but how the world will run without girls? For me what ever god gives is ok, my first kid is a daughter, her first kid is daughter, my 2 son's first kids are daughters, we have the faith that girl is goddess Lakshmi, she always brings good luck with her.. Thanks for sharing, cheers. MERRY XMAS

Hi bing, I also do not have a preference, I wanted a child and it really does not matter if he is boy or girl as long as the baby is healthy and normal. But my husband would always say that he wanted a baby boy, and would explain that he doesn't want a baby girl because they are too girly and he thinks that he will find it hard to deal and take care of the kid. But I think that his statement was very ironic as he would always let his nephew to be with us. This kid has really mastered his craft haha. He would always pretend to be hurt or crying whenever he wants something. But if you still did not give what he wants, he would scream and would throw everything within reach. He has broke my TV and cellphone in the past and I was too disappointed that time. But I never really thought of not having a baby boy because of that. I really think that it would also depend on how the parents raise their children. Yes, kids do pass this stage that they are really hard to deal with but I know for sure that with proper guidance and love, they will be corrected.

I wanted my first born to be a boy and bam! i got myself a son last year! It really was an answered prayer to me, well, I liked a son because they need less maintenance, no pony tails, no clips, no ribbons. And a son is what my partner wanted too.

My husband wants to have a baby girl, I want to have a baby boy. In our family commonly my cousins are all girls, we may have few boys but as if girls are running the family. Women takes care of everything so I want to have a baby boy as my first child to help taking care of the family. My father was not blessed with a son, so I want them to have a grandson.

I was hoping to have a girl for my first born but that didn't materialized as my first born was a lbloy. I wanted so much to have a girl as the first born because I was thinking that she be able to help me around the house. Another boy came along two years later and that was it. I stopped at two but my wish to have daughters kept haunting me. So that pushed me to adopt two baby girls to complete my family.

I really would not have cared whether our first child was a boy or a girl. However, when our second girl was a girl, I was glad the first one was a boy. I thought he'd look after his little sister. For the most part. that didn't happen.

I think the stupid man or women who thinks such first baby should be boy. I have two girls and I feel happy God gives me girl because I know now both are same and my family also happy I born baby girl. My elder daughter is very intelligent she got married marks on 10th class. We both husband and wife not think about a borning child may be girl or boy.

I would prefer to have my first born child as a boy and the second a girl. This is because the boy who is born first would be able to take care of his little sister from childhood until adulthood. From the responsibility of taking care of the little sister, I expect the boy will later turned into a mature, loving, independent and protective young man. This will indirectly affect the way my children think and work out their lives.

To tell the truth, I want my first born to be a boy and a girl. But I think it is so hard. If there is only one choice, I want to have a boy. Hahaha...

Yes, you are right. It is not necessary which comes first as a firstborn child.I do not believe that guy is much tougher than girls. For some instances only not all. I knew one guy and he is my friend's brother. He is the oldest son among them. Their parents are very supportive with him emotionally, mentally, morally and financially. They do everything just for him to be a better person. But then, after he finished his studies, he did not do anything to give back to his family. He lived alone and become selfish. Their parents were hoping that after his studies he will look for a job and will help his siblings (one of them is my friend) but they were disappointed.It is said that guy is much tougher and more responsible than girls. That scenario I can say that I am against into that thought.

Hi! Just to share, my firstborn is a boy, which my husband really wanted. But personally I don't mind if it were a girl. I mean , you're right, every baby, every life is a blessing from our Lord Almighty. Just as long as the baby is healthy and fine, I think that you wouldn't ask for anything more, right?

Hi Bingskee! I do not think it matters really. The first born is typically a very responsible person. I read The Birth Order Book - it's very interesting. According to the author the firstborn - male or female - has the same characteristics. I was the oldest and I helped take care of the younger kids and as you can see - I am a girl!

I have a daughter and she will only be my baby since her mother got ligated right after she gave birth to her. During her pregnancy, I was expecting a baby boy. Because I want someone to carry my name. But that did not make me sad when she was born. I am happy to see her smile every morning when I glance at her.

Dear Ms Bingskee If I could select and choose, I would love to have a girl as my first child. I would say it is because my parents had only two boys as their children and we both always missed having a sister. I dont go by what the society feels but for me, a girl is more important as I feel (when I think about the families of friends and relatives) that it is a girl who makes the home a home, she completes a family. But then, as you mention, I also know, we dont have that liberty to select the gender of the baby and as such, I will have no issues if the baby was a boy. Though I would prefer to have a baby girl as my first born. And I know, if that happened, she would be a pampered girl

Hi, Having a male firstborn is considered a sign of good luck, boys being more prone to carry on the family name when married in the future, at least, that is the unspoken sentiments from around here. Girls are not quite welcome when born first and if it is the case, the parents are bound to wish for their second child to be born male. I have a co-worker here who has a first born female and when the second one turned out the same, I can sense their "disappointment" having wished for a male one. I have a first born male and the second one was a girl and my wife is quite content with the arrangement. Personally, I too, don't care much about the gender of my children as log as the born normal and healthy.

Hi bigskee! Like you, I always believe that children are gifts from God and we should treasure them. I have two children and my eldest is a boy but it doesn't mean that it would be a different thing if it is not the case. Have a nice day!

I agree with you on that, that the kind of person we become or our children will be doesn't have something to do with gender. But if ever in the future I will be pregnant and will be having my baby, I would like it to be a boy. I would like my eldest son to protect his siblings and to be as tough as he can be. My mother raised my eldest brother very well and I want my son to be somehow like my brother, A GOOD MAN.