Family Ties Vs. Tie Secrets
By marsfire05
@marsfire05 (163)
Philippines
November 6, 2012 4:00am CST
It hurts when secrets revealed in unexpected times. I know , secrets will never last long, but there are reasons for secrets. Like for protecting the feelings of the other members from the family. I am not involved directly, but I know I can do something to ease the tension. But should I go and dwell with it, or just leave it out all? I know anyone who can read this can't give direct suggestions or advises because I didn't discuss the whole scenario. But all I can say, I have to find something to vent it out, to calm my nerves. and I guess by writing here, it will help a little. I love my family, but I know, each member have their own life, but I can't agree to "deal with my own business", for they are my family. I have to do or say something...haaayyyyy....:(
3 responses
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
6 Nov 12
Family secrets... been there, done that... I was 11 when my grandmother slipped that unfortunately that my father had a first wife, and my mother is his second. I was in shock... not necessarily because I didn't know that (okay, a bit because of that, too), but because when I confronted them, they cussed out my grandma and me as well, because it's not my business and I'm stupid and selfish for thinking that I have the right to know it... but I think I do, because a child has a right to know everything about the parents...
@marsfire05 (163)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Your story is little bit similar to mine. Adults keep on telling youngsters that it was not their business if they were caught on something they tend to hide or mislead them. But I guess asking the questions and voicing out our thoughts could help everyone clear and settle the issues as earlier as possible. The damage have been there. The great thought is to when , how, where and the willingness to fix it instead of just ignoring it and thus making the damages grow bigger. Happy day ahead for you.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
6 Nov 12
If you think you can help with that particular issues in your family then you should not be hesitant in doing such actions to help or to ease the tension. You are after the peace of each of your family members anyway. You should think also the pros and cons of your actions if it will be for a good outcome of the involved family members of yours.
@marsfire05 (163)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Yes, I have been outweighing the benefits over the damage that I could have done if I will help and make a move instead of just letting myself be static by my thoughts and worries. And I guess, if my intention is good, outcome of my action will probably be good as well. Happy day ahead.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
6 Nov 12
Let this be your guide:
* How strong do you think would the impact be if your family knew about it?
* Will you be able to keep it to yourself?
* Who will benefit from it if you keep the secret?
* Can you do something about whatever/whoever it is and know what is the reason behind the issue?
@marsfire05 (163)
• Philippines
7 Nov 12
Your advises are helpful. I can use most of them to pick up and gather myself to make a move to help. Even though my help was not literally been demanded. Have a Great day ahead.
